Chapter 20: The Desire to Control "The Most Beautiful Encounter" 'Sulis' Brand Story"

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There are many people who have this mentality in their relationships, who do not distinguish between reality, are unwilling to accept the fact that they have broken up, and try to stand on the perspective of the ex and look down on the life of the ex.

"This underworld boy in his hometown may think he has no face, he doesn't want me, and now he is asking me to go back, he is not willing to bow his head~"

"Auntie, can't he let you go?"

"Maybe, he often does some things more out of line, in his hometown quite a lot of people to introduce me to boyfriends, including the eldest sister your mother also introduced me, but all the boyfriends I am looking for in my hometown, he is looking for other people's trouble!" 」

"Uh-huh"

Mentally unbalanced in relationships, they will be jealous when they learn that their ex is doing well; Seeing that their ex had a bad time was making them happy. This is not only selfishness, but also a twisted mentality in a person's heart.

"When I decided to fall in love with your uncle, I felt that I could clearly tell the direction of my life, so I decided to cut off the entanglement with him, I wrote a letter to his parents, he said before that he had separately compensated me for ten thousand yuan, and I made it clear that this money did not have to compensate me!" 」 When Nina said this, Maike observed a detail, that is, the cloud was light and breezy without frowning.

"I remember you said that at that time, your aunt and uncle planned to hold a wedding wine at the end of the year, so they also built a new house and used a lot of wood from your aunt, which is also okay to receive 10,000 yuan as compensation!"

"In fact, I told him that his brother and sister-in-law were very kind to me, and my parents also made me feel the warmth of the whole family, and a kind of personal love is very attentive, I have never seen any pair of in-laws treat their daughter-in-law so well, this kind of good can not be described, but it is really complete love and heart!" 」

"Auntie, I'll imagine it."

"I said a detail you understand, at that time his parents were very attentive to me, such as will quietly wash my clothes, even if we come back to my house separately, they will often buy some fruit, buy vegetables to mention to my home, and then cook me rice, cook food for my brother, also let my brother go to their house to eat, I want to go out to relax, they also introduced me to their niece in the Zhuhai army to find me a job, and then hope that I can guide this boyfriend back to the right track through the work in the army. Just give me the address over there and call to explain my business. It's a special thought."

"It really shows that his parents are very good to your aunt~"

"It was a touch for me, I went to his house, his parents took me to meet all his relatives, that is, to let them know, and then invite relatives to come to the house for dinner, but also to introduce everyone to know me, will make me feel such a rich family, so good to you!" 」

"Good value for money"

"Now look at the relationship at that time, this boy is the one who is most good to me with practical actions in his heart!"

"His actual action was told by your aunt, who built a big house in the town for you to get married?"

"It's not just this one, he helped get your uncle back to our county to study, and then quickly helped me get the job done, be a regular clerk in the supply and marketing cooperative, and at that time he would directly give me one or two thousand pocket money every month, and spend this money on our street, which is really quite high."

"I think there is still a little regret ~" Mackke's intuitive feeling is that this person is indeed a person who is very direct and reliable in actual action.

"At that time, I was separated from him, when his family was not going well, he himself was also poisoned as a cigarette, and then the women he looked for were not right, and the bad luck came one after another, and then millions of investments failed, and then borrowed huge debts..."

"Then he fell in the middle of the road?"

"This has a lot to do with his youth, his spirit and deeds, at that stage he desperately invested, easily believed the words of others, belonged to that kind of impulsive type, after several accidents, his family economy has a situation, his mother wrote to me, hoping that I can go back to coax this boy, accompany this boy, think I can bring him good luck." 」

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"The first time I met a noble person in my life, that is, the relative of your uncle now, the lady in the factory at that time, she taught me that a woman must be self-reliant, taught me how to get along with men, and also told me that her mother's family is very poor, and how she married her husband to achieve wealth!" 」

"Auntie, will you and your uncle come together soon?"

"That's not true, if I remember correctly, it should have been September of that year when I went to their factory, he chased me all the time, and then chased me for more than a year, then after that, I think this person is very real, and I feel very safe with him." 」

"Auntie, is the sense of security your uncle gives you is money at home?"

"No, at that time I thought I was better than your uncle, but his relatives thought I wasn't good, and I saw that your uncle's family was poor, you know?" Their family has six children~"

People in the sixties and seventies generally had many brothers and sisters, because the population control was not very strict at that time, and people could let go of life. At that time, life was not very good, people generally struggled with the subsistence line, how to raise so many brothers and sisters?

As the saying goes, the more the better, such as stir-frying a dish on the table, even if it is not delicious, do you eat it? Do not eat other children. Coupled with the lack of materials, it is good to be able to fill the stomach, that pays attention to so much. So you take a bite of me, and all of a sudden the bottom of the plate is facing the sky, and even some brothers and sisters fight because of their slow hands and feet.

"Six children in those days, and raising six children was a huge investment?" Mack imagined how difficult it was to count his uncle's six children.

"Your uncle's family built six houses when he had six children, and as a result, his eldest brother gave birth to six children, the second gave birth to three children, and the third gave birth to three children, and then divided the six houses, just because there were many children, there was no way..."

"Haha... Ha ~ "Mack feels that my uncle's family is really very interesting."

"My mother-in-law was still raising pigs, and I thought their family didn't have any money, but in fact their family had money, so they lived in a dilapidated house, and I felt more superior than them."

"On the surface, it does look like this," McKe nodded.

"My mother-in-law didn't particularly like me at the time, she felt that I was not the kind of woman who was at home, and she wanted her son to find a woman who was at home."

"That uncle must have insisted on choosing you!"

"Your uncle is particularly fond of me, thinking that he lives a life, he knows what he needs, because he has no career of his own, and then the lady of the factory thinks that I am a plastic talent, and then teaches me how to do business, how to manage, how to open a shop, how to sell clothes, etc., all the details are taught to me by hand..."

Mack was a little confused or in this place of security, "That aunt, what do you think your uncle gave you a sense of security?" ”

Nina was stunned for a moment, and then said, "In the past, you thought your uncle had chased me for more than a year, and really was the thing that could give a woman the most security!" ”

"Auntie, what do you think is this sense of security if you look at it now?"

"I think it's something I can control, like the right to speak in marriage and family. ......”

Mai Ke nodded thoughtfully, in marriage, on the surface, we see the control of one party, and behind the desire to control, in fact, it is often caused by insecurity. Therefore, we often find that people who have a stronger desire for control are often very fragile and sensitive inside. They like to be in control of everything, which gives them a sense of security, and if what is in front of them is not in their control, they will feel nervous and flustered.

Such personality formation may be related to their childhood experiences. Perhaps it stems from neglect by parents at a young age, who tend to feel that they are insecure and unseen.

Such a state of mind cannot grow up in long-term repression, leaving them trapped in an insecure childhood for a long time. Even if they are adults, walk and stand, and go unconfused, they still can't let the uneasy child grow up, they still need constant control to find their own sense of security.

　　For such a person, constantly satisfying him or complaining about him is not a good solution. Only by making them feel safe, feeling loved, and taking care of their inner children can they truly relax.

"Maybe my uncle knows how to think differently and is willing to give up his position to reshape his aunt's sense of security!"

"Every happy married relationship has a delicate balance in it. I think after this stage of my life, it began to reverse..." Nina's eyes shone brightly.