Cai Qin is my favorite Chinese female singer, let's tell her story.
Cai Qin was born in 1957.
She was the eldest daughter, her father was an ocean captain, she had been absent from home for a long time, and she naturally assumed the responsibilities of a man in the family.
She said her mother did not dare to sleep alone and slept in the same bed with her sister every day.
Cai Qin, the eldest sister, sleeps alone in a hut by the back door – in order to symbolically protect the safety of the whole family.
Qiong Yao's parents forced Qiong Yao to enter the university, which is the family of Wangnu Chengfeng.
But in the average family, the eldest daughter is often abandoned.
In order to help her younger sister review, Cai Qin dropped out of school in her sophomore year of high school.
Two years later, he retook the college entrance examination and was admitted to the "Night Department of The Family Practice" - simply put, it is a college of the night college.
She debuted in 1979 with a song called "Just Like My Tenderness."
But she wears glasses and has a low education, and for a long time she has been inferior in appearance.
She once wrote to introduce herself and came up and said, "I am the ugly, glasses-wearing Cai Qin." ”
Is she beautiful? Matter.
But I know in what situation a woman will take the initiative to say that she is "ugly", for self-defense, for the sake of her foreknowledge that you may say.
She must have heard people say they were ugly many times, maybe in person or behind her back.
Why did she accept a ten-year sexless marriage with Yang Dechang?
Is there an element of inferiority in this?
Does she feel that she is not good-looking enough to ask for it?
In her early years, she always had a strong sense of crisis in her career.
In 1991, the second Taiwan Golden Melody Awards were awarded to her, and she was surprised because she felt that her career was already in decline.
——Big sister, you still have to be red for thirty years, what a downhill road.
In 1988, her father suffered a stroke in a car accident and was bedridden.
In 1993, my father died.
That same year, her UFO records were sold to Warner.
She went to ask the boss: Am I on the blacklist?
The boss cried before he spoke, choked up and said: Yes.
- She was hidden in the snow.
Warner will push her own people and will no longer spend resources on her.
In 1995, she divorced.
In 2000, she found out that something had grown on her breasts.
OK, all of this you see, family breakdowns, career stagnation, marriage failure, health crisis — all together constitute despair.
Some people say, "There will be no despair without men", is it too much to look down on women?
Women also have careers.
What did Cai Qin do to fight despair?
Or is there something she's been doing to avoid herself from reaching despair?
One, singing;
2. Be the host;
Third, acting in movies.
These all sound like the proper meaning of an artist, and then look down;
Fourth, write a column. Not joking at all, Cai Qin opened a column in the Xinmin Evening News.
Fifth, write songs. She was able to write songs for herself later because she kept writing. She was golden-voiced, she wasn't a singer-songwriter, but she was writing hard.
Sixth, do styling design, in October 1993, he served as the styling design of the movie "Independent Era" (director Yang Dechang, which is what she herself said, doing art for men's films), and was nominated for the best styling design at the 31st Taiwan Golden Horse Awards;
Seven, sing musicals and learn to "sing".
In 2003, she went to New York for a three-month art training. She was 46 years old. In her carry-on luggage, she only brought 1 pair of sneakers, 1 pair of casual shoes, 2 pairs of jeans, 5 T-shirts, 240 bags of loquat paste, and 300 bags of Sichuan shell almond powder. She set herself the three "zero" principles of "zero awareness", "zero income" and "zero (pro) machine strain".
By 2001, at a concert at the Red Pavilion in Hong Kong, she was finally able to sing "Light Up the Neon Lights".
The song was recorded before her divorce and for many years she cried when she heard the prelude.
But she had to sing, she had to let herself cry and sing this song silently, in order to break through the demons of her heart and survive the most difficult day of her life.
She sang, and when she cried in the middle and couldn't continue, it was the audience, the silent audience, who made up for her with applause.
According to Cai Qin herself, by 2006, it was almost out.
In 2012, she said: "I never wanted to retire, the more I sang, the happier I became, especially the audience cheered and thundered, giving me a sense of satisfaction for a glorious victory."
This sense of satisfaction is the mountain and the sea in a person's heart.
This is the process of a woman who breaks through despair with her own strength.
And Cai Qin, as early as ten years ago, has sung "Just Like Your Tenderness" ninety thousand times.
Ninety thousand times, each time full of affection, what a powerful professionalism.
She had this to say:
Divorced, divorced;
The knife that should be opened, opened;
The fat that should be lost, the weight that has been lost;
New clothes to wear, wear.
I'm sorry, I didn't expect that there were only countless concerts at work, countless records, and countless life insights, that is, love on the white roll.
Breaking the despair is not so simple, not traveling, watching dramas;
Despair also doesn't revolve around men;
Under normal circumstances, among the biggest setbacks a person can encounter in his life,
The first is: the death of a loved one;
The second place is: divorce;
The third place is: career failure (or bankruptcy);
The fourth place is: serious disease;
Lost love doesn't even have to be ranked.
Don't stigmatize women, don't think that women's despair is because of boyfriends, husbands and children, don't think that women have no family, no career and no health.
How to overcome despair, survive the past, and embrace beautiful possibilities when these major setbacks occur is indeed something that everyone needs to think about.
Look at Cai Qin's face, from the green of the ugly duckling, to saying on the stage: What are the four heavenly kings and a few days later, I am the queen of heaven.
How many times she has experienced despair, how many times she has been born again.
No one can reach the peak of life without despair.