After several days of fermentation, sexual harassment incidents stubbornly climbed into the hot search again and again.
One by one, the girls came forward to make accusations, but Shi Hang used "different degrees of interaction" as the reason, believing that these accusations were just "affectionate conversation" and "love inside the door".
Although many big Vs are selectively silent, civil discussion still supports the volume of topics, because sexual harassment in the workplace is indeed a pain point in society.
How are the boundaries between sexual harassment and flirting defined?
This is a dilemma that all girls can face.
It's not uncommon in the workplace, right?
The "seniors" in the company who came a month early, the department leaders who took the opportunity to talk about sexual privacy with employees to engage in "ice-breaking socialization", and the customers who put their hands on their thighs when they drank...
Behind the discussion of how to "hammer the salty pig hand" is actually a big discussion of coping strategies for sexual harassment in the workplace.
Teacher Luo Xiang posted a video about sexual harassment in the workplace two years ago, which mentioned some very useful information.
An important principle regarding the definition of sexual harassment is "against the will of another person". This means that "unequivocal opposition" is particularly important, much more important than many people think.
Many of the issues we are arguing today have already been concluded in the Women's Federation's Guidance Manual on the Prevention and Treatment of Sexual Harassment in the Workplace
When people say "No means No", it is not "why not eat minced meat", but all outside help and intervention require certain trigger conditions, and the clear "NO" is a grasp.
Whether it is the judiciary or the Women's Federation, when dealing with sexual harassment cases, it is necessary to make it clear that the suspect committed an act "against the will of women".
This time, some netizens played up the "Fake consent" as reasonable, saying that people tend to have their heads down in a specific oppressive environment, and agreed to the requirements put forward by the strong.
I can understand this sentiment, but no matter how fluid the evidence is, it is impossible to really pursue the free mind to "bypass the evidence", which should be the basis of all discussions.
Teacher Luo Xiang's suggestion is that evidence may exist when it disappears, so it is necessary to maximize the pursuit of retaining evidence.
He mentioned a real case, the extrajudicial madman Zhang San sent the drunken female employee "Xiaomei" back to the hotel, took advantage of her unpreparedness to touch the room, the next day Xiaomei woke up and felt wrong and immediately called the police, the public security organs extracted the man's DNA information from Xiaomei and brought him to justice.
I know that not every girl is as alert, brave and lucky as Xiaomei, but at least through publicity, girls should try to become Xiaomei.
It is precisely because evidence is easy to disappear that more preparation is needed, protection and fixation of evidence, voice recorders, chat records, can be the key to conviction.
There have been many girls who have been sexually assaulted, they burn their clothes when they were violated, take a bath repeatedly, hide the truth, and let men who might otherwise be punished by the law go unpunished - in 2023, let's not make the same mistake as Ruping again.
She even threw away Mengping's clothes...
It is not a mistake that human nature has never been lazy and cowardly, but it is only by confronting ugliness and overcoming human nature that it is possible to embrace justice.
The crushing advantage of middle-aged men over little girls mainly relies on scare
There is a saying that rightly that sexual harassment is about sex, and even more about power.
Many girls do things that go against their hearts when facing sexual harassment in the workplace, because under some systematic oppression, human behavior has been distorted and deformed.
For example, when Shi Hang said "greet your back informally", a girl responded: "Positive means that you have been snubbed."
The atmosphere then suddenly became "ambiguous", and some people on the Internet said very badly, speculating that the girl "had something to ask for", "was originally a cannon friend relationship", "the two were material exchanges"... In fact, there is no need to guess people in the bad.
In unequal status interactions, direct rejection is difficult, and you don't see that many workplace guides have a huge space teaching the technique of "polite refusal".
There is no distinction between men and women, how many people will pour wine on Party A's face because Party A said a few uncomfortable words? The reason why the cool text plot is cool is because ordinary people can't do it...
But this does not mean that ordinary people should be infinitely virtual and evil, and dare not even say a word "no".
One thing I think is very practical about Mr. Luo Xiang's video, sexual harassment like Shi Hang's is a typical "use of work convenience" to cause harassment, in other words, it is not a hardcore power relationship.
