Recently, Xue Jianing participated in the stage play "Orphans of Zhao" on a national tour.
Among the overwhelming praises, there were one or two harsh singing sentences: "Xue Jia is old, her face is collapsed, and she can't see the youthful agility of "Pink Girl" Ha Mei." ”
In the face of these bad voices, Xue Jianing wrote on Weibo:
Perhaps, all life needs is a little warmth and authenticity, and everything needs not be disguised, just because it is simple.
Many years ago, the "Ha Mei" she played was popular all over the country, when the audience was amazed by her eccentricity, and the girls wore "Ha Mei Costumes";
Today, she faded out of the entertainment industry and focused on chasing ideals, and fans found out:
In fact, compared to acting, her attitude towards life is more amazing.
She is a "hosting star", but she became popular because of her acting
Xue Jianing's life, high open and high.
Born in Harbin, she is an authentic northern girl, who has a gentle beauty, smiles like a crescent moon, so she frequently appears in hosting and singing programs.
Fellow villager Zhang Yi talked about her, and both eyes were shining: "When I saw her, I was stupid, especially beautiful, like a doll." ”
8-year-old Xue Jianing not only hosted programs such as "Little Swan", "Little Snowflake" and "Household Name" on Harbin TV Station, but also was selected as one of the "Top Ten Campus Stars" in the province.
At a young age, he had a resume that many people could not ask for, and Xue Jianing did not care.
She longs for a family, longs to get married and have children early, and feels that only by becoming a wife and mother can her life be complete.
The experience of hosting and singing from childhood to adulthood has pushed her to the other side of her ideal life.
At the age of 17, Xue Jianing aspired to become a host, and wanted to apply for the Beijing Broadcasting Academy, but was mistakenly admitted to the Shanghai Theater Academy.
I don't like acting, read or don't read?
Tangled again and again, Xue Jianing still accepted.
She became the youngest student of that class, and she thought that she would like acting when she learned to learn, but she did not expect that the more she learned, the less confident she became.
The teacher arranged to practice a turning back movement, and everyone did a good job, except for Xue Jianing's expression. After class, she kept asking herself: Am I not suitable for acting at all?
Fortunately, Xue Jianing, who was only a freshman in college, was selected by director Huang Shuqin to star in the movie "I Also Have a Father" because of her outstanding looks.
Xue Jianing played the role with all her strength, although the process was not happy, after three years of screwing, she finally determined her heart and aspired to become an actor.
Soon, Xue Jianing became the darling of major drama crews and advertisers, until she met the TV series "Pink Girl" that made her really popular and premiered in 2002.
Xue Jianing, who grew up well-behaved and dressed only in black, white and blue, was selected to play the "new new human" Ha Mei, which made her cry and laugh, because she felt: Ha Mei and I have no similarities.
Ha Mei has simple ideas and is always happy, and she always thinks about many things, which makes her unhappy. In order to play the role well, she had to learn about fashion culture from fashion magazines.
With the attitude of "doing everything to obey the destiny of heaven", Xue Jianing completed the shooting. Unexpectedly, after the TV series was broadcast, "Ha Mei" was very popular, and Xue Jianing also ushered in the highlight moment of her life.
Career harvest, love also followed, a new showbiz named "Hu Ge", quietly into her world.
She did not abandon herself when she was in trouble, and left silently when she was at her peak
In 2004, Xue Jianing participated in the TV series "Peerless in the World", which happened to be Hu Ge filming next door, and Yuan Hong, a male artist who played with Xue Jianing, was Hu Ge's friend.
Visiting the door one after another, the two became acquainted.
They were all hosts, honors students, and little stars, chatting and chatting, and they naturally came together. It was just that at that time, neither party was ready to openly have a relationship.
The following year, Hu Ge starred in the "Legend of the Paladin Sword" fire. At the highlight of his career, he did not do a single circle fan, but made an unexpected decision:
Disclose the love affair with Xue Jianing.
When the official announcement was made at the moment of popularity, it was enough to see that he attached great importance to Xue Jianing.
But in the second year of Hu Ge's highlight moment, a car accident took away his appearance and health, and almost ruined his career.
At the moment when her boyfriend was in danger, Xue Jianing did two things:
First, give up the work trip, take care of the boyfriend at home, and only shoot one variety show a year;
Second, he did not consume Hu Ge's fame, never mentioned how much he had paid, and even deliberately left the credit.
