"Marriage is a walled city, and people outside the city want to go in, and people in the city want to come out." This is a very influential famous sentence in the novel "Siege of the City", and Qian Zhongshu, a famous writer and literary researcher in modern China, simply and essentially summarizes the different perceptions of marriage in different situations of each person. It may be a choice of the state of existence of things from the perspective of cognition and direction. It may be a clear depiction of people's curiosity and entanglement in marriage. Famous sentences teach people a scientific attitude and prudent choices, and at the same time make people familiar with it.
However, the validity of this sentence, the author believes that there should be alternative prerequisites. It is important to thank the alternatives for the significance of this sentence, and if there is no alternative as a prerequisite, it will be impossible to talk about. The following is to say that the premise of Morde's alternative, only to slowly face and bear the topic.
Recently, due to the high pressure of work, some can not bear it, the body issued a strong protest and warning. On April 26, I had to take myself to the hospital, handed myself over to a doctor, and underwent the first comprehensive overhaul in my life.
When people reach middle age, they are a little uncomfortable when they change the ground, and it is difficult to fall asleep when they sleep, so the incessant sound of dialogue is still in their ears.
In the middle of the night, an emergency patient was transferred from the grass-roots hospital, and it could be judged from the dialogue that the escort was his wife. Maybe the memory is not good or it is too urgent, and when you get to the hospital, you don't know that you have forgotten your ID card and medical insurance card. When the doctor and nurse arranged the patient, the wife quickly called her granddaughter.
"Liu Wazi, your grandfather came to the Chinese Medicine Hospital for hospitalization, forgot to bring his ID card and medical insurance card, you come to guard him tomorrow for a while, I went back to my hometown in the countryside to get it, took something and came back to change you..."
The dialogue's Willow Baby was still good at talking, "Although I don't have time, I still have to come..."
When the conversation was over, the patient asked his wife to call his son. The old partner said, "Such a big night, I won't tell them." ”
The patient said firmly and angrily, "Why don't you say it?" It must be said that immediately inform..."
Because the back of the ear is just talking to oneself, I don't know if others have heard or not heard or admitted that they have not listened carefully or listened to the implementation, but they just crackle and crackle their own complaints, and they are like an elder or something to speak to the juniors or subordinates.
"Fortunately, there are still tens of thousands of yuan in the hand, and they don't need to take money, so why not notify them?" If you want them to pay for it..."
The old partner did not listen carefully to the patient's speech at all, and quietly dialed his son's phone when the patient was nagging.
"Hey, baby, you're asleep?"
"I went to bed early this night, why?"
"Your father is sick, and the treatment in the township hospital has not improved, but it has become more and more serious." No, I was transferred to the city hospital. You won't be able to come tonight. I told Liu Wazi to come and tell her to come for me tomorrow, and if you have time tomorrow, you can come and see..."
"Tomorrow is very busy, can you see if you can find time?"
Perhaps because of the tailwind ear, the patient selectively hears it. Not long after the mother-child dialogue ended, the patient shouted loudly again.
Mo forgot, and called him to come tomorrow and buy a toilet to bring. Mo fa's dismissal is the big thing..."
Patients are like the kings of their old wives, with strong leadership, deterrence, and control. The wife seemed to be obedient and obedient, and passed on the information she received to her son. Hearing this, the son's answer was impatient, "Okay, okay, I know!" ”
In fact, without the mother's reminder, where will know the specific details and things that need to be undertaken.
"You go back tomorrow, one is to get your ID card, medical insurance card, and the other is to take out the 10,000 yuan of money in your hand that is due..." The patient began to arrange tomorrow's work for his wife and children.
When they were washed and settled, the floor was quiet again.
At dawn, the patient called out to his wife, "You said it to Liu Wazi last night, and now you haven't come..." It is another accusation and anger.
The old partner did not say a word, and seemed to be accustomed to questioning in this tone. Maybe it is to be considerate of the sick patient and not to worry about it, or maybe it is to have deep feelings for the patient, only to live in harmony, or maybe there are other situations that are not known.
After a while, the patient's son came, and at the same time brought what the patient needed, and it seemed that it was only in a hurry.
"I'm going to the construction site today, and you only have to wait for Liu Wazi to take care of it, so why did you say that?"
"As long as things are bought, I will be relieved, you hurry up and get busy, Liu Wazi she always has to come..."
As soon as he heard this, the man dropped his things and turned away.
After a while, the willow doll who was fortunate to be in charge of his wife came in a hurry.
After 8 o'clock in the morning, an elderly old lady came to the 64th bed, who was dizzy and weak, and came to see a doctor. Looking at the face, you know that he is an optimistic and cheerful person. He also took the initiative to talk to me, "Comrade, your surname?" Where are the people? What do you do? ......”
