Everything has an solution
Introduction: Everyone hopes that their love can have a good result for a long time, but no one can fully control the matter of love, and can only work in a good direction, and the result is not something we can decide.
In fact, this uncertainty about the outcome is also one of the reasons why love is often addictive, because the uncertainty of the result also increases more possibilities.
For young people, the experience of love is often more important than the result, it is the only way for everyone to grow, if you suppress your emotions because you are afraid of no results, you will only regret in the end.
While you are still young, experience more, try more, experience more, in order to make your life more colorful.
Netizens asked
Hello teacher, I like a person who has no results, I know that it should end early, but I can't help but chat with her and want to meet.
I've been in a bad mood lately, but I can't help it, how can I forget?
Questions and answers
The torment of love is the only way to grow
After understanding that the age of the netizens is about 20 years old, the person they like is not a husband, there is no violation of the law or morality, but for various reasons, they can't see the future of the two people, so they are now very confused and don't know what to do.
In fact, it is particularly common and normal for people around the age of twenty to encounter such problems.
Love at the age of fifteen or six is youth and ignorance, and love at that age is often desperate. Because the secretion of sex hormones reaches its peak during puberty, it is affected by hormones and adrenaline, and the feelings are followed by their feelings, like is like, and rarely consider the results.
But around the age of eighteen or twenty, although still young and still ignorant of feelings, he has become an adult, dropped out of school and entered society early to start working, and those who continue their studies have entered high school and college.
The age has increased by a few years, a few more years of life experience, and more observation, imagination, and attempts for love, even if people who have not been in love, must have experienced a crush, missed a person's experience, and had a certain emotional experience.
At this stage, there will be many realistic factors, such as the direction of study, career, family environment differences, etc., so more consideration will be given to feelings, not only following the feelings, but also adding some restrictions and generating more concerns.
It may be that two people face a different place, it may be family opposition, and it may be that the person they like is very careful... These will make people think that they should not love, but at this time, the gonadal hormones in the body are still secreted vigorously, or will be dominated by sensibility, on the one hand, sensibility, on the other hand, rationality, people will be more contradictory.
In the head, it looks like two villains are fighting, one wants to go to each other, the other says that this is wrong, and keeps tearing.
Most people around the age of twenty have had such tormenting feelings in love, wanting to get it and not getting it, wanting to give up, and can't help it.
Many people's first love does not turn out well, because first love often occurs at this immature age, and feelings often oscillate between sensibility and rationality.
But this is the only way for everyone's emotional growth, only after experiencing this, can we slowly grow up, and can we face and deal with problems in the relationship with a more mature attitude.
And those who did not experience this when they were young will lead to stagnation in their ability to deal with feelings, so that by the age of twenty-five, six, or thirty, the body is mature enough, but when dealing with emotional problems psychologically, they are still the teenager who does not know the world, and there will be more difficult problems in the relationship.
In love, the process is more important than the result
No one can guarantee that love will last forever, and no one can predict whether love will have the desired result, but in fact, the result is not the most important thing in love, the process is.
Love is the moment when the other person's eyes are all you; Love is the pain that hurts when I think of you; Love is the moment when you think of you and unconsciously shed tears; Love is the helplessness and struggle that you feel when facing life...
Therefore, for young people, when facing love, they do not need to use worldly standards to restrain themselves too early, do not think that love must have results, but bravely meet love when it comes.
When many people face love, they are afraid of being hurt, afraid of loss, and afraid of failure, so they dare not follow their hearts, want to pursue it, want to give up and can't help but think about her, hesitate, and finally stump their youth, and miss the opportunity to try love.
To know that any experience and experience in life is meaningful, love is the same, as long as it does not hurt others, does not violate the law and morality, you should try bravely, even if you fail in the end and do not regret it.
Just like being born is destined to die, no one can change, youth and beauty will eventually be farther and farther away from you, is it not good to live because you are destined to die?
Of course not.
It is precisely because you are destined to die that you should live every day while you are alive, so that this life is more meaningful.
Similarly, in the face of love, you cannot give up trying for fear of failure.
The most important meaning of life is to experience, to experience beauty, pain, and sorrow.
Those connections between people, the moment when the heart of the other person thumps, the sorrow of the other party in the past... will make people's lives more meaningful.
So if you are also a young person in your twenties, you can bravely try and experience without thinking too much about the immediate results.
If you meet someone you love, the other party also loves you, first go to love and then say, as for the result, what will happen in the future, all leave it to time.
Such an experience is sure to become your most unforgettable memory in the future, so why kill it before you experience it?
Experience is a catalyst for growth
Everyone's life has to go through what should be experienced, even if love is bruised in the end, it doesn't matter, because this is life.
Many people think that a good life should not need to feel pain, so they will avoid some possibilities for themselves to make themselves painful, but in fact, many times the sadness, sadness, and pain experienced are not meaningless, on the contrary, it is a catalyst for human growth.
We often hear about people who grow up overnight after experiencing something, such as losing a loved one, pain, sadness, and then growing up quickly.
In love, people who have experienced failure often become more mature, and only those who have experienced it can grow from it.
For example, people who have experienced a heart-wrenching love often have a deeper understanding of love, can understand themselves better, understand love, know where the limit they can bear is, and next time they can be more calm, and set a "warning line" for themselves in advance.
So the more you experience, try, and experience when you're young, the easier it is to grow and improve your abilities.
Of course, these experiences do not mean that you have to do it if you know that it is wrong, but when you are not sure what the outcome will be, do not be afraid and cowardly, but try to do it and do it in a good direction.
Even if you fail in the end, you may feel pain in the face of that result, but you will know what you did wrong, do not make the same mistake next time, and know how to correct it to get a better result, this is the process of growth.
We have all seen the movie, and if the movie is without waves, suspense, and flip from beginning to end, then this movie must be uninteresting, and you may not want to continue watching it when you see half of it.
The same is true of life, if it is always a life full of certainty, it is too boring.
When you are old, looking back on your life, you will definitely regret wasting time, regretting that you did not experience and experience it when you were young, and regretting that you did not do your best to love.
No one can foresee the future, be brave to love when you can love, gain growth, gain the ability to love, and you will thank yourself today in the future!