Introduction: In the recent "Teenagers Say", Chen Baoyi, an eighth-grade girl at Shanghai Suntech Middle School, took to the stage to express her gratitude to her mother. When Chen Baoyi was six months old, she was found to be born deaf, and since then her mother has taken her around to seek medical treatment, and doctors have said that there is basically no possibility of cure. But her mother was not willing to give up, and despite the family's poverty, she bought her a hearing aid.
Mom began to train her to listen, teach her, although the learning is very slow, mom patiently repeat many times, a practice is a whole day, when Chen Baoyi wants to give up, the mother will be angry to punish her, and then encourage her.
So persevering, finally at the age of 6, she learned to speak. Chen Baoyi said that a child like her should have gone to a school for the deaf and mute, but at the mother's insistence on going to a normal school.
Because of listening problems, I can't keep up with the notes in class, and I need to make a lot of effort after class. The mother saw that her daughter was studying very hard, and she was distressed, and blamed herself for letting her daughter go to normal school. On the stage, the girl said loudly, "Mom believes in me, I will not be easily defeated", and when she got offstage, her mother hugged and encouraged her for the first time, praising her for speaking very fluently.
Some netizens commented: Lucky little girl, with such a strong and excellent mother, her life is completely different. To cultivate a special child into a normal teenager full of confidence and will, with unimaginable efforts behind it, behind every excellent child is an excellent mother.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="56" >01, the child's excellence is inseparable from the mother's upbringing and upbringing: nurturing</h1>
The first step in raising children to adulthood is to raise them, and from birth, the baby is the focus of the whole family, while the older generation and the younger generation often have very different views on feeding methods. The elderly take traditional experience as a reference, and the young parents advocate scientific feeding, in their eyes, the experience of the elderly is simply incredible, there is no basis, and the elderly do not trust the young people to follow the books and lectures.
Many families even have contradictions because of differences of opinion, in fact, to clarify a little, the baby's parents are the leading role in raising children, the elderly are auxiliary, do a good job of positioning, naturally there will be no contradictions. Moreover, the two generations communicate with each other rationally and reasonably, according to the correct method, after all, the purpose is the same, they all want to raise healthy babies, so they should be raised scientifically and rationally.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="59" >02, teaching: words, teaching by example</h1>
The child's world is very simple, at first they have no boundaries for anyone and things, no rules, make mistakes, do not correct in time, he does not realize that this is not right, has not been corrected, this mistake has been committed. The small mistakes that seem today have grown with him until he goes to society, and he can't handle it and regret it.
Parents need to develop a code of conduct for their children, in daily life, tell him what to do under what circumstances and what not to do, so that children have a sense of rules.
Children are natural imitators, and from an early age they observe the words and deeds of those around them and imitate them. Family members who often get along are very emotionally excited, and the child is bound to be emotionally unstable and irritable. Parents have time to play games and watch TV, then the child may not be able to consciously learn in the future, nor will they manage themselves, in their eyes games and television are of course more fun than learning.
Parents are helpful, children will be kind, parents and the people around him every word and deed, the way of doing things, good and bad will be engraved in his heart like a brand, he will be used in similar scenes in the future, this is the importance of teaching by example.
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In the process of education, there should be a degree, the child is an independent individual, not a subsidiary of the parents, no matter how old the child, he needs respect and needs free space. Most parents think that their children are young, have no opinions, avoid detours, use their own boxes to demand their children, are too tightly constrained, and have no freedom. Growth requires a process, everything gives children the opportunity to experience first-hand, wrong and then start again, so that growth is profound.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="66" >04, demonstration</h1>
Teach the child to do what he can, although he may learn very slowly, and may also do the results are not satisfactory, but doing his own things, the labor within the scope of ability, is an effective way to cultivate his independence and self-consciousness.
Mom can show him, teach him to learn, there are methods in the process, there are encouragements. Such behavioral habits, when used in later learning, become conscious initiative.
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In the process of growing up, at every stage, parents and children will have conflicts of opinion, and there will be inconsistency in behavior and thinking. Parents learn to listen, if the child's ideas are reasonable, then it is necessary to recognize and support, if there is no reason, it needs to be corrected, then it needs to be patiently guided.
If the suppression is bound to cause his resistance, it is rebellious in adolescence, and I cannot obey everything because I am a mother. The Liang Shanbo and Zhu Yingtai effects, Juliet and Romeo effects are also applicable to educating children, and the more they hit, the more obstructive they are, the more resistant they are.
Children have a natural dependence on their mothers since birth, and in the family, mothers spend the most time with their children. Therefore, the mother's words and deeds, ideas, personality and habits have a profound impact on their children, and even accompany them throughout their lives.
epilogue:
As an important leader in the process of growth, the mother teaches her best side to her children, so that he can inherit the advantages to the greatest extent, so that the children are excellent, and the mother must be qualified first. Nurturing and teaching are very important, do not suppress, do a good job of demonstration, follow the good temptation, is the wisdom of the mother.
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