Among the various factors associated with happiness, love is undoubtedly one of the most important sources of happiness. But what is love?
When we talk about love, we tend to think more about being loved. This is not surprising. We have lived under the love of our parents since childhood, so we are too accustomed to being loved. From childhood to adulthood, we longed for a lot of love. When we get tough, we want someone to lend a helping hand. When we go through pain, we want someone to share it with us. We hope that our loved ones and friends will always remember us and be blessed to share with us. In love and marriage, we also care a lot about being loved and are very sensitive to our position in the eyes of our lover. We consciously or unconsciously tie our happiness to the degree of being loved by others, and once we are frustrated in this regard, we feel very unfortunate.
Indeed, being loved is important to our happiness. If we receive too little love, we will feel that the world is cold and we are lonely in this world.
However, whether you are loved or not is more important than whether you are loved. A person who lacks love is a lonely person, and an unloving person is an indifferent person. As long as the lonely person has love, he will still have happiness in loneliness, and as Shelley said, when his love is not available in the crowd who does not understand him, he will throw himself into flowers, grass, rivers and sky, and thus feel the joy of the heart. However, if a person is without love, no matter how lively his life is on the surface, the source of happiness has dried up, and his cold heart can never be truly happy.
A person who only wants to be loved but does not have the heart to love others does not actually understand what love is. What he really cares about is not being loved, but possessing.
Love is the opposite of possessiveness. Love is essentially a giving, and the happiness of love is in this giving. Many sages have pointed out that it is happier to give than to receive. A clear proof of this is parent-child love, where loving parents feel great satisfaction in the process of caring for and raising their children.
In love, you yourself feel happiest when you realize that you bring happiness to your loved ones. The giving of love is neither humble devotion nor arrogant almsgiving, but a natural outflow of inner abundance, and thus transcends moral and utilitarian considerations.
Nietzsche said it well: "Everything done out of love has nothing to do with good or evil." "Love is like a light source, and the happiness of the lover lies in illuminating all things. Love is like a sweet spring, and the happiness of the lover lies in the earth. Abundant love makes people as broad as God, so the Bible says, "God is love." ”
For individuals, the saddest thing is not frustration in being loved, such as falling out of love, turning against friends, etc., but the loss of love, and thus the ability to feel and create happiness. For a society, the general loss of love is terrible, and it can indeed make the world as cold as an ice cave and as desolate as a desert. In such an environment, good people will inevitably chill, but I hope that they will not become indifferent because of this, but learn to protect themselves while still maintaining a loving heart. It should be believed that there are always many good people in the world, and love will arouse love. Whether it is an individual or a society, as long as love remains, there is hope.
Reader: Gao Gao, screen name Go On, Deputy Secretary-General of the Language Arts Committee of the Chinese Culture Promotion Association, Deputy Secretary-General of the Reading Professional Committee, and professional broadcaster of Shanxi Radio and Television Station for more than 20 years, focusing on documentary commentary. Hear more of his voice, public number: sound realm, ID: tyreader
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