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Zhao Baogang and Ding Xin met in the summer of 1984. At that time, Zhao Baogang starred in the TV series "Qi Ruifeng" in the TV series "Four Generations Together", an ordinary worker in Shougang, and became an actor and director of the Beijing Television Art Center; Ding Xin was the pillar of the Guangxi Repertory Theatre, and in early June of that year, Ding Xin came to Beijing to shoot films, and colleagues asked her to bring some local specialties to Zhao Baogang.
Zhao Baogang
Ding Xin came to the office building of the Beijing Television Art Center, where Zhao Baogang was reading the script. Ding Xin has the beauty and charm unique to southern girls, combing two braids, as pure as the dew on the flower buds. Looking at each other, Zhao Baogang's heart throbbed. And Zhao Baogang also aroused the tenderness of Ding Xin's young girl, he had thick eyebrows, big eyes, a large figure, and was as tall as a poplar tree in the north, satisfying Ding Xin's fantasy about his future boyfriend.
Zhao Baogang's parents are ordinary workers in Shougang, and Ding Xin's father is the head of the Guangxi Military Region, and the relationship between the two has been opposed by parents on both sides, which makes Ding Xin feel depressed. Zhao Baogang is 8 years older than Ding Xin, with the wisdom and calmness of a mature man, he encouraged Ding Xin: "The parents of both sides do not understand us, and we must have a psychological process to accept." As long as we have more contact with them, parents on both sides will definitely change their attitudes. ”
In the following days, Zhao Baogang and Ding Xin frequently interacted with each other's parents. After in-depth contact, the parents of the Zhao family felt that Ding Xin was knowledgeable and understanding, and did not have the arrogance of the children of high cadres to make it unattainable. And Ding Xin's parents also changed their views on Zhao Baogang, although he was born poor, but versatile, self-motivated, treating people and things with a bold atmosphere, is a rare good guy. In January 1986, amid the blessings of both parents, Zhao Baogang and Ding Xin held a low-key wedding in Beijing.
The couple settled their home in a 9-square-meter bungalow in Beijing's Dongcheng District. After his honeymoon, Ding Xin returned to Guangxi. At that time, Zhao Baogang received a salary every month, and the first thing he did was to run to the post office in a furious manner, queue up to make long-distance calls to his wife, and tell the pain of lovesickness. In October 1991, Ding Xin unexpectedly found out that she was pregnant, and she told Zhao Baogang the news with mixed feelings. At this time, Zhao Baogang is 36 years old, and his desire to be a father is particularly strong. Why doesn't 28-year-old Ding Xin want to be a mother? Can realistic conditions permit? She choked up and told Zhao Baogang on the phone: "You are in Beijing all year round, I am in Guangxi, and we can't see each other several times a year." If I give birth to a child, how can I be busy with having to go to work and take care of the child? I don't want to be a single mother with a husband. His wife's words were not unreasonable, and Zhao Baogang was silent.
A week later, Zhao Baogang took a leave of absence to come to Nanning, Guangxi, and accompanied Ding Xin to the hospital for abortion surgery. Walking on the street with autumn leaves drifting, Zhao Bao just leaned on the plane tree and couldn't help but sob with sadness... Ding Xin was also in tears.
The following year, Ding Xin saw that there was no hope of being transferred to Beijing, and he resigned from his job in the drama troupe and came to Beijing to reunite with his husband and became a "North Drifter". At this time, although Zhao Baogang co-directed influential TV series such as "Longing", "The Story of the Editorial Department" and "Imperial City Roots", his economic conditions still did not change much.
One morning, when Zhao Baogang was washing, he suddenly found that the corners of his eyes in the mirror already had fine crow's feet, and he said to Ding Xin quietly: "I am not young anymore, we should have a child." Ding Xin sighed: "Let our children live in such a narrow bungalow as soon as they are born?" Bao Gang, I have long wanted to be a mother, but I always want to create better conditions for my children. Zhao Baogang agreed with Ding Xin's idea.
Ding xin
Soon, Zhao Baogang gave all the family's small savings to his wife, and Ding Xin used the money to rent a house in an office building near Sanyuanqiao in Beijing and registered Xinbaoyuan Consulting Service Co., Ltd., which operates the distribution and promotion of film and television dramas, script planning and other businesses. At the beginning of the business, it was difficult, Zhao Baogang went around shooting all year round, and handed over all the hard-earned money to Ding Xin for the company's operation.
Under the hard work of Ding Xin, the company's assets reached more than 30 million yuan after 4 years. Zhao Baogang has also become a domestic first-line director because of his director of popular film and television dramas such as "Addiction", "A Matter of Wind and Snow", and "Never Look Away". Both couples became elites in their respective fields, and the family's economic conditions changed dramatically.
Because there is no child bondage, Zhao Baogang and his wife believe in the reins of the horse and are free. Sometimes the two were still in Beijing in the morning and had already flown to Huangshan in the afternoon; they could often party with friends until late into the night... Seeing that other couples quarreled over the different opinions of educating their children; seeing that some parents were distressed because of their children's learning and employment problems, Zhao Baogang and Ding Xin sighed with emotion: they did not expect that children were so troublesome. Suddenly, the couple's thinking changed suddenly, thinking that it was better to be a "Dink" family, and they dismissed the idea of having a child.
