In the short life of singer Cong Fei for 37 years, he has participated in more than 400 charity performances, helped 183 out-of-school children realize their dreams of going to school, donated more than 3 million yuan in donations and materials, and was once named "Top Ten People Who Moved China in 2005".
After his death, his wife Xing Dan inherited his philanthropy.
Cong Fei and Xing Dan used their ordinary and great love and light to light candles that would be extinguished, kindness for half their lives, but in exchange for the desolate end of both deaths, people couldn't help but lament: "God, are good people really not rewarded?" ”
After Cong Fei and his widow Xing Dan died unexpectedly, their five-year-old beloved daughter became an orphan without a father and mother, and her life, study and other issues were concerned by the whole society, and now 16 years have passed, what is the current situation of their orphan daughter?
Do not live for yourself all your life
"He doesn't know how to reject others, that's his strength, but it's also his weakness." Wife Xing Dan said of her husband.
Cong Fei didn't know how to write the four words "alone" in his life, and died young at the age of 37, and people said that this good man was exhausted to death by himself.
Cong Fei's real name is Zhang Chong, he came from a rural background, he has worked hard since he was a child, he loved singing since he was a child, and when he grew up, he was admitted to Shenyang Conservatory of Music after hard study, and after graduation, he went south to work hard, sleeping in the bridge cave of Guangzhou or Shenzhen, picking up other people's leftover box lunches to fill his hunger, frequently going in and out of entertainment venues, striving for every opportunity to perform on stage, and becoming a singing singer in a song hall.
His appearance fee has also risen day by day, from 80 yuan a game at the beginning, to a maximum of 10,000 yuan at a time.
In 1994, Cong Fei participated in a charity performance in Chongqing with the theme of helping out-of-school children return to school, and after the performance, Cong Fei donated all the more than 2,000 yuan he had and decided to sponsor 20 children to complete two years of schooling.
Since then, Cong Fei has embarked on the road of charity without hesitation, constantly sponsoring poor children in poor mountainous areas to study.
Cong Fei's friends were the first to discover his change, and when several brothers ate together, Cong Fei always wondered how much this meal could be converted into the tuition of poor children.
The brothers all felt that Cong Feimo was frightened, and everyone laughed at him at first, but then gradually did not understand: I got it once or twice, how can I talk about it again?
Cong Fei was not happy to do things, and none of them knew at that time that Cong Fei had begun to quietly sponsor children in poor mountainous areas.
At that time, Cong Fei's career was already very prosperous, he had good performance ability, imitated celebrities to be very vivid, singing and singing well, the audience liked to watch his programs, Cong Fei's programs were often used by the organizers to finale, a performance can earn 10,000 yuan, sometimes Cong Fei's monthly income is even as high as more than 100,000.
Earning so much money, Cong Fei is still poor and white, living in a 58-square-meter dilapidated house, the security door is dilapidated, there are no valuable belongings in the house, and the clothes are cheap stalls.
Sometimes people around me don't understand, where did all the money Cong Fei earn go?
It wasn't until later that a magician who went to Hunan with Cong Fei to perform saw Cong Fei donate the 20,000 yuan he earned on the spot after the performance.
After 2003, the country caused a "SARS", Cong Fei's performance opportunities also plummeted, his income became less and less, and sometimes he could not even pay the children's tuition.
In order to prepare for the tuition of the sponsored children before the start of school, Cong Fei mortgaged all his valuable things, borrowed land to raise money, and owed 170,000 yuan in debt.
"I have three titles, fool, madman, neuropathy." Cong Fei said with a smile.
Later, Cong Fei also frankly admitted his predicament at that time, saying that when he initially planned to help others, he did not expect to bring himself to the point of exhaustion.
It was also during these two years of poverty that Cong Fei gained true love.
Borrow from life
Cong Fei had a failed marriage, his first wife was a foreigner, because he could not bear Cong Fei's free donation, he could not bear to divorce Cong Fei, leaving his 2-year-old daughter Rui Rui to Cong Fei.
Later, Cong Fei met Xing Dan in Shenzhen.
At first, Xing Dan's family and friends were incredulous about his friend's fancy for Cong Fei.
They hated iron and persuaded Xing Dan, what do you want him, want a house without a house, want a car without a car, don't say anything about being poor and white, or a second-married man with children, 12 years older than you, how can you rush to be a stepmother?
Compared with Cong Fei, who was born poor, Xing Dan can be described as a proper "white rich beauty", beautiful appearance, good family and decent work - Xing Dan came to the Shenzhen branch of China Southern Airlines as a flight attendant after graduating from the Aviation Academy.
Seeing that this golden phoenix was about to plunge into the thatched house, relatives and friends were about to be pouted with anger.
But Xing Dan insisted that Cong Fei was a very responsible and good person, she had enough material life in her life, and she longed to find a partner who could resonate with her in the spiritual world, after learning Cong Fei's selfless deeds, the richness of this man's spiritual world and the nobility of character were deeply attracted to Xing Dan, and she admired Cong Fei from the bottom of her heart.
