In Haidian, at this time of year, there are parents around the junior high school, we have always "hidden" as far as possible, and wait for all the dust to settle before appearing.
Because at this time, the emotions of parents in the junior high school are the most unstable, especially if there are cows and babies at home, if they do not pay attention to the chat, it is easy to touch the thunder
In Haidian, the water at the beginning of the elementary school is much deeper than that of the middle school and college entrance examinations.
Many people feel that the country is too curly. How to say, where there are people, there are rivers and lakes.
Some time ago, I video chatted with my neighbor Vivian (old fans know that my neighbor friend Vivian has been taking the family to the United States for almost a year), she said that she entered the two children's learning and exchange group there, ignoring the group name, just looking at the chat content in the group, there is always an illusion of "going through the stage", thinking that she has entered a "Haidian chicken doll group"
I asked Vivian what the group was talking about, she pulled me in to "lurk" for two days, to tell the truth, I was really shocked - what learning machine, listener, super remember cow, eye protection table lamp, various famous books, the fox family's Three Kingdoms, Journey to the West, Himalayan story audio, the group owner also shares her private network disk resources from time to time (I looked at it, and the content in our domestic parents' online disk is basically synchronized)
Vivian said that when the epidemic first opened, the mothers in the group began to discuss what summer camp to take their baby back to China during the summer vacation, what research program to apply for, go on a study tour to the Forbidden City, or the Silk Road...
There are also those who want to come back to make up mathematics (with Gu Ailing back then)
Mother Mi thought that recently, the entry and exit halls in various districts of Beijing were overcrowded, all of them had expired passports to be replaced with new ones, most of them were elementary school students, and many of them had to take advantage of the summer vacation to participate in summer camps abroad.
Those at home want to go out, those abroad want to return, and the whole school-age child migrates
Then again, Chinese families are desperately trying to chicken babies in the United States, and it is not without reason.
Vivian said that after she went to the United States, she has been studying the United States' further education policy, after all, the two children in the family have studied and planned early. Research comes and goes, she said, really shocked and big-headed!
The United States is different from our country, like the imperial capital, whether it is the six small strong in Haidian, or the fourth middle school, the eighth middle school, Desheng, and Sanfan in Xicheng, these top cow schools are public, and in the United States, all parents who have a little pursuit of education are trying to stuff their children into private schools.
Aren't free public schools fragrant?
Let's tell an ancient story, but I really have a deep understanding.
Migrain's father had just come to the United States to study and was not yet 16 years old. Under the foolishness of the intermediary, he entered a free public middle school. As soon as he entered school, Mi Li's father found out that he had been deceived!
Public school teachers don't take their teaching very seriously, and most of them are just fooling around; There are few white students in the school, and as soon as school ends at 3 p.m., everyone hangs out on the street, smoking, drinking, and smoking marijuana; If any girl disappears at every turn, she is made to have a big belly and go home to give birth.
Although Migrain's father is only 16 years old, he secretly feels that something is wrong. He wanted to transfer to a private middle school a few blocks away, because private high schools can provide an elite education and make it possible to go to a top university.
He was not afraid of tigers as a newborn calf, took the bus directly to a private middle school, found the director of education, stated his strengths and strengths (grades in the first grade in public schools, athletes, student union cadres, programming experts, and made a website by himself in the third year of junior high school...). ), begging people to give him a scholarship.
At that time, Chinese students were very rare (now this trick is definitely not done), people were so impressed by his courage that they actually allowed him to audit a semester of classes, and if he was particularly good, they made an exception to give him a scholarship.
In the end, Migrain Dad not only successfully won a scholarship and entered a private middle school as he wished, but also became a math captain and a gold medal in the programming competition in that middle school where there were many cows... When applying to college, I also received a full scholarship to the cow school.
Education in the United States is divided into public and private, public schools are very simple, that is, to train the staff of this country, to put it bluntly, people who are engaged in basic work; Private schools, on the other hand, train the elites who will lead the country in the future.
So when you enroll, the school thinks about what you're going to bring to the school, to the country.
