"They are all trying to reform each other, and they are trying to resist each other's transformation. You have me, I have you. ”
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#Chen Xiaochun Ying Cai'er is so good#, married for 11 years, they are in the #Thorny Brother # this variety show, look at each other's eyes are still full of tenderness and sweetness.
Many netizens said: I know that they are a model couple, but when I see them looking at each other's eyes, I still break the defense.
At the same time, at the 2015 Friendship Years Concert, when Chen Xiaochun sang "Relying on Each Other for Life", the scene of interaction between the two people brushed the screen again.
Chen Xiaochun was still pulling his face a second ago, singing on the stage, and saw Ying Cai'er wearing a bow on his head and constantly playing strange calls, and he turned into a spoiled face in seconds.
"You're making trouble, I'm laughing" love, probably only this is it.
On Valentine's Day 2010 (the first day of the Lunar New Year), Chen Xiaochun and Ying Cai'er's wedding was held in a small church in the United States.
At the wedding, Chen Xiaochun signed this long-publicized "deed of sale" in public:
In the future, I will live a very happy life, and every month my income will be handed over to you, and my pocket money will be at your disposal. I am responsible for the utilities of the building, what brand you want to buy is with you, the most important thing is that you like.
I take care of the housework at home, and I want to give birth to boys and girls.
Be kind to your family, welcome your father-in-law and mother-in-law to come to my house for a long time, and check every day whether I have bullied you.
Will be nice to your girlfriend, and introduce her to a boy who recognizes a good one.
I will be very gentle with you, accompany you for life, in short, starting today, I will only have you in my life.
Baby, I love you.
Now 11 years later, Chen Xiaochun said and did it.
There are always people who say that love will fall flat with marriage.
However, this sentence does not hold true for Chen Xiaochun and Ying Cai'er, and their love seems to be getting sweeter and sweeter after marriage. This made the majority of netizens directly call out" as long as Chen Xiaochun and Ying Cai'er are still together, they believe in love." ”
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Parents always tell their children when choosing a mate: marriage should find the right door, so that it is easier to get along with, and there will not be too much conflict of opinion.
In this way, Chen Xiaochun and Ying Cai'er must not be a good match in the hearts of their parents. Because their original family and growth experience are too different.
For example: #Chen Xiaochun was born in a poor rural family in Guangdong.
When he was a child, he was naughty and always ran out to play, and he would be chained by his father and let him take care of his younger siblings at home.
Fathers have a black face every day and do not allow their children to make the slightest sound, cannot watch TV, and cannot speak.
At the age of 13, Chen Xiaochun's family came to Hong Kong, and life was even more difficult. Chen Xiaochun's youngest brother was "sent" to someone else by his parents in exchange for 3,000 yuan.
One day, his father told Chen Xiaochun that he was going back to his hometown in Guangdong. His father never returned, and Chen Xiaochun, who had just entered the first year of junior high school, was forced to drop out of school and start supporting his family.
Still a child laborer, he had to do hard work: as a carpentry and decoration worker, Chen Xiaochun's hands were often full of wooden thorns, and every night his mother picked him one by one under the lamp; when he went to the canteen to do a running hall, the customer found a fly in the meal, and Chen Xiaochun was forced to eat the fly to calm down.
Once, when cutting the hair of a guest, I learned that TVB was selecting dancers and could get 700 yuan a month. From a young age, he was physically coordinated and flexible, began to imitate video tapes by himself, practiced over and over again, and successfully joined the TVB dance artist training class.
After the training, Chen Xiaochun became a formal accompanist and danced for Mei Yanfang, Zhang Guorong, Lin Yilian and so on.
Soon, Chen Xiaochun got the opportunity to shoot "Ancient Puzzle Boy" and won the role of brother pheasant for himself.
In 1996, "Ancient Puzzle Boy" was released, which swept Hong Kong and spread all over the country. Pheasant brother Chen Xiaochun, red.
Then, Chen Xiaochun played Wei Xiaobao in "Deer Ding", with a unique image of pretending to be stupid and selling well, which became a classic.
