Self-touching love, don't do it
In the past, when I was in college, there would often be boys, holding guitars, calling out their buddies, courting under girls' buildings, with successes and failures. Can succeed, generally two situations, one is that men and women have long been in love with each other, only to poke the last layer of window paper, such a show of love, girls are very touched and very happy, think that boys are really very hearted; there is a situation, that is, girls for the boy's face, can not resist the surrounding masses to coax, forced by pressure, downstairs to accept the boy's confession.
However, will the love that is forced to be accepted be fulfilled? Of course not. Afterwards, the boys received a euphemistic rejection from the girls. Some boys will stop losses in time and control their emotions, while some eating looks very ugly, yelling, loudly questioning, I have paid so much for you, send hundreds of messages a day, why do you reject me?
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Why refuse? Isn't it rare not to love? The girl wants an apple, and as a result, you give a basket of pears, and the girl has to say how good you are. In fact, it is already good to be able to politely reject you, if you meet a scumbag, both enjoy your efforts, and do not give you any name, you can not even call a boyfriend, at best it is just a spare tire, said tacky, licking the dog.
I thought of Zhang Ailing, who read Zhang's texts in junior high school and felt that I liked it very much, and it was not worth it for her. Obviously, what a talented woman, but for Hu Lancheng, she has been dedicating, has been paying, but in the end it is still a void, she indulged in Hu Lancheng's promise of "may the years be quiet and the world be stable", but she did not know that it was only herself who was moved. Hu Lancheng enjoyed her efforts while flirting with other women.
Finally, she said, are you not willing to do it. I have thought that if I had to leave you, neither short-sighted nor able to love others anymore, I would simply wither away.
Is self-sacrifice great? It's just blackmail
Some time ago, Wang Sicong and Sun Yining's things were hyped up on the Internet, and we don't say whether there is real hype behind it. Netizens have complained one after another, and even Principal Wang has become a licking dog. The chat records we see are also Principal Wang's self-touching efforts, and even an emotional blackmail.
In fact, it is easy to create an illusion in a masochistic way to blind ourselves, stand on the moral high ground, and feel that we have made great sacrifices to gain a sense of satisfaction and security. Whether you brave the heavy rain to deliver milk tea, or drive thousands of miles to ask for a meeting, or wait downstairs, do not see people and never leave, in this way, you feel that it is an unforgettable memory, in the eyes of the other party, may not be worth mentioning.
In unequal love, the memory and perception of two people are biased. One side feels like the world is falling apart, and the other side may be dazed. In the variety show "Heartbeat Signal", male guest Chen Yandi likes female guest Yao Muxi very much, cooks breakfast for her every day, and tries everything to care for her. Yao Muxi, on the other hand, has a crush on another male guest. As a result, all the efforts he made were inferior to the words of another male guest: I want to go with you.
Self-touching love is really humble, if a person really loves you, even if you do nothing, he has you in his heart; if he doesn't love you, you even if you pluck the stars in the sky for her, her heart does not have you. Love is simple and blind, dog-licking love, so humble that you are deceiving yourself.
Finally, the true meaning of love lies in mutual attraction and like-mindedness, not in chasing, clinging to, and being self-motivated. Before courting, learn to love yourself, be an independent person, and never forget to love yourself, so that you can love another person.