The three adopted sons do not beat each other, and their hearts are too tired.
Have you ever heard what it means not to hit the house for three days? Do you doubt or have you ever heard of eating hard or soft? Talk well and never listen, you have to yell and scold him to do what I asked him to do. These are often used to describe boys. And what I just said about not hitting the house for three days represents that boys must have principles, rules, and visible rules to suppress his testosterone, to suppress him so that he does not go to the room. There is also eating hard and not soft, talking well and never listening, you have to yell two sentences and scold him to listen. It also means that the boy prefers to listen to direct instructions, and he does not like to listen to nagging.
Whether it is not to hit the house for three days, or to eat hard or soft to listen to it, it is a matter of action. I repeat, don't leave a message under other bloggers, saying that there is a blogger named Mei Tiantian, telling us that boys can't empathize, boys can't be reasonable.
The boy directly gives instructions, I talk about the problem of action, what is the instruction, the instruction is the retelling of behavior, and then read with me what is the command behavior plural, please brush your teeth is the behavior he wants to do, use your mouth to repeat it, so that he can quickly know what I need to do at the moment.
If he doesn't brush his teeth, you can't nag and reason, because he doesn't understand, boys can only do one thing at a time, you nag so much, you scold him so much You still talk so much reason, he doesn't know what you're doing, he thinks you're a bully, he feels that at the moment he didn't brush his teeth, you can't do anything with him, so he won't brush his teeth. Understand the problem of lack of action, he has a node is 4 years old, before the age of 4 you will find that you go to play games with the boy, or accompany him, he can basically complete.
But after the age of 4, what we have to cultivate is the child's independent mobility, he can brush his teeth by himself, he can dress himself, he can go to the kitchen to help you get something, there is no need to compete or anything. And in the face of this particularly naughty husky-style boy, the boy who can't sit still, if he doesn't beat him twice a day, he will be uncomfortable boys, and he must figure it out that if he wants to simplify his in terms of action, he has to brush his teeth, tell him directly to ask you to brush your teeth, and again please brush your teeth.
Have you seen the Monkey King? Ever seen a splash monkey? Your husky boy is a bit like a little monkey, like Sun Wukong, can he listen to the Tang monk telling him so much reason, he will only cover his ears and say that you are bored to death. What he needs more is Tang Monk Gang Wukong, you can help me draw the circle now." I'm going to eat something, and I will draw a circle for him directly. The master then said Goku thank you for being awesome, he will be especially happy. This is in the face of the problem of action, especially boys, we try to give clearly, you directly want him to do the thing, you repeat the behavior he needs to do that thing, repeat him to do, give him positive feedback after doing it, you can stimulate him to do that behavior next time. This is how action is cultivated for dry boys. Unconsciously said that there must be someone behind to urge, because the sensitive period of behavioral order is 6 and a half years old, about 1 and a half to 6 and a half years old. So at this stage, the child needs you to tell him what he needs to do, and you directly want to simplify what you need him to do, and he can do it well. As for the problem of encountering emotions, or when talking about picture books at night, go to talk to him about the truth of life, and empathize with him to deal with emotional problems. I don't think there's a problem. This is raising a boy, and we need to distinguish when it is a matter of action. When is it a matter of emotions. When to give direct instructions is also a repetition of behavior, when to go. Through the three-step method of emotions, recognize emotions and empathize with emotions to give choices, let him come out of emotions and deal with emotional problems.