Chen Xiaochun has completely become famous, but the broken and difficult family support experience of the original family makes his personality very strange, he loves to lose his temper, is not easy to provoke, and is prone to excessive behavior. For example, he was always black-faced, angry at the paparazzi, drunk, and angry at smashing bottles.
All these bad scars changed after meeting Ying Cai'er.
The origin of #Ying Cai'er is completely different from Chen Xiaochun.
She has a good family, grew up in the United States, has a cheerful personality, loves to laugh and make trouble, is white and rich, and has a high education.
Those who pursue her are not lacking in fame or rich second generation (for example, Xiang Tai's son Xiang Zuo, and Lin Jianyue's son Lin Xiaoxian, etc.).
However, the shrewd calculation of the giants makes Ying Cai'er feel too tired and insecure in the process of falling in love, and she wants plain happiness more.
By coincidence, she joined Xiang Tai's company and became a colleague with Chen Xiaochun.
When Ying Cai'er didn't know Chen Xiaochun, she had a good feeling for him:
"Watching 'Ancient Puzzle Boy', everyone likes Chen Haonan, only I like the dragging pheasant brother."
Ying Cai'er, who loves to smile brightly, has a natural attraction to the lonely and bitter Chen Xiaochun.
In 2007, Chen Xiaochun was at a low point in his life due to the death of his mother, and was cured by Ying Caier's cheerful smile:
"I've never seen someone so smiling, I didn't talk much, I stood behind her and listened to her laugh all the time, and I identified this person at that time."
When interacting, Ying Cai'er made three chapters with him:
1. Girls are not allowed to leave phone calls;
2. Daily reporting of whereabouts must be reported;
Third, before going to bed, you must say "good night".
Chen Xiaochun obediently did so, because she could control him.
After more than two years of interaction, Ying Cai'er felt the warm heart of Chen Xiaochun under the cold appearance: he was not afraid of hardships and difficulties, had a strong sense of responsibility, was not selfish, had a strong desire for protection, was filial piety, had love, and could control himself for the sake of what he loved.
Chen Xiaochun in 67 and Ying Cai'er in 83, the difference between the two is 16 years.
Although not optimistic, Ying Cai'er still resolutely married Chen Xiaochun.
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Parents always tell their newly married children that after marriage, they must change their temper, and it is impossible to have a hot temper for a long time.
Chen Xiaochun and Ying Cai'er, the personality difference between the two people is very obvious, one cold and one hot.
Chen Xiaochun did not smile, pulled a stinky face all day, it was so cold that it was difficult for people to get close, known as "Lonely City Cold".
And Ying Cai'er loves to say that she loves to laugh and love to be funny, and everyone is familiar with herself, known as "big aunt".
The only thing the two people have in common is that they have a hot temper.
It seems that these two people must have quarreled in their lives, and it is difficult to carry out love to the end.
However, the outside world's doubts have gone wrong again this time.
The hot-tempered, self-referential "mountain chicken brother" gave all the tenderness to Ying Cai'er, who has always been pampered.
After getting married, Chen Xiaochun said:
"I used to love to hang out in nightclubs and even go to drink every day, but now, I like to stay at home the most. I want to live a simple, simple life with the girl I want. ”
He likes to be with his wife and children, saying that if he doesn't see them every day, he will be very unhappy.
In 2020, the tenth anniversary of Chen Xiaochun and Ying Caier's marriage, Chen Xiaochun specially made a poster with a sense of age, and sent a Weibo confession to Ying Caier: Thank you for following me to this day...
For Chen Xiaochun, Ying Cai'er is not only the person who brought him laughter, but also the person who taught him how to love.
A happy marriage is by no means a compromise and pampering on one side, but also the understanding and tolerance of the other party.
In the program "Listen to My Sister", Ying Cai'er complained:
"Eleven years of marriage, I can live to this day, because I have self-touched, brother pheasant is not very touched by me, except for myself there is no second person willing to marry him." 」
Why? Because of the shortcomings of this man, it really needs enough love to understand and tolerate.