"In fact, I didn't take care of him a lot, just twice, Yuan Hong took care of him more."
Usually she is always twisted and tangled, but in her feelings, she is so cheerful and decisive, and she is very friendly.
However, perhaps this love is too heavy, Hu Ge said in an interview: If the two are really married, what should the day be?
Host Lu Yu asked: "Is it not enough love?" ”
Hu Ge lowered his head and choked up and said, "She is, she is really good." ”
At this point, whether the answer is not enough love or some other reason, we don't know, but Xue Jianing read Hu Ge's unspeakable.
She chose to leave quietly, and since then, she has rarely avoided or even avoided topics related to Hu Ge, and she has proved with practical actions that she is indeed the "really good" woman in the other party's mouth.
Since then, she has been a light and breezy look, swallowing all the hidden, unwilling, and painful feelings alone.
She chooses love and hate and honor and humiliation to live out a new dimension
"When you encounter something painful, you think of it as a blossom of happiness. Don't think this is the spirit of A Q, you say once no feeling, say a thousand times no feeling, say ten thousand times a hundred million times you try? ”
Xue Jianing, who said these words, had already reached the age of establishment.
When she participated in the movie "Rent a Girlfriend to Go Home for the New Year", she was deeply moved by the lines of the role "Chu Xiaoxiao".
Those painful things had long made her unhappy. But through Chu Xiaoxiao, she found that in fact, acting is good, good or bad, there is no need to put it down, people should learn to choose.
After thinking about all this, she began to have real happiness.
This happiness comes from the attachment to love and hate.
As a non-professional drama actress, she was invited to star in "The Orphan of Zhao". Not only won the applause of the whole hall, the ex-boyfriend Hu Ge also came to the scene, standing behind Xue Jia to take a photo with her, and the two smiled as before.
The outside world is talking about this, but Xue Jianing does not care.
It turned out that as early as 2017, she had become acquainted with Buddhism, when she was experiencing intense inner turmoil, and she was once very concerned about the eyes and evaluations of the outside world, and she was often anxious and nervous.
After practicing for a year, she gradually understood: keeping the clarity of the heart, not living in the eyes of the world, life is nothing more than a white cloud and a dog, coming and going loosely.
As if foreshadowing, she gave up the entanglement of the mortal world, and her friendship with Hu Ge was only a polite "Teacher Hu".
Once she regarded "getting married and having children" as her life goal, now she no longer sets standards for herself, thinking that it is more important than achieving her goals and living herself without being bound.
In the face of her acting career, she also calmly put down the twist on her age and said:
"Maybe I'm not as young as everyone thinks, but precipitation and mind are the best times to tell a story."
In addition to choosing between love and hate, she also has the calmness to face the outside world.
Outside of work, Xue Jianing's favorite thing is to eat, drink and have fun with her girlfriend Crown, enjoy life, and the state is so relaxed that people are envious.
She loves to share music, scenery, and often share interesting things: cute graffiti on the side of the road, interesting restaurants on the street, dolls taken at hand...
Even if she went downstairs to make a nucleic acid, she also photographed the cherries in the yard and tweeted: "Smell the smell of April, the plant does not speak, but it reminds the beauty of the world." ”
This attitude of living out oneself calmly is admirable. It has nothing to do with the hustle and bustle, it is only about the perception of life and the understanding of cultivation.
Xue Jianing clearly understands that the growth of life is a process of continuous pleasure for yourself.
The gains and losses of the first half of her life seem to have nothing to do with her, and she has her own new answers about happiness and self-consistency.
She traded off love and hate, honor and disgrace, and she also chose her former self-doubt.
In the past casting, she will deliberately avoid the same role as "Ha Mei", in order to get rid of this label as soon as possible, and constantly try to play various roles such as decent and villain.
But now, she no longer blindly casts, but "finds the soul of the character, that is, a knife he throws in the hearts of others." ”
He even said that his favorite role is Ha Mei, because this role makes everyone remember her.
From doubting that she can't act, to deeply understanding the connotation of the role, to accepting the labels she once was, Xue Jianing has gradually become a woman who is general in the land and embraces all things.
Set aside external love and hate, honor, and good and bad, and explore inward joy.
Like a vine that was once twisted and entangled, it stretches out, blossoms straight, and climbs upward to a higher dimension.
This dimension points to the beautiful dimension of life, to happiness.
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