Cong Fei also knew that he was not worthy of Xing Dan, did not want to drag his girlfriend down, and wanted to break up with Xing Dan, but Xing Dan said with tears: "I admire you, love you, and eat chaff vegetables with you willingly!" ”
In the end, the couple broke through worldly obstacles together, and after obtaining the consent of their parents, they tied the knot and formed a happy little family.
After marriage, Xing Dan quit her job and concentrated on being Cong Fei's virtuous inner helper, she regarded Rui Rui as her own, took care of everything in the family, wholeheartedly supported her husband's philanthropy, and often volunteered with Cong Fei, no matter how hard it was, she had no complaints.
Xing Dan said: "His funding beyond his own ability seems very exaggerated to others, but it seems natural to me. ”
She knows her husband's character too well, has a compassionate and soft heart, has a strong ability to empathize, can't see others suffering, and can't withstand the pleading of others, not to mention those poor children in the mountains, even if friends are soft-spoken, Cong Fei will stick a knife in both ribs.
The couple lived happily ever after, until the bad news that Cong Fei was diagnosed with cancer.
In order to provide for poor children to go to school, Cong Fei cut back on food and clothing, and in order to maintain the performance state, Cong Fei never ate before going on stage.
Since 2004, Cong Fei has always had stomach pain, accompanied by vomiting blood and blood in the stool, and people around him have advised him to go to the hospital to see, but when he thought of the high cost, Cong Fei refused, just taking medicine.
At the beginning of 2005, Cong Fei participated in six relief performances in the tsunami-stricken areas of Southeast Asia, and his condition was so serious that he could not swallow food, but he still donated all the 15,000 performance fees.
A few months later, a friend forcibly sent Cong Fei, who was in unbearable pain, to the hospital, and was diagnosed with stomach cancer.
Cong Fei was hospitalized for surgery, and after the operation, he asked the doctor about his condition, but neither the doctor nor his family gave him a clear answer, and they did not dare to tell Cong Fei the truth - the cancer had spread.
At this time, Xing Dan was five months pregnant, and her mood had calmed down much compared to her husband's anxiety when he was first admitted to the hospital, but there were still some things that troubled the couple.
The parents of a very small number of mountain children who have been sponsored by Cong Fei for a long time often call Cong Fei to inquire about tuition fees, which makes Cong Fei overwhelmed.
The parent's tone on the phone was aggressive, asking Cong Fei, saying that it was good to provide my child to the university, but now half of the supply is suddenly not provided, isn't this a pit person?
"Sorry, I'm sick, I haven't performed for months, and I can't send money for the time being."
The other party did not hesitate: "When will the disease be cured?" ”
Cong Fei was silent, he didn't know when his illness would be cured, and since he was hospitalized, the doctor had never mentioned his discharge to him.
He had a faint premonition that this disease would never be cured.
When his family's wealth was scattered and his life was in danger, he was met with such chilling complaints, and Cong Fei had also been low, he admitted that he was indeed "a little sad", but when he thought of his original intention, he never expected to get a return from the recipients, and there were still more people who knew the Entu newspaper, and he was very satisfied that his children could go to school, so he did not care about the grievances of individual people.
In February 2006, Cong Fei was named one of the top ten people who moved China in 2005, and he dragged his body to the award ceremony in Beijing.
On April 20, Cong Fei died of worsening cancer and was buried in the Evergreen Garden of Shenzhen Jitian Cemetery.
In Cong Fei's limited 37 years of life, he made various charitable grants for 11 years, and he never really lived for himself in his life.
Death of the Rose
Xing Fei left, leaving Xing Dan alone to pull his two daughters.
Cong Fei, who realized that he would die soon, did not want to drag his wife down, and once hoped that his wife would beat the child so that he could have less burden in the future and find new happiness.
Xing Dan refused in tears.
On October 16, 2005, Xing Dan gave birth to a daughter, Cong Fei decided to let this little baby take his mother's surname, and the couple named their little daughter: "Xing Xiao Cong Fei." ”
When Cong Fei died, the young daughter was not yet one year old, and the Si people had passed away, and Xing Dan wanted to continue to move forward with the continuation of Cong Fei's bloodline.
The government arranged the relevant work of the Education Bureau for Xing Dan, while carrying the whole family, Xing Dan also took over the baton of her husband's philanthropy, Cong Fei's volunteer number before his death was 2478, after Cong Fei left, 2478 became Xing Dan's work number.
Xing Dan personally explained what it means to "after you leave, I will live like you".
Xing Dan has been campaigning for charity for many years and is praised as the "Rose of Shenzhen".
However, in 2011, a catastrophe caused the rose to wither.
On the evening of April 13, 2011, Xing Dan and his friends drove back to Shenzhen from Huizhou.
When Xing Dan's group was driving on the highway, three bad teenagers were discussing throwing stones at passing vehicles on the side of the highway.
As a car passed, a teenager smashed it with a concrete stone.
Xing Dan, who was sitting in the passenger seat, was hit, and the stone passed through the windshield and smashed through Xing Dan's left jaw face, and the driver immediately sent Xing Dan to the hospital for rescue.