Once recording a program, Chen Xiaochun was called up by his wife early in the morning and was very unhappy to lie on the sofa. Ying Cai'er asked him what he was going to eat at noon today. He said it directly: eat.
Ying Cai'er was not angry and dissatisfied, she understood it as "getting up gas". She understands the pain of her husband's original family and growth experience, and understands that his words and deeds will cause a lot of anger and extremism.
Ying Cai'er was about to give birth, and she called Chen Xiaochun and said, "My amniotic fluid is broken." At that time, Chen Xiaochun, who was in a foreign country and had just finished the performance and drank some wine, would only stutter and ask, "What to do?" ”
Ying Cai'er asked her assistant to take her to the hospital herself, and Chen Xiaochun returned from the field the next day. During the production, she also had to go in turn to comfort Chen Xiaochun's nervousness and confusion.
Some people always say that Chen Xiaochun has become particularly gentle and lovely in front of Ying Cai'er, and everything in life and work obeys Ying Cai'er's arrangement.
Ying Cai'er always generously talked about Chen Xiaochun's shortcomings in the program, while Chen Xiaochun just smirked on the side, and the whole "wife is strict".
However, who knows that these favors are all exchanged for Ying Cai'er's understanding and tolerance again and again.
As Ying Caier has declared many times: My masterpiece is my home.
Being able to say this sentence is enough to show that she has invested a lot of effort in her husband's godson.
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No one is perfect, love itself is not perfect, and there is no perfect couple.
So-called: ask what is the world's situation? It is one thing that descends from one thing.
Ying Cai'er understands the pain and loneliness in Chen Xiaochun's life, so she knows that Chen Xiaochun's shortcomings will still love him. With inclusive words and a hearty smile, Chen Xiaochun was completely cured.
Even Chen Xiaochun himself said that when singing frustrated love songs now, he needs to find a state:
"Maybe it's really love, it's married, and that feeling naturally disappears."
Unconsciously, Ying Cai'er had Chen Xiaochun's shadow on her: funny and naughty. Chen Xiaochun also has a shadow of Ying Cai'er: warm and cute.
The same is true of Jiang Defu and Anjie in "Parental Love".
The two people's classes are different, and after marriage, there are great differences from living habits to ways of thinking.
Anjie carries a capitalist lady's "poor exquisiteness": brush your teeth and wash before going to bed, change your pajamas after going to bed, eat cake and milk for breakfast, drink water and drink tea and coffee with the corresponding cup...
Jiang Defu also carries a peasant's "bad disease": do not wash your hands before meals, spit at dinner, sleep without clothes...
After marriage, Jiang Defu obeyed the "right thing to say, let's do it", accepted Anjie's "civilization transformation", and became a "three-wash husband".
In the face of the principled positions of both sides, they did not use love to force each other to change, but chose to respect each other.
For the arrogance of the capitalists, Anjie accepted Jiang Defu's criticism and gradually integrated into the surrounding environment and rural neighbors; Jiang Defu also understood Anjie, was not afraid of the risks of her career, and protected her petty bourgeoisie.
Just like the courtyard in the old age of the two, on the one hand is the vegetable garden that Jiang Defu is responsible for, and on the other side is the small garden that Anjie is responsible for, leaving space and respect for each other.
Unconsciously, I became a life partner of "you have me, I have you; I have become you, you have become me".
As Wang Haiyang says at the end of the film:
"A couple like your parents, who have a huge contrast between heaven and earth, they have lived a lifetime, run into each other for a lifetime, and are trying to walk into each other and get closer to each other, but when they are about to win the meeting, the two of them come to a passing shoulder and continue to move forward."
Your mother walked to the rural dirt road where your father came, to the simple countryside, but your father became a "capitalist", wearing pajamas, practicing tai chi, drinking the big red robe, and walking to the road of the capitalists from your mother.
They are all trying to reform each other, and they are trying to resist each other's transformation, they are overcorrected, and the roles are reversed. You have me, I have you."
Two-two talk about healing:
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