Is the age of not marrying due to high house prices? Directly give a plan, to the newlyweds under the age of 30, to provide 8-10 years of low-cost housing.
Is the low fertility rate due to the high cost of education? Directly give the plan, implement the birth incentive, and the milk powder money under the age of three is paid by the treasury.
However, there is no necessary causal relationship between unmarrying at an older age and low fertility. Although, high housing prices and high education costs are realities. It is also true that the poorer you are, the more you live. There seems to be more and more people who are financially independent, financially free, and have no intention of marrying.
Just brushed the video of a forty-two-year-old single beauty Wang Liangfen, her self-feeling is super good and enviable. It has become popular all over the Internet, especially in this homecoming season of urging marriage and forced marriage. This is not a role model, maybe she just missed it. So, don't ignore the fact that her financial strength can support the so-called strength of personality she preached, and the bitterness behind your glamour that is carefully concealed.
I think of a famous female writer Zhang Jie.
Zhang Jie sold her house in 2012 and went to the United States to join her daughter. Zhang Jie is a successful writer, although his married life has been repeatedly frustrated, but the personality of the writer always has some maverick nature. In the end, under the pressure of aging and fear, he compromised with his pride. A bad marriage, after all, having a daughter who can be relied on for old age is a positive result.
[Rose's] fear of aging and loneliness may be the trigger to end celibacy. There is a famous sentence in the Book of Poetry: "Death and life are broad, and Zicheng is said." Hold the hand of the son, and grow old with the son. This sentence clearly explains the essence of traditional marriage, not the kind of marriage with economy as the essence in the West, the traditional view of marriage is related to life and death, the meaning of this sentence in the "Book of Poetry" is: I once said to you, life and death must be together, hold your hand, and grow old with you. Paradoxically, young people are basically indifferent to aging and loneliness, and when they do, they are past the marriageable age.
Regardless of the limitations of physical diseases, marriage and celibacy are basically a choice determined by psychological inertia, and it is difficult for people to overturn the inner wall.
One age group, one age group task.
If you miss it, it is out of season blooming, strange.
Celimination is freedom. If you plan to get married, it is best to talk about marriage at the marriageable age.
For parents of the only marriageable generation, the marriage of their children is their top priority and important matter, and it is understandable that they are too aggressive due to excessive anxiety. Because of the only son, the child's marriage almost determines whether the parents are smooth or sluggish in the second half of their lives; Secondly, after working hard for half a life, these parents have some family assets or careers, hoping that there will be successors.
The word "dang" determines that there are few older men and women who are single in the past era. Under the word "when", there is no second option. Perhaps in the era of "parents' orders and matchmakers", there was some freedom to choose the object, but there was no freedom to marry or not. Plato's Republic says: "Whoever is unmarried at the age of 35 shall be punished by paying a certain fine each year". It seems that there is little difference in attitudes towards marriage between ancient and modern Chinese and foreign marriages from the perspective of collective or racial interests, or from the perspective of racial continuity or labor.
Parents who are anxious about the marriage of their children should start with this word "when". Instead of being anxious, put yourself in the shoes of children and create "dang" conditions. As long as they are not geniuses like Nietzsche, Kant or Schopenhauer, marriage is something to aspire to.
First of all, from the psychological construction, marriage is one of the three major events in life, naturally there is a psychological hurdle to pass, the average person is a little uneasy before marriage. Without any internal and external pressure, some marriageable young people cannot cross this hurdle because they amplify their fear of marriage. So the necessary push hand is crucial to marriage, and marriage is a gully, blindfolded, and passed in one step.
From an economic point of view, marriage is a low-cost way of life compared to celibacy, and it is also a healthy lifestyle. If parents create comfortable living conditions for their children before marriage, a person's comfort habits are not extrinsic to marriage.
Sex is an unavoidable problem, if you have not experienced the pleasure of sexual life, but are afraid of sexual life, this is a problem that requires psychological counseling. If it cannot be solved smoothly, marriage is a hurdle that cannot be crossed.
Now the lonely life plight of the elderly spread by online media inevitably makes some people feel self-pity, although it is impossible to return to the era of "raising children and preventing old age", although having children is extremely difficult, the spiritual comfort brought by it is enough to offset or alleviate the fear of old age and helplessness. These are the rationalities of the existence of "when" of "marriage at the right age".
Parents should help them overcome psychological hurdles according to the specific situation of their children and build a bridge to marriage. Blindly anxious or forced marriage can only be counterproductive.
Three-child children have been encouraged institutionally. To change the current phenomenon of old age non-marriage and low fertility rate, we must start with psychological work.
