□ Li Weiming
Open WeChat, there are always a few "micro friends" who persistently send a "ask early" expression every day. I am a bit of an obsessive-compulsive person, see WeChat shows a new message, regardless of the status of the other party, familiar or not, you have to click to see if there is something that needs to be replied to. As a result, this uninterested information will be delayed by a few seconds. I am a bit of a bad temper, the number of times, I can't help but reply: "I am not used to this set, there are still things to say in the future, don't ask early, thank you for your support!" At this point, some people really stopped and stopped being bored with themselves; but some people seriously told me that this is to add a "sense of ceremony" to life and make your friendship different!
Such a "sense of ceremony", perhaps the maker finds it interesting, tasteful, and can reflect his "human touch", otherwise he would not be so tireless. I have no right to interfere with this practice, whether others like it or not, but no matter what "sense of ceremony" it is, I still have to find the right object in order to make everyone happy. If you are dealing with an uninteresting person like me, it will not only fail to improve "taste", but also become a burden - to put it bluntly, it is a nasty formalism.
The days pass every day, and what is the significance of your adherence to the "take-ism" expression of "Pufa" every day (pay attention to the two "key words": one is "Pufa" and the other is "Take"). To put it mildly, counting on this lazy method to accumulate rich human feelings, the world may not be so cheap, right? In my opinion, if two people are acquainted to a considerable extent, they can communicate directly without "laying the groundwork"; if the relationship between two people is just ordinary, I do not believe that you will choose a "micro-friend" of this kind of ordinary friendship to express his feelings every day. Therefore, this kind of "heavenly girl scattered flowers" type of sending, if it is not for the sake of extensive set of nearness, it can only mean that you are really idle and bored, and you have to pull others to accompany you to be bored. If the contacts on WeChat all have such hobbies, then you sit down and brush your mobile phone all day, where is the time to do serious things?
This "sense of ceremony", of course, is not what is only available now. I remember many years ago, when there was no WeChat, it was popular to send sms to the New Year. In the days of the New Year, the mobile phone ticked non-stop, but more than 80% of the New Year greetings received were similar or even word-for-word (some people also forwarded other people's names). The first one or two years are a little better, a long time, those group messages, it is estimated that everyone actually did not go to the heart (also understand what is going on), and even inevitably a little bored, so the New Year's message gradually decreased. This phenomenon shows that such a thing is still the same heart and mind of people! Everyone's time is precious, or use it to do something meaningful, if you really have the heart to greet others, you should also say a few point-to-point, personalized meaningful words.
Most of the people who look for a "sense of ceremony" in this kind of trivial matter of life are out of ignorance of others, wishful thinking, thinking that what they like, people all over the world like. Of course, they have good intentions, except that they are a little different in understanding, and it is not easy to criticize. However, there are also a very small number of people, who may have ulterior motives, under the guise of "sense of ceremony", in fact, seeking to achieve a certain purpose that cannot be put on the table.
Tell you a story. It is said that many years ago, a young businessman in a certain place came up with a creative idea in order to pull up the "antenna" with a leader who held real power. Under the premise that the leader did not know him at all, the businessman ran to the door of the leader's office on time every day, said hello to him, and each time just introduced himself with a sentence of "I am so-and-so", greeted a sentence of "the leader is hard", and then quickly flashed people without waiting for the leader to come back. The businessman insisted for a while, and the businessman suddenly stopped going to see the leader for a few days. Then, when he appeared in front of the leader again, the leader couldn't help but ask, "Boy, why haven't you been seen in the past few days?" In this way, the businessman successfully entered the leader's line of sight and was inadvertently remembered by the leader, laying the foundation for him to undertake some business in the future.
At that time, transportation was not developed, communication was not convenient, leaders moved around far less frequently than now, for some "aspirants", using this kind of local method, contact with the leadership may be effective, but at that time there was no "sense of ceremony" to say. Now of course, it is different, transportation, communication are convenient, leaders are often hard outside, even if they do not go out, they are closed doors, it is not so easy to see. But if you get contact information through a certain channel, if you are foolish to point out the "sense of ceremony" of casting a net everywhere, especially for some "potential stocks", do you know that there will be something to gain?
If it is for this purpose, such a "sense of ceremony" is not only burdensome, but also frightening. For most people, of course, there is no such thing; but for people in some special situations and key positions, it is better to compare the above story and have many eyes for some people who suddenly make great contributions.