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This free, free "Dink" family life is a few years in a flash. As they grew older, Zhao Baogang and Ding Xin always felt that something was missing in their lives. In 2000, Zhao Baogang was 46 years old, and Ding Xin was also 38 years old. In June of that year, the couple went to a friend's house, and the friend's 11-year-old son was like a naughty elf, playing games on the Internet, and throwing his father's hat in the air... The hostess nagged and counted down her son's not, complaining about the hardships of raising her son, but Zhao Baogang and his wife could clearly feel that the other party's tone was full of happiness and sweetness.
Leaving his friend's home, Ding Xin's emotions have always been intimidating. Zhao Baogang held her hand: "What's wrong with you?" Ding Xin's eyes were suddenly covered with a layer of rain and fog: "I envy my friends, their children are so cute!" Zhao Baogang didn't speak, just sighed heavily.
That night, Zhao Bao just woke up in the middle of the night and found that his wife was not yet asleep. He was surprised to see that his wife's eyes were full of tears. Zhao Baogang reached over his wife: "You have nightmares? Ding Xin shook his head, and his voice was heart-wrenching and grumble: "Bao Gang, if we didn't do that child back then, he (she) was also 10 years old, and it was time to go to elementary school." I have imagined in my mind countless times the image of him or her, the child's nose like you, the eyes like me. As he spoke, Ding Xin began to cry. Zhao Baogang's heart was also like a sponge soaked in water. He comforted his wife bitterly: "Alas, life is not perfect, this is life." If we can turn back the clock 10 years, we must have a child of our own. In the darkness, tears flowed down Zhao Baogang's face...
In April 2002, Ding Xin, who had reached the age of 40, began to inexplicably anorexia, vomit, and drowsiness, and his legs appeared puffy. Zhao Baogang accompanied his wife to the hospital for examination, and the doctor congratulated them and said: "You are going to be a father and mother, Ding Xin has been pregnant for two months." The arrival of happiness was so unexpected, Ding Xin was in tears, and Zhao Baogang was also so excited that he choked up and couldn't speak...
That night, Zhao Baogang went online to inquire about how to take care of elderly women and improve their nutritional structure. A message on the Internet burned his eyes like a red soldering iron: studies by many authoritative medical institutions at home and abroad have shown that after giving birth, the probability of depression in elderly women is 20 times higher than that of women of appropriate age. Children born after the age of 40 have poor physical fitness in the future, and the probability of suffering from autism and schizophrenia is very high...
Zhao Baogang's heart suddenly became half cold, he was 48 years old, and his wife was over 40 years old, and he was no longer young. When you are 70 years old, your child has not yet graduated from college, can you bear the responsibility of a father in the long process of growing up? He said seriously to Ding Xin, "We can't ask for this child." "Why?" Zhao Baogang told his wife the news on the Internet and his own concerns. Ding Xin's face was full of sadness: "I don't care, even if he (she) is a fool, I will raise him (her)!" ”
The motherhood and courage of his wife infected Zhao Baogang, yes, he could still become a father at the age of 48, which was the favor of heaven for them. He emotionally told his wife: "I respect your opinion, he or she can become a family with us in the future, it is because of our relationship!" ”
Two days later, Zhao Baogang accompanied his wife to Anzhen Hospital to consult obstetrics and gynecology specialists. Experts told them: "When children have children in their later years, not 100% of children will have defects, but the probability of suffering from hidden diseases is higher." Many people in their sixties and seventies have also given birth to healthy and cute babies! You are not yet 50 years old, as long as the mother is emotionally stable, calm, and pay attention to nutrition, there should not be too much of a problem. Then, the doctor told them: "After the child is 6 months old, the body has basically been formed, and at that time, you come to do the fetal examination, and whether the child's body is faulty or not, you can fully see it." The doctor's words were objective and responsible, and the worries in the hearts of Zhao Baogang and his wife were alleviated a lot.
In July of that year, Zhao Baogang went to Canada to shoot the TV series "Farewell, Vancouver", and in order to take care of his wife, he also took Ding Xin with him. The first thing he did when he came to Canada, Zhao Baogang accompanied his wife to the local Chinese hospital for a fetal examination, and the doctor made a comprehensive examination for Ding Xin and told them: "The fetus is developing well, everything is normal!" "Because of the excitement, the old husband and wife hugged each other like a newlywed couple and cried...
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On December 5, 2002, Ding Xin delivered a 7.2-kilogram baby boy by caesarean section at Vancouver Hospital. At this time, Vancouver was covered with snow, and as he watched the snowflakes lash out the window of the delivery room, Zhao Baogang's heart flowed with the warmth of spring. The delicate little angel lay quietly on the delivery bed, his face shape, eyebrows and nose resembled his own, his mouth was no different from his wife, and Zhao Baogang had mixed feelings.
