In 1991, Tie Ning visited the old man of Bingxin. At that time, Tie Ning was already in her 30s, and Bing Xin asked her: "Do you have a boyfriend?" Tie Ning replied, "I haven't found it yet." At this time, the 90-year-old Bing Xin said a word to Tie Ning: "You don't look for it, you have to wait." ”
After that, Tie Ning did not look for it, but waited silently. Finally, in 2007, the 50-year-old Tie Ning waited for her life partner.
"You don't want to find, you have to wait", let it go, love will appear at the right time.
However, everyone's emotional encounters are different. Some people can wait for the right person at the right age; some people can't wait for his belonging on the emotional road. With despair and the urging of the people around them to marry, how many people can wait like Tie Ning until their lives are more than half a hundred?
Men and women wandering on the road of love, should they take the initiative to find, or quietly wait for the arrival of love?
Recently, I found the answer from the book "When I Realize My Dreams, What Happens?"
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Is it to look, or to wait? Before coming up with the answer to this question, first understand what is holding back the arrival of love.
In the book "When Dreams Are Realized, What Happens" it is said that the "culprit" that kills love is our subconscious.
Some scientists believe that the power of the subconscious mind is twenty thousand times that of consciousness. If you use the metaphor of an iceberg, the subconscious mind is a huge block of ice hidden below the surface of the water, and consciousness is only the tip of the iceberg that can be seen on the surface of the water.
A girl who is looking forward to marriage, her consciousness is "get married early". But if her parents were unhappy in marriage, or if she had been betrayed by someone she loved so much... Subtly, her subconscious is "don't fall in love with men"
Consciously, the girl is looking forward to love, but the subconscious does use twenty thousand times the power to stop it, then it is difficult for her to meet a marriage partner.
The power of the subconscious is so great, can it only passively accept the spell of love?
<h1 class= "pgc-h-center-line" > the mystery of harvesting love</h1>
The author of "When Dreams Are Realized, What Happens" tells us that the subconscious mind is not our enemy, it just wants to protect us.
For example, a girl who has been hurt in her relationship will subconsciously issue a "don't fall in love with a man" command to protect the girl from getting hurt again.
The subconscious mind likes to maintain the status quo and is afraid of change, so it will help the girl to remain "single" all the time.
When girls are willing to make changes and take the initiative to know boys, they are hindered by the subconscious. The girl's efforts were exchanged for disappointment again and again.
Discouraged, the girl decided to give up.
However, her previous search left her whole body with the feeling of "marriage". The subconscious mind always wants to maintain the status quo, but at this time sandwiched between "single" and "married", the subconscious mind is confused, does not know which state to maintain, and can only see what instructions the consciousness has issued.
Seeing that the consciousness is "getting married", the subconscious has to follow the instructions of the consciousness and let the girl get married smoothly.
It turns out that this is the secret of harvesting love: first actively seek, maintain a state of "marriage" in action, and then stop looking. At this time, the subconscious mind is caught in the two states of "single" and "married", and can only turn to the consciousness, and finally obey the instructions of the consciousness "marriage", and love quietly arrives.
Actively seek, then let go, and naturally wait for love to blossom and bear fruit.
<h1 class="pgc-h-center-line" > love rules make them happy</h1>
Like many girls, Xixi was urged to marry by her parents as soon as she graduated, and she herself was eager to step into the marriage hall as soon as possible.
In the past few years, Hee-hee has spent a lot of time looking for a boyfriend, but he has not been able to find a suitable marriage partner.
Later, Hirsch changed jobs and needed to work overtime frequently. Xi Xi felt that he was too busy to fall in love, and the marriage should be delayed for a few more years.
Unexpectedly, a year later, Xixi announced happily that she was going to get married!
Another friend of mine, Komori, searched for several years and didn't find her Mr Right.
Until one time, because of being deceived, Komori owed a debt. Thinking about the various expenses of marriage, she decided that she would never fall in love until she paid off her debts.
But in less than half a year, Komori met a boy who fell in love at first sight, and is now married and has children and has a happy family.
At that time, I personally experienced their wonderful love story, and I could only sigh, this is fate. Only now did I understand the mystery.
They do not know the working mechanism of the subconscious mind, but they inadvertently practice this law of love and harvest happiness.
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With a good mindset, the easier it is for this law of love to exert its magic.
• Be confident when looking
One wonders, can this approach work? Like many things, the more confident you are, the easier it is to complete the goal, and the more hesitant you are, the more unattainable the end point is.
The purpose of "seeking" is to fill yourself with the state of "marriage". The more you believe, the more active you are looking, the stronger the energy of "marriage" in your body, and the faster your subconscious can feel the change.
So let go of your worries and give yourself a new try. Going out, there are always more opportunities to get off the list than staying at home.
• While waiting, relax
After the effort, it is time to stop the action and start waiting. The most important thing in the waiting process is to fully trust the arrangement of fate.
Xixi and Xiaomori had to let go because of the changes in work and life, so they did not lose their hearts.
If there is no such opportunity, we need to maintain a normal heart. You can develop a hobby, you can travel more, you can simply insist on making yourself a hearty breakfast every day... Focus on yourself instead of thinking about success or failure.
The effort that should have been made before has been worked hard, and the rest of the work will be left to heaven.
Like shooting, we are responsible for aiming at the target, and when the shot is thrown, it is not our business to which position the ball is going to.
May you who long for love, in the waves of love, not only bravely swim, but also entrust yourself to the sea, follow the flow of life, and reach your other shore.