Several girls, including Xiao Mo, mentioned that they did not dare to tear their faces when they were harassed, because "all roads lead to history" in this circle, and if they offend him, those bigwigs with common interests and common feelings will block themselves.
Source: Xiao Mo
A senior celebrity who entered the industry early and became famous formed a "crushing" trend in all aspects for the little girl who entered the industry, as if all his will could not be violated, which is also the basic logic of similar "successful people" becoming habitual offenders of sexual harassment.
In fact, a closer analysis of this "power structure" will reveal that it is really not so frightening.
Let's just say that Shi Hang, a famous screenwriter who has not had a representative work for 10 years, is not directly subordinate to his superior, second, is not a management department, and is not an investor, and is not in the specific power structure at all, is he a veteran in the industry or a courtesan in the field of literature and art?
It's just a big guy who blows up, a puffed up and scares people's agouti.
It's the same in the workplace, where older men bluff in most cases, and you put up with their salty pig hands and pornography, but you can't actually share their connections.
Even if they have the resources, they don't necessarily set up a stage for a target of harassment.
On the other hand, if you don't follow their will, will you be forced to go to heaven and have no way to enter the earth like disobeying the chaebols in Korean dramas?
Obviously, there are not so many chaebols in the world, after all, the "whole person" also consumes resources, and the middle-aged greasy predecessors are not so single-handedly covering the sky, and that little resource is really not enough for the whole person.
A person can finally gain a foothold in the industry, and "noble help" may be useful, but in the end, it is through personal talent and hard work.
The seniors seem to "cover the sky with one hand", most of them are blown out of wine and food, and the big guys who can really cover the sky are probably not so easy for novices to see, let alone have in-depth contact.
Overturning is the inevitability of the times
From Zhou Xuanyi to Shi Hang, the bigwigs may also feel "aggrieved" from the heart, talk about literature and art, pile up concepts, talk to young women about life and ideals, touch their little hands and kiss their hair by the way...
They have always come over like this, they don't find anything offensive, why are they starting to "turn over old accounts" now?
That's because the "adults" don't know that times have really changed.
Not only did the "female awakening" make girls more and more courageous, but the way society as a whole ran quietly changed. Resource allocation is becoming more and more standardized, and it is becoming easier for young children to see the filth and distortion of lice under those gorgeous robes.
Source: Xiao Mo
Teacher Hong Huang complained very early: "First we have to talk about philosophy, first we have to talk about art, from the East to the West... From the French Revolution to the bourgeoisie, all this is over, it's three o'clock in the middle of the night, and the sexual matter has not yet been discussed... Chinese men just mind fuck first, first get your brain out, because your brain is gone, you can fiddle with it in bed."
Decades have passed, or this set, don't complain about the idea of overturning, greasy rollover, can only be said to be the inevitability of the times.
I believe that in the near future, the idealized situation described by Luo Xiang will appear more and more: girls will realize that being harassed is not shameful, let alone wrong, so it is a reasonable and natural response to explicitly refuse and retain evidence to prosecute.
Sister E's epilogue:
After saying "Girls help Girls" for so long, I think it is not that everyone gathers under a certain Weibo to scold more fiercely, but to solve real problems together.
Junming cried until the night, crying until the night, can you cry to death Dong Zhuo? The law is a weapon, so is public opinion, no one can guarantee that if you take up arms and fight, you will win, but first you have to fight.
Those who snorted melon seeds on the sidelines to analyze why they "lost" were never warriors.
Finally, to summarize the sexual harassment coping strategies from teacher Luo Xiang:
1. When complaining about sexual harassment, pay attention to five elements: personnel time, place, and property, and look for indirect or direct evidence.
2. When contacting the harasser, skillfully use tools such as audio and video recordings to record the sexual harassment process. When encountering an old ghost in the workplace, equip two mobile phones and pay attention to audio and video recordings at any time.
3. Keep mobile phone text messages, chat records, emails and other harassing electronic documents, do not feel disgusting and easily delete, disgusting is the other party.
4. Expressing no attitude towards harassment, including language and writing against rejection, or complaining and reporting to superior leaders, can be regarded as an expression against will.
Girls, remember that "saying no" is not only for your own help, but also for other girls who may be violated in the future.