Children of the President of the United States, who have social resources; Billionaire children, who can donate to schools; The rest are students with sports talents and children with outstanding abilities, such as champions of mathematics, physics and chemistry competitions.
In the United States, the top 19 universities are all private schools, while only 26% of students in the United States have access to private schools. It's really hard for ordinary children.
If there is no family capital, you can only fight children, whether it is China or the United States, the same reason.
So what does private university have to do with private elementary school and private high school?
The admission of American universities is not like our unified college entrance examination in China, they want to enter the top famous schools, they have to go backwards to see which private high schools have a higher chance of applying to prestigious schools (like rice grain dad, if there is no transfer from public middle school to private middle school, the probability is that you will not be able to apply for any good university, let alone scholarships), and then go backwards from high school to see the admission of elementary schools and even kindergartens.
Private schools do not look at the school district house, but still have to pay for the "school district house", for example, your home is near Princeton, then the probability of your baby finally entering Princeton must be much greater, but you also have to bear the corresponding cost, such as New Jersey, the property tax is ridiculously high, maybe you pay enough tax to study in the west to attend a private school.
But for the sake of education, families relocating from the west to the east continue to flow in an endless stream.
(▲ This is the good news of North American learning and thinking, see what they are rolled into, like the first and second two children are so good, in order to go to UCI)
The gap between the east and west of American education is too big, as we all know, the Ivy League is in the east, the west coast is considered an "educational desert", and the top famous schools are only Stanford and Caltech. Of course, UCLA, USC and Berkeley, which have also been in a mess in recent years.
But the east, or the United States as a whole, is certainly New York. Vivian asked me: Do you believe that a two-year-old child is going to attend an interview?
Really an interview child. How to interview? A group of two-year-olds played together, each with a teacher taking notes.
For example, if a child cries, the teacher should record the reaction of other children, have you shown your kindness, your sympathy, and whether you have stepped forward to comfort the crying child.
We have all raised babies, is a two-year-old child you can control? Many two-year-olds haven't spoken yet. I met some restrained, slow-hot babies, hung on my mother for two hours, and the interview ended early.
But because of the interview of children, many social training classes have been spawned to train children on how to deal with such interviews. Training two-year-olds to socialize?! It is also drunk, but in the eyes of mothers who want to squeeze into private schools, it is a lifesaver
It seems that ah, the American rolls are more than the sea dian, although the taste is different, the recipe is the same strange
Before the rice grain mother wrote in "New York's Top Lady's Contempt Chain: I'm a Mom, I Need a Platinum Bag", in the Upper East Side, if you want to enter a high-end private school, you must first be in the kindergarten card slot, kindergarten is the most critical step in deciding for your child to enter a prestigious school, so the most powerful person on the entire Upper East Side is actually the kindergarten principal
First you have to apply in writing, then a parent interview, and then you can get the opportunity to interview your child.
A child's interview is called "trial play."
The kindergarten is very chicken thief, and the "trial play" time is arranged in the child's nap time. They will put a particularly novel and attractive toy in the middle of some less conspicuous toys. Just want to see how a group of tired babies react in such a scenario, who has more self-control and can line up, who can't bear the pressure when frustrated, the first to collapse.
The scene was chaotic, some children began to grab and push, and some children cried when they found that they could not get their turn. The surrounding parents were more nervous, and they didn't know whether to step forward to comfort or cheer up their children on the sidelines.
Kindergartens don't tell parents what to do, and parents' performance at this time is exactly what they want to evaluate. In this way, parents' educational means and adaptability are also clear.
It is often seen that after the "trial play", a mother with exquisite makeup helps her child put on a coat and cries just out of kindergarten.
Is it a sense of picture?
Why roll up so early? Because if the kindergarten or elementary school goes to a good private school, it will be easier to go to school later.
For example, what kind of elementary school students are admitted to Harvard Westlake Middle School, a top private school in California? Known as the top cow school of "Los America's six small strong", people also have their own corresponding primary schools, their own students, must be given priority. So that's why in the U.S., roll from the starting line.
