Text | equinox
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Recently, the phrase "the first sword on the shore, the first person to behead" has suddenly become popular on the Internet, in fact, such a "advancement is to change the people around you" has been around for a long time, and it is not new.
In ancient times, poor scholars were killed on the way to Beijing to rush for the exam, and were rescued by ordinary young ladies, swearing that the champion in the exam would come back to greet his relatives, but as a result, he won the champion and forgot the young lady early; Others have already married wives, and after passing the examination, in order to become a horse master, they immediately repudiate their wives.
These are all the "white-eyed wolf" stories told in the play, but art comes from life, and there are many similar things happening around us.
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Li Li and Shao Feng fell in love when they were in college.
Shao Feng is Li Li's senior, one year older than her. When I first met Shao Feng, I was at the freshman registration place. Shao Feng wore a white short sleeve and a pair of blue jeans, "Hello, senior sister." It was the first word between them.
The day in September was still very hot, from reporting to introducing the campus to moving luggage to the dormitory, Shao Feng introduced her very warmly, without a trace of impatience. Li Li followed behind Shao Feng, watching his sweat drip from his forehead to his cheeks and then down, and his heart was a little throbbing.
"Senior sister, where are you from?" "Guizhou" "Really? Me too..." From the same place, Li Li had more closeness to Shao Feng, and after the two sides added WeChat to each other, Shao Feng trotted downstairs.
Li Li watched Shao Feng from the balcony, the wind pulled his white short sleeves, and he turned around and waved at Li Li.
Li Li recalled over and over again the scene when she first met Shao Feng. Recalling over and over again, Shao Feng looked green and nervous when he confessed.
He said he was going to take care of her for the rest of his life. Even because of nervousness, he grabbed the corner of his clothes.
After confirming the relationship, Shao Feng accompanied her to class, sent her brown sugar water, and worked as a temporary worker for three months to buy her birthday gifts. After talking for four years, the two are still so affectionate, and the roommates are red-eyed.
Li Li really couldn't imagine that Shao Feng's appearance in these impressions was the same person who told her to break up on WeChat.
"Let's break up."
"My mom asked me to find someone in the right house to marry."
Shao Feng went ashore, and before Li Li could congratulate him, he received two messages in succession.
When Li Li reacted and called to inquire, Shao Feng on the other end of the phone spoke indifferently, and the four-year relationship suddenly disappeared. "So be it, gather and disperse, don't get entangled." After saying this, Shao Feng hung up the phone.
"The first sword on the shore, the first to cut the person in the heart".
This sentence has been circulating in the Kao Gong circle, and Li Li did not expect that this sword would cut into herself.
In fact, there are many people who, like Li Li, are abandoned by the object of going ashore.
@卡比兽
I didn't even understand what the phrase "first sword on the shore" meant, until I met my parents, discussed the marriage date, and my boyfriend, who was engaged at the end of the year according to the plan, said to me after being admitted to the civil service, "The family said that when you fall in love, you have to find what you like, and you still have to find a suitable one for marriage." It dawned on me that the greatest self-righteousness of people is that others have the same conscience as themselves.
@木同学
When he chased me, he said that if he went ashore first, he would wait for me and would never let me stay alone in the water. As a result, he really went ashore to make up the direct business of the province, and told me that there was no future. I felt like I had learned a lesson, and I lost money to him all the time.
@留云
Last summer, my boyfriend successfully went ashore for graduate school. After that, when he was video chatting with me, he suddenly started accusing me of not working hard, saying that he didn't like my this one and wanted to chase the class flower of their class.
@蒲公英
"With my identity, what beautiful girl can't be found?" In the fifth year of marriage, he was admitted to the prosecutor's office, and then he divorced me. Because I was not in good health and often needed someone to take care of him, he was afraid that I would affect his future. The child was just over a year old, he did not want to fight for the custody of the child, said that he would either let me take it away or raise it for his mother, he picked himself up clean, and did not want to be responsible for anyone.
"After successfully entering graduate school and editing, the first thing to do is to break up with objects outside the system and universities." Many people take it as truth.
Going ashore means a new level and a new stage in life, so it is time to abandon your old partner and start a new life.
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I wonder how you feel when you hear these stories? My first feeling is that this is not the contemporary Chen Shimei, through the postgraduate and public examinations, out of a batch of Chen Shimei.
"The poor and the poor must not be forgotten, and the wives of the scumbags do not go to court" These have long been left out of the clouds.
Not only the public examination, in fact, the upper position is also counted.
Venus once complained about an actor's private affairs on the show:
An actor surnamed S was not popular in his early years, and he exhausted his ambitions in order to pursue his sister, who had more acquaintances in the circle more than a decade older than him.
When my sister was hospitalized, the little actor personally cooked soup to see her, and my sister was very moved. In order to make the actor popular as soon as possible, the eldest sister even knelt down and asked the director to let the actor enter the crew to film.
Later, the actor became famous and became more and more popular, but he proposed to his sister to break up. My sister asked him why, and he said: Do you think we are a good match?
As soon as the matter was exposed, many media speculated that the actor was Sun Honglei and her sister was Ding Jiali. Who Venus said got the truth, we don't know.
But in these cases, in the final analysis, what they are looking for is not love, but a risk resistance.
The ultimate goal is for power, money.
In this regard, the decision to "cut off the right person" could not be easier.
A netizen posted on Douban, saying that his ex-boyfriend was like a different person after being admitted to the civil service: he opened his mouth and closed his mouth about "new contradictions in the new era", alienated his former friends and classmates, and took the initiative to ask to break up with the girl, on the grounds that "each other's comprehensive quality is no longer at the same level."
Because her girlfriend is not familiar with the new era and new contradictions, she feels that she does not match her own pattern and class, and her comprehensive quality is not at the same level.
A change in class brings about a gap between people, and the fragility of love is visible.
Nothing is static, except for their own ability, they do not belong to themselves, they cannot grasp it, even if two people once swore a mountain alliance and swore to grow old together, it was just an empty word.
Some time ago, the "bureau style" began to become popular in the market: these young guys in their early twenties, imitating the dresses of leaders in the system, molded themselves into mature and heavy retired cadres.
Are they just dressed to follow the trend? In fact, it is for the identity and power that this dress represents. The boys in the system are the sweet potatoes in the blind date corner.
Márquez wrote in "Love in the Time of Cholera" that the worldly benefits: security, harmony and happiness, when combined, may seem like love, but they are almost equal to love.
"Almost equal" but not love after all.