Unfortunately, Xing Dan, who was taken to the hospital, died of his injuries.
Several teenagers did not know that they had made a mistake, and they still kept throwing stones and smashing passing vehicles in place, and when they approached and saw blood and glass slag on the ground, they were finally afraid and immediately fled.
What's even more sad is that these three teenagers are children who dropped out of school early and slowly became street bastards, Xing Dan helped the out-of-school children for half their lives, but finally died by mistake at the hands of the out-of-school teenagers, how unfair the fate is.
The three teenagers were finally sentenced to 12, 10 and 6 years in prison, respectively, and received the punishment they deserved, but this is an afterthought.
The news of Xing Dan's death caused a violent reaction in society, and no one could have imagined that five years after Cong Fei's death, Xing Dan would also leave.
Orphaned status
On April 28, Xing Dan's body farewell ceremony was held in Shenzhen.
Many people came to the scene, in addition to Xing Dan's relatives and friends, thousands of people also came from the sending bank, and hundreds of students who had been sponsored by the couple also came, and the children wore black and white school uniforms and held large white cloths with "Aunt Xing Dan" written in black letters, making people feel the children's silent call.
Xing Dan's strong social influence stems from the good deeds of the Bodhisattva couple for ten years, and after Cong Fei left, Xing Dan's label was not only "the wife of the good man Cong Fei", but also "the good person Xing Dan's aunt".
The most tearful scene at the funeral was the scene of Xing Dan's five-year-old daughter crying and calling for her mother.
"Mom went to Dad." Grandma held Xiao Cong and cried.
Xiao Congfei immediately cried, in her memory, her father never came back to see her, does this mean that her mother will not come back.
"Don't let my mother go to heaven, I want my mother!" The childish cry of the child made people's hearts tighten.
Relatives and friends are heartbroken, and they can only tell their children that when they see their mother, they can cry whenever they want, and they can say whatever they want.
But after seeing the image of her mother's smile, Xiao Congfei suddenly stopped crying, but the tears fell like pearls with broken threads, even though she was surrounded by adults who comforted her, the figure of the girl in a white dress standing there still looked so lonely.
Xing Dan was buried in the Yoshida Cemetery, and her ashes were buried with Cong Fei, fulfilling their love vows of life and death.
Parents have passed away one after another, two daughters have become orphans without parents and the whole society is worried about the future growth and learning of children, who will take care of them?
The Shenzhen government expressed condolences to Xing Dan's family and sent 20,000 yuan of condolence money, saying that it would give some help to Xing Dan Congfei's parents and their children in the future.
The Shenzhen Civil Affairs Bureau and the Municipal Charity Association also launched a care plan for Cong Fei Xingdan's two orphans, raising funds from the private sector to help the two children solve their life problems.
Zhongyi Life Insurance Shenzhen Branch donated a series of disease medical insurance worth more than 27,000 yuan to Cong Fei's two daughters.
The Municipal Charity Association will allocate an average of 1,000 yuan per capita for Cong Fei Xingdan's two daughters from the care fund raised every month until the child reaches the age of 22 and has the ability to survive independently.
The two sisters did not live together, and due to the half-father, the eldest daughter Rui Rui was taken back to her hometown by her grandparents to raise.
Xing Dan had a good relationship before his death, his friend Feng Changhong is the president of the Shenzhen Industrial Design Industry Association, and Li Yawei is also a member of the Shenzhen Municipal Committee of the Chinese People's Political Consultative Conference, they jointly adopted the orphan of the deceased friend, and regularly recorded and shared Xing Xiaocongfei's growth records on social platforms.
It can be seen that Feng Changhong treats Xing Xiaocongfei as if she were his own, and the girl intimately calls her an aunt.
Xiao Congfei knows very well that Entu News will personally make small gifts for his aunt on Feng Changhong's birthday, and save money to buy beautiful red dresses for his aunt.
Feng Changhong attaches great importance to cultivating Xiao Congfei's interests and hobbies, and the home is full of children's awards, as long as the children are interested, expensive violins are also said to be sent.
Li Yawei came from the Conservatory of Music and was a good violin player, often giving Xiao Congfei music guidance.
In 2018, Xiao Congfei was admitted to Shenzhen Experimental Middle School, and in September 2021, he was admitted to the Affiliated High School of Southern University of Science and Technology with excellent high school entrance examination results.
Feng Changhong was very proud of this, and she excitedly shared the good news on social platforms.
Under the care of Feng Changhong and all walks of life, Xing Xiaocong grew up silently.
In 2022, she is 17 years old, and the fat little girl who wore a white dress and stood in the crowd silently crying has become a girl with a bookish atmosphere, more than one meter seven tall, and her beautiful appearance is very similar to her mother Xing Dan.
It is said that doing good deeds accumulates virtue, although this sentence has not been reflected in Cong Fei Xing Dan, but I believe that the good deeds of their parents before their lives will make their children with a difficult fate be happily cared for in the future and treated with more gentleness.