"I can marry you, but only if we don't have sex!"
Faced with the rare request made by his lover Yang Dechang, Cai Qin humbly agreed.
Cai Qin originally thought that after marriage, she could slowly change her husband's thinking. Unexpectedly, what she waited for was her husband's betrayal again and again.
After ten years of marriage, the disheartened Cai Qin chose to divorce Yang Dechang.
In the face of Yang Dechang's move to soon get married and have two children, Cai Qin never took the initiative to slander her ex-husband in front of the public, even if she was questioned by the media, she kept her mouth shut.
Only when he learned of Yang Dechang's death, Cai Qin cried bitterly.
"I already knew that he only had such a short life left, and I would definitely divorce him early and let him enjoy it freely."
Sing for mother in place of father
Cai Qin when he was a student did not conform to the aesthetics of that year.
He has short hair, dark and rough skin, thick lips, eyes that are not watery enough, and always hides behind a pair of large-framed glasses.
There is also a mole on the face, which is very obvious on the side of the nose, under the eyes.
At a young age, but very old, he always likes to hum old songs that his peers don't like to hear, and he is not as popular as girls of the same age.
All this is closely related to Cai Qin's growth environment.
Cai Qin is the eldest daughter in the family and has three younger siblings, although her parents are loving, but due to the nature of her father's work, she often gathers less and separates more.
Because my father was the captain of an ocean-going ferry, it took a year and a half to return to his family every time he went to sea.
His father was enthusiastic, loved literature and art, and sang with a beautiful voice, often holding Cai Qin and his younger siblings, singing old songs full of longing for them.
When the father was not at home, the mother carried everything alone, went to work, did laundry and cooking, and took care of her four children.
My mother also liked to listen to songs, especially my father's singing. Whenever my father left late at night, my mother would take out a small record player and listen to songs while shedding tears of missing her lover.
Gradually, Cai Qin began to learn to sing to her mother like her father to soothe her mother's lonely heart.
The daughter's voice is very beautiful and talented, and the mother is very pleased, thinking that Cai Qin will definitely become a singer in the future.
But when Cai Qin was ten years old, her mother's expectations were shattered.
The reason is that Cai Qin has changed her voice.
The crisp and shrill voice that originally belonged to a girl became low and hoarse overnight.
The mother worries every day, thinking that her daughter will no longer be able to continue singing. Until Cai Qin suddenly found that he could sing very low, and his voice was still very good.
The girl's husky voice carries an inexplicable charm, and when singing old songs, it is particularly charming.
Cai Qin gained joy and confidence in singing, and also firmly embarked on the road to music.
In order to have her own guitar, Cai Qin participated in the singing competition and won the fourth place, which made the audience refreshed.
With a unique husky voice, Cai Qin rose to prominence in the folk style song competition, and participated in the recording of an album at the age of 22, a song "Just Like Your Tenderness", which successfully attracted attention.
Then, Cai Qin released albums such as "A Thousand Springs", "Blue Dream", "No Love", etc., which became famous and popular.
Just when Cai Qin's career was at its peak, she met Yang Dechang.
A man who praises her sexiness.
At the same time, the man who "delayed" her for ten years.
Married in different rooms, unlike lovers like work partners
All along, Cai Qin knew that his appearance did not have much advantage.
Therefore, when receiving an invitation from director Yang Dechang to play the heroine, Cai Qin refused.
However, Yang Dechang was obsessed with her and personally told Cai Qin: "In my eyes, you are very sexy. ”
Cai Qin, who never wins with his appearance, was fiercely moved at this moment. She promised Yang Dechang to play the heroine of "Childhood Sweetheart".
During the filming of the film, the talented Yang Dechang began to pursue Cai Qin. Cai Qin also appreciates Yang Dechang's talent in film.
The two have been officially dating for more than a year, and they are a good match in the eyes of outsiders, but the 28-year-old Cai Qin is anxious.
Yang Dechang is 38 years old, why didn't he propose to himself?
