"Beijing Meets Seattle" after-view

When money-worshipping ideas pervade all around us, when phenomena that violate the morals of marriage prevail around us, when material things are placed in an increasingly important position, when our emotions can also be measured in money... Are we obediently accepting this reality that comes with economic development? Or is it a hysterical cry for the old ethics? Or maybe no matter what, we will all be immersed in the reality that never stops, dancing in the glass shoes of the mermaid princess on the stage of the silent film of society? Perhaps, we have accepted it without even knowing the pain, not even having the opportunity to struggle.

"Beijing Meets Seattle" reflects the collision of reality and ideals, but also the choice of obedience and rebellion, and it is also the cry of human nature to society. In the eyes of the heroine Wen Jiajia, luxury goods are all necessities of life, and love is a luxury that is extremely expensive. In today's era of immigration fever, Wen Jiajia, as a rich girlfriend, decided to catch up with the trend and use money to smash the identity of a "American national" for the baby, so she resolutely came to seattle, which she deeply yearns for. At the local confinement center, Jiajia met Frank, a single father who immigrated to the United States to educate her daughter. While Frank acts as Wen Jiajia's driver and takes good care of her, Jiajia enjoys the happiness brought to her by money. On Christmas eve, she accidentally encountered the mysterious disappearance of her rich boyfriend in the mainland, and Jiajia instantly became poor and had no money to ask for, so she had to be frugal and live on her own. At this time, Frank, who had been a famous doctor in China, took the initiative to take on the responsibility of taking care of Jiajia. During the day and night, Jiajia and Frank develop a delicate relationship, and she begins to examine herself, choosing between money and love.

Of course, the ending of the film is always full of artistic colors, but the social reality reflected in the plot is indeed real and sharp. "Beijing Meets Seattle" points directly to several sensitive social issues in today's society - "borrowing sperm to give birth", "going to the United States to give birth", homosexuality, extramarital love, etc. Here, I would like to highlight my views and understanding of the social problem of extramarital love.

First, extramarital love is based on the fact that one or both of the parties already has a marital relationship with another. Today's China implements monogamy, and the reason why monogamy can be recognized, I personally believe that there are mainly the following reasons: 1, this can make the society stable, in a stable society more developed, everyone will live better than before, the best example is the average life expectancy of people in feudal society is 35 years old, now 75 years old, monogamy system is one of the important contributions. 2, monogamy can make the family structure more harmonious and stable, while giving children a stable parental relationship, more conducive to the growth and development of children. 3. Monogamy is one of the signs of human development and progress, showing that the marriage relationship between human beings and the cause of the union of men and women are in the transition from reproduction as the main purpose to emotion as the main purpose. Extramarital love touches the stability brought about by the structure of marriage, so that the relationship between the two sexes is complicated from simple and stable one-to-one, and there is a trend of regression to the old polygamous concubinage system in China, which violates the mainstream trend of social development and also violates people's emotional and moral norms, so it is not ashamed.

Of course, man has animal instincts, so monogamy naturally has its repressive side. However, any choice is not actually a comparison between right and wrong, but a comparison between good and good, bad and bad, right and right, wrong and wrong, and we have to choose among them that is more in our interests. Thus, the mainstream of society has chosen respect for monogamous marital relationships and disdain for extramarital affairs. Because compared with maintaining the instinct of human reproduction as an animal, of course, to maintain the stability of society and family, the purity of husband and wife's emotions is more worthy of people's attention. However, it is no accident that there is now a trend towards the frequency of extramarital affairs, and even the tendency to say goodbye to individual phenomena. According to social surveys, units within the system are often areas with a high incidence of extramarital love. The so-called units within the system refer to the administrative institutions supported by the state, the enterprise units managed by the institutions and the state-owned monopoly enterprises, which have also increased rapidly with the growth of GDP, and the food, clothing, housing and transportation are carefree, which makes them more likely to be tired of the ordinary life after marriage, and the relaxed and dull work also makes them want to find some new highlights of life. However, the management of people by these units is also the most stringent, from work to private life are within the scope of management, always to be assessed and evaluated, the family does not dare to make too much contradiction. Coupled with the personnel management system in the era of the planned economy, it is extremely difficult to transfer jobs, and the cost of losing jobs is too high, so they are more likely to accept extramarital love than to reorganize the family after divorce. Because the conditions are too good, women cannot find a suitable spouse after divorce, and they either tolerate it in marriage or enter extramarital love after divorce. Units outside the system are divided into two poles in extramarital love. Units outside the system include foreign enterprises, private enterprises, private enterprises, joint-stock enterprises that do not dominate state-owned shares, and self-employed households. The bosses and managers of private enterprises, private enterprises, and joint-stock enterprises, they occupy a considerable part of the wealth of enterprises, and the personnel management system in the planned economy era has no binding force on them, they often have a home outside the home, and their extramarital romance is easy to move towards a de facto marriage. Most of the employees of these enterprises are migrant girls, who are difficult to marry people in the system and are reluctant to return to the countryside, thus breeding the proliferation of extramarital love.

From the above survey results, we can see that the prevalence of extramarital love has its irrationality, so it is rejected by people, but at the same time it also has its reasons for occurrence, so it seems to be intensifying. But, in any case, the period of social transformation always brings about many problems of one kind or another, and the formation of social morality to the point where it can really exert the effect of the latent law also needs a long process. But I always firmly believe that, as the heroine of the play said, love is the hand of the son, and the son grows old. Only if you are willing to believe can you get what you want to believe. The right people will eventually meet, and the good people will eventually meet, as long as you make yourself beautiful enough. I still look forward to, and will practice in the future, to maintain a pure and happy marriage relationship.