Zhao Baogang family portrait
The son is a continuation of the life of Zhao Baogang and his wife, and they were born in the Year of the Horse, and the couple added their surname to their son's name and named zhao Martin. After the Spring Festival in February 2003, "Farewell, Vancouver" was successfully completed, and Zhao Baogang returned to Beijing with his wife and children with the crew.
When the child was less than 1 year old, he was often sick, and every time he took him to the hospital for injections, his son cried and tore his heart and lungs, and the crying was like a knife cutting through Zhao Baogang's heart. Later, Zhao Baogang summed up a method, whenever the child was injected, he pointed to the electric lights on the roof, the murals on the wall and the scenery outside the window, and told him one by one to divert the child's attention. Before you know it, the nurse finishes the needle and the child doesn't feel anything. This made Ding Xin feel a thousand emotions, it was the role of dad, which made Zhao Baogang, a sloppy man, have more wisdom in life.
Zhao Baogang and his son
Generally speaking, parents are very doting on their children, but Zhao Baogang is extremely strict with his son. When Little Martin was 4 years old, Zhao Baogang let him sleep alone in a room; the child fell, he did not help, nor did he let Ding Xin pull the child up, he had to stand up by himself. The child had a dispute with the children in the courtyard, crying and crying and going home to complain to Zhao Baogang, who seriously said to the child: "You have caused your own troubles, and you will solve it yourself." Every summer, Zhao Baogang also sends his son to live with relatives in the countryside for a few days, so that he can feel the hardships and difficulties of peasant children. Therefore, although Zhao Martin was "born with a golden key", he did not have the kind of coldness, stubbornness and self-righteousness that are common to the children of the most wealthy families.
As a famous director, Zhao Baogang single-handedly won a large number of stars such as Jiang Shan, Wang Zhiwen, Lu Yi, Xu Jinglei, Sun Li, etc., and enjoyed the reputation of "star-making master". Because there are often beautiful women around him, some irresponsible media often spread gossip about him out of nothing.
Zhao Baogang with his son
Ding Xin believed in her husband very much, but the scandal spread a lot, and she felt depressed in her heart. In August 2007, Zhao Baogang and his wife attended a cocktail party at the Kunlun Hotel in Beijing. Friends in the circle and Zhao Baogang joked: "There are so many beautiful actresses around you, don't you have any ideas?" Zhao Baogang played a poor mouth: "This is a secret, I can't tell you!" "Everybody's happy.
Back at home, Ding Xin lost his temper with Zhao Baogang: "Are you really in a situation outside?" If that's the case, I won't drag you down. Zhao Baogang's face turned white in a hurry: "You also know that it is a social remark on the scene, how can you take it seriously?" Ding Xin quarreled with her husband and threw a cup on the coffee table to the ground. Little Martin timidly walked over and said to Zhao Baogang: "Dad, is it that I am disobedient, and you and your mother quarrel?" Then, he walked over to Ding Xin again and said with a crying voice, "Mom, I will be obedient in the future, don't you quarrel with your father?" ”
The son's well-behaved and sensible behavior made Zhao Baogang and Ding Xin feel very bad in their hearts, and the couple fell into contemplation... That night, Zhao Baogang had a long talk with his wife: "We are now parents and mothers, and we can't argue like before, otherwise how much psychological harm will be caused to the children!" Since we have given birth to a child, we are responsible for his growth. A heartfelt remark resonated with Ding Xin, yes, he was a little careful, if the husband had half-heartedness, wouldn't they be separated when they were young? If he didn't really love this family, would he still be a father at the age of 50? Understanding this, Ding Xin's confused state of mind suddenly opened up.
In February 2008, Zhao Baogang filmed the classic TV series "Four Generations Together" near Beihai Park in Beijing. This time, he did not join as a director, but played the villain "Guan Xiaohe", so that Zhao Baogang became the only actor in the mainland who played an important role twice in the remake of the classic drama. Because of the tight schedule, Zhao Baogang has more than 700 scenes, and he can only sleep for a few hours a day, which is a great challenge to the body.
On February 22, Ding Xin boiled chicken soup, filled it in a thermos bucket, and brought his son to the crew to visit her husband. The family of three gathered under the birch tree of the crew, and little Martin saw that his father's ears were frozen red, and touched it with his hand: "Daddy, your ears are so cold!" After saying that, he took off his earmuffs and put them on Zhao Baogang's ears. Seeing that his father's hair was disturbed by the wind, Martin took out a small comb from his mother's bag and combed Zhao Baogang's "big back" neatly. Drinking his wife's "love chicken soup" and enjoying the intimate care of his lovely son, Zhao Baogang truly felt that happiness was so real!
At the end of April this year, Zhao Baogang returned home from revising the script "Beijing Youth" in Zhejiang, and Because of the days of hard work, Zhao Baogang had a headache. Ding Xin patiently massaged her husband. Little Martin ran over to him, stretched out his chubby little hand, and followed his mother's example and pressed it on Zhao Baogang's head: "Daddy, does your head still hurt?" Ding Xin teased him: "If you blow with your mouth, Daddy will not be in pain." Little Martin really puffed up his mouth and blew air on Zhao Baogang's forehead. Suddenly, the flesh and blood family affection that was connected by blood spread through Zhao Baogang's atrium...
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