In a question and answer, I also knew her situation. This year is 90 years old, the old partner is 92 years old, not in the workplace, the old partner is still a comrade hugh, has won a lot of glory, the children and grandchildren are also very good, Ye Scattered Branches and four generations of the same church. The eldest son in the local area is the director of the city bureau has just retired, changed his wife in the middle of the way, and has a small grandson to take care of, and there is no time to see; The second son, in Chengdu career is very large, listed enterprises, never worry about money or anything, is not extra time; The youngest daughter, in charge of a provincial research institute, and the son-in-law works in the provincial organization department; There is also a grandson who graduated with a Ph.D. at the Massachusetts Institute of Technology and is still working at a research institute in the United States...
Ordinary people only have a share of envy, and it may be more embarrassing to meet the realization at the same time. Everything is so proud, just sick, no relatives around to take care of. Talking about this, she herself is very conflicted.
"The far can't come back, the near can't come, so why do you do it?" Only they will rest themselves, and they will have their own things. Fortunately, I also have a nephew who is very good, he sent it when he came, and came to pick it up when he shouted back, I don't agree, it's too troublesome, I'm really sorry. ”
"It's my sister's son, and his mother is already gone." I was the only one among my old companions and brothers, and those who had died long ago had already passed away. ”
Hearing this, I can't help but think of an old saying, "There is no cold in the high places." People are the same, older and older, in fact, very lonely and helpless.
By noon, the old lady's phone rang again, and she knew who it was from the caller ID, and consciously whispered, "It's my nephew's call again." ”
"When I get off work later, I'll pick you up at the hospital gate."
"No, no, you can go to work with peace of mind." If you have time, take a time off at home on the weekend. ”
"Then come to my house."
"Nope. You two come to our house. This man can't tell, he doesn't know when he will leave this world. I'll tell you where I put the clothes I bought, how I got them, and I'll tell you..."
"How could it be? Don't think about it, you will live a long life..."
"I think so too, but the length of life is not subject to the will of man. We only rely on you. If there is something, it is very unreliable to wait for them to come back. Only if you make us a good standard, we will be satisfied..."
"Since your old man said so, then we will implement it according to what you said, please rest assured..."
From this, I have to remind me of what I once heard, "Children who can't read books or children who don't have the ability are here to repay the favor." Don't take its existence lightly. "Children who can read books or children who have the ability to contribute to society." Although this is not the truth, it has a meaning of existence.
After the conversation with my nephew, I talked to me again.
"Last night after 10 o'clock, shortly after I went back, my head was swollen and dead. My wife accompanied me to the hospital to see a doctor. I was afraid that there was a three long and two short, so I video chatted with my little daughter. My daughter asked, how did my father become a companion at such an old age? Why didn't Big Brother come? I quickly forgave my eldest son, afraid that she would argue with her eldest brother, and through persuasion I reassured my younger daughter and stopped tangling..."
Thinking in my heart, when I was a child, I had my parents in charge, and I should live a comfortable and comfortable life; Grow up and be born in society, have their own friends and have their own careers, and they can cope with it freely; Only when they are old, they can't manage themselves, coupled with the fact that their children are not around and the family members can't be in place in time, they have to rely on others and survive almost pitifully.
Like the patient and the old lady who transferred from the township, they were already very lucky, with a high life expectancy and freedom of action, although the children could not accompany them, at least there were old companions who knew the cold and the hot, and there were nephews and grandchildren who listened to the call.
The stage of aging is what everyone will experience, whether they are healthy or not, what is the state of survival, whether there is no one to accompany them, and who will help, it is not up to their own imagination and wishes. To put it bluntly, unlike the matters discussed at the beginning of the article, this is a choice of choice, only to treat it with a light heart and composure, just like boiling afternoon tea, simmering slowly over a low flame until the water is extinguished.
I like a passage by Feng Zikai in "Suddenly Enlightened": Since there is nowhere to escape, it is better to be happy, since there is no pure land, it is better to purify the heart, and since there is no wish, it is better to be relieved.
Invisibly, people at each stage seem to enter different spaces and live in the courtyard. I hope that everyone should be a person with a heart, not only to think in a different position, but also to listen to the voices of different yards, not only to live their own lives, but also to lend a helping hand in a timely manner, and to provide the necessary help and services within their capabilities. More importantly, it is more important to have the companionship of the heart. Companionship is the longest confession of affection, and companionship is the core filial piety.
"The old and the old, the young and the young." Everyone must have a sense of crisis, but also have enough love and filial piety. Because everyone has to go through all the stages, why not be prepared for the unexpected? Why not set an example with your own strength? Over time, won't filial piety be passed on naturally? (Created in 2022, the author Li Maofeng, working for the Development and Reform Bureau of Bazhou District, Bazhong City, Sichuan Province)