Cai Qin very much wants to get married, looking forward to living under the eaves with her lover and raising a pair of children.
But she couldn't wait for Yang Dechang's marriage proposal, and every time she mentioned it, Yang Dechang always looked unhappy.
Cai Qin's heart was crossed and told Yang Dechang:
If you don't get married, then break up!
Forcing a breakup did have an effect, but Yang Dechang made a request, which surprised Cai Qin.
Yang Dechang told Cai Qin that it was okay to get married, but to pursue platonic love and pursue spiritual love, so he would not sleep with Cai Qin.
Cai Qin, who fell in love to the depths of her feelings, didn't think much, she thought that she could continue to cultivate feelings after marriage, so she agreed.
Soon, the satisfied Cai Qin and Yang Dechang held a wedding.
After marriage, Cai Qin used her network resources more attentively to help Yang Dechang build a career without complaint.
He also starred in film and television dramas directed by Yang Dechang.
However, the more the two get along, the more the relationship becomes like ordinary colleagues.
One late night, Cai Qin was driving home after work, there was a problem with the car on the road, Cai Qin thought that if he called Yang Dechang, he would come to pick him up.
Unexpectedly, Yang Dechang told her coldly that you can take a taxi back.
When Cai Qin returned home, Yang Dechang had already gone to bed and did not care about her at all.
Similar things happen more and more, and the hurt Cai Qin still has illusions about Yang Dechang, hoping that one day the two can live like a normal couple.
However, Yang Dechang betrayed Cai Qin.
Yang Dechang, who took the initiative to ask for different rooms before marriage, constantly spread various scandals, and went in and out with other women, and was caught by tabloid reporters.
Cai Qin couldn't believe it, it turned out that Yang Dechang's platonic love was only aimed at himself. Once you meet someone you love more, all principles are no longer counted.
After struggling for several years, Cai Qin decided to let go, and the two divorced peacefully.
Yang Dechang turned around and married the wife of a pianist 18 years younger, and it was unhappy to have children.
Leaving Cai Qin alone, he was depressed.
Ten years of sexless marriage brought too much harm to Cai Qin, and repressed emotions ate away at her body.
After being diagnosed with cancer, Cai Qin wrote a 40-page suicide note while crying to arrange all her future affairs.
Fortunately, after treatment, Cai Qin recovered her health and stood on the stage again.
Unfortunately, Cai Qin's ex-husband Yang Dechang is not as lucky as Cai Qin.
May he be set free sooner
After the two divorced, Yang Dechang once told the media that this ten-year marriage was a blank.
Cai Qin didn't think so, she did give a lot.
Cai Qin was 38 years old at the time of the divorce, and after curing cancer, she was 43 years old.
Spending his precious ten years on Yang Dechang, so that even if Cai Qin fell in love again, it would be difficult for him to enter marriage again, let alone conceive his own children.
Although Yang Dechang soon started a new family with both children, Yang Dechang was diagnosed with colon cancer when he was only in his fifties.
After round after round of treatment, it still did not improve.
In 2007, 59-year-old Yang Dechang passed away.
On the night she learned the news, Cai Qin covered her face and cried at home.
The two married in 1985, divorced in 1995, and after 12 years of divorce, Yang Dechang died.
Cai Qin felt sad and remorseful.
If she had known that Yang Dechang would have been killed by illness at a young age, she would rather divorce Yang Dechang as soon as possible and let him enjoy life.
Two people who can't love each other, tormented together for so long, eventually hurt both parties, it's better to let go early.
After figuring it out, Cai Qin is more comfortable with feelings and no longer has an obsession with marriage.
She focused on her career, protected her voice, released records, gave concerts, and sang old songs.
For the events of that year, Cai Qin has been able to face the wind and clouds lightly.
Despite ten years of sexless marriage, Cai Qin brought many imperfect memories.
Just come out, keep looking, and don't get stuck in self-deceptive love.
You will find that there are more beautiful things in this world that are worth pursuing.