In other words, before looking at the circle of friends, other friends living in the United States, they applied for private primary schools for their children, these old fathers and mothers, really did not work so hard to test Qingbei that year, it is said that the interview has to meet for more than an hour, and everything is detailed. Not exactly learning, but all aspects of life.
Of course, sports is also a very important one, our Chinese families generally do not pay so much attention to sports, but in the United States, there are not only "social classes" for two- and three-year-old babies, but also classes for two- and three-year-old children to train "core muscle groups"
To tell you the truth, Asian children are at an absolute disadvantage in their education in the United States.
For example, a black child gets 50 points, a white child gets 80 points, an Asian child gets 100 points, and so three children are on the same level. If they all scored 80, it would be a priority for black kids, followed by white kids, and finally Asians.
And boys are different from girls, they are also Asian, and girls are more likely to be admitted to prestigious schools than boys, so Vivian often complains to me that Chinese boys are directly at the bottom of the chain of contempt when they go to school there.
Although the west is an "educational desert", in Silicon Valley, it is still a mess, after all, they are all high-IQ parents, not only mother chicken dolls, Silicon Valley fathers are more chicken dolls, what Olympiad, California mathematics, Russian mathematics, Indian multiplication tables, Haidian major artifacts... It's just nothing to spare.
Fortunately, the private school in the United States has a "brother and sister" policy, if there is a sister at home, then the sister enters the private school, and the younger siblings behind are more likely, if it is like Vivian's family, it is a combination of brothers and sisters, let the boy take the lead, it will suffer a lot of losses
The rules are such that you can't break them, you can only adapt.
This is why most parents apply to private schools through agents or counselors. Because in addition to "polishing" yourself and your children to the extreme and "arming" to be invulnerable, you must also be clear about the various twists and turns in the process of further education, and know yourself and others.
Before, Mi Li's mother watched a documentary "Hello Future Humans", which made my blood boil.
Chen Yijia, the producer and chief director of this documentary, is the only female Chinese financial anchor in North America of Reuters and a special financial commentator for CCTV's overseas connection programs.
Chen Yijia has lived and worked in the United States all year round. After becoming a mother, she has a more direct feeling and experience of education.
She enrolled her child in the Genius Mother Tutoring Center in New York, where the 4-year-old child had to brush questions and do various training and tests under the guidance of the teacher.
Before Beibei wants to go to preschool, this kind of problem-brushing tactic that we Chinese parents and children are familiar with is a stepping stone for children to enter a good school.
Children who want to enter the genius class of New York elementary school have all attended similar extracurricular tutoring classes, what kind of prodigy, all the children who are admitted brush the questions, so that they can win in one fell swoop.
The progress of ordinary classes in American schools is very slow, and Asian-Americans, especially Chinese parents, cannot stand it
If you enter a public school in the United States, almost all Chinese and Indian families will spell the genius class.
In fact, this genius class itself is to screen smart and talented children, and the acceptance rate is only about 1%. American children test, that is really naked test, parents want to see if the child is a genius, and Chinese and Indian parents are desperate chickens, a large number of questions, memorizing formulas, after all, these have routines to follow, so the genius class is almost either Chinese children or Indian children.
Chen Yijia said that he used to think that American children's childhood was particularly relaxed, but later found that in the United States, there are as many parents in China who want their children to go to good schools, and they are also worried about it since childhood.
Booking a public tour of the school, the quota is to be grabbed, and if there are parents ten minutes late, there will be no places. It's really more nervous than my own college entrance examination
In the United States, gifted classes in public schools are examined; Many top private schools have to submit IQ test results when registering.
Compared with the United States, do you think that our Chinese parents are not so difficult
At least we are thrifty and thrifty - you can find 2,000 yuan / hour of famous teachers one-on-one make-up lessons, you can sign up for cost-effective online courses, you can also find a variety of free high-quality learning resources (just the rice grain mother recommended to everyone in the past two years, it is enough)... No matter what the process is, the final high school entrance examination is fair to all children.
What else is there to complain about?
As long as you have worked hard, knowledge is your own, ability is your own, skills are your own, achievements are your own, and no one can take it away.
Tell your child: Just run as hard as you can! Only by going all out can we run out of infinite possibilities!
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