In the current way of falling in love, there is a kind of love called platonic love, this kind of love relationship is somewhat abstract, what does it mean let's see!
What does platonic love mean?
Platonic love is a view of love named after a Philosopher in the West, which is the pure love of the spirit that pursues spiritual communication and reason. Plato said, "This is the best time when the mind rejects the body and yearns for the truth."
What exactly is platonic love?
Platonic love means that there is only spiritual love, but no physical union, pure, white love, which cannot be defiled.
Platonic love has its roots in the Christian New Testament. For many centuries, Christian ascetics have cursed human sexuality as tarnishing the purity of morality in civilized societies. Theosophists and mystics characterize love as some kind of ephemeral invisible contact and contact of the soul. The morality of Christian asceticism is expressed in the New Testament, various Gospels, and epistles of the Apostles. But it does not conform to the Old Testament, which is full of philosophies that love life. The ideal of the New Testament is ascetic chastity. In Christianity, Christians live according to the principles of the Old Testament and pray and repent according to the requirements of the New Testament. This contradiction largely instills in the idea that man is sinful before God. Platonic love condemns sexual contact in the name of Jesus, to make itself "as pure as an angel" and to have insight into the powerful forces of consciousness in the infinite universe. Men and women travel in the clouds of "pure" spirit. Their lips never touched together, their hands always embraced the space of nothingness, and their thoughts were a hazy cloud. It is a kind of love between creatures without a body, but a fantasy. Platonic love is usually against equality between men and women. Its advocates curse not only gender relations, but also women. The purpose of platonic love is the fusion of the soul without physical contact. As if this were the only way for both parties to attain eternal happiness.
What does platonic marriage mean?
Platonic marriage is a kind of spiritual love, the pursuit of spiritual communication, the rejection of carnal desires, its marriage conditions are many possibilities:
1, now want a family
Unfortunately, there is a deadline about having children on their own, at least for women. People who end up in Plato's marriage may just want to start a family and they haven't found someone they're in love with.
All they do to solve this problem is marry a friend who also wants a family. You don't have to fall in love with someone in order for the two of you to start a family together. These types of marriages also confirm this.
2. An agreement has been reached
You know, when you hear two people swear to get married, what if they're still single at 35? Those transactions do exist. They're not limited to just a few romantic comedies.
This is usually related to people who want a family. If they can't find someone they're in a relationship with at a certain age, they decide to get married. As long as they are friends, it is a platonic marriage.
3) It's time to settle down
There are a lot of people who feel pressured to get married. They thought that when they reached the age of thirty, they should settle down to find a partner. If both people feel this way, they may agree to marry each other and start slowing down and settling in as a married couple.
4) They are all boring
If you're not sure what aromaticism is, that's when someone doesn't feel romantic. They don't have the desire for a romantic relationship, so instead they end up marrying their friends.
This is usually the relationship between two unusual people because it is better understood and when the other person is not romantic, no one wants romance. You can also find this with two asexuals. Gender is not in the equation, so it is a platonic marriage.
5, there is a homosexual existence
Years ago such a situation was very common. When homosexuality or same-sex marriage is not tolerated by the world, some of them will choose to get married.
There are even some lesbian women and gay men who end up getting married in order to become heterosexual partners. However, these people are just friends, even if they end up having children.
6) Just want to marry their best friend
Some people marry in a platonic way, but then have a relationship outside of the marriage. They want kids, and they'd rather be with their best friend, someone they care about and appreciate, rather than raising kids with someone else.
This is usually the case where two people want children and a family but don't find that particular person. Their best friend is better for them than anyone else, and they'd rather have them be the parents of their children. Or maybe they just want to spend forever with their best friend instead of some fleeting lover.
7) It gradually fades into platonic marriage
Sometimes your marriage can begin to be full of love. You really fall in love with your spouse and then over time, the love disappears. Not all love marriages will remain in this state.
People who have been with their spouses for decades end up in platonic relationships rather than romantic ones. But they were together because they still loved each other, just as they did when they first got married.
8) They still love each other
Some people want to end their lives with someone they truly love, even if they're not in love with them. They feel that the difference is enormous. Falling in love with someone can change over time, falling in love with someone is unlikely.
Those people would rather maintain this level of love than romantic affection in a platonic marriage and risk losing it over the years.
How to talk about love can be long-lasting
First, don't take love as the whole thing
We always feel that passion is consumed quickly because the enthusiasm for being together is too high. In fact, the feelings that can exist for a long time are rational and more emotional, and we cannot have a person in life and completely lose ourselves. If you turn all the meaning of your life into each other, the other party will not only feel very stressed, but your value will slowly become lower. Even if we have the ability to get along, we still have our own things to do. Support each other, communicate effectively, and we are together to one plus one is greater than two.
You can be very tired and sweet when you are together, but focus on being yourself when you break up. How? When two people are fully engaged, they are free from the tense work, only to the person in front of them, showing their vitality and cuteness, and entering the "love mode".
When separated, do not disturb each other's work and study, use all your energy to run yourself wholeheartedly, enhance your own value, make yourself a better person, mature love is to grow and build each other.
Second, do not easily challenge human nature
Human nature is complex, there will be a dark side, if we insist on challenging it, it is not easy for it to have flaws, so many halves will be disappointed.
People will lie, they will make mistakes, they will have bad emotions and problems that they do not want to face. We can't ask anyone to become a saint, just as many times we can't do it ourselves.
If you are always picky and express dissatisfaction, then the relationship will not be easy and more difficult to enjoy. Many people because of personality reasons or affected by the growth experience, possessive bursting, unable to control their own jealousy, always suffer from gain and loss, suspicious of the ghost, it is easy to become anxious in the feelings, thus affecting the feelings of both sides.
Third, make yourself more worthwhile
Other-centered feelings are very humble, not only make you become inferior, but also make the other party unconsciously affected by you, and have to take on the responsibility of two people, thus becoming more tired.
In a long-term relationship, both people will spend more energy on themselves, make themselves more worthy of each other's love, harvest more happiness and sweetness, love without respect and appreciation is difficult to last, even if it exists, it will be more and more painful. When one day we grow up on our own, but find that the other party is still the same as before, and one party's vision becomes broader, it is difficult to understand each other in ideas, and the probability of contradictions will become higher. Love actually depends on attraction, if the gap is too big, sometimes the effort is only in vain.
So whether we are in love or ready to start a relationship, the first thing to do is to love ourselves, and when you become more and more beautiful and attractive, you will also be more confident in love and more capable of maintaining the relationship.