Under the wind of the times, game live broadcasting has changed the fate of many people. The 15-year-old Lonely, from an Internet addict teenager to a head game anchor, has 2.23 million fans on the platform and has gained great wealth, but this change, for him, is also cruel.
He gave up on continuing his studies. Although the live broadcast made him a lot of money, it also broke the family that was still relatively harmonious. The father diverted the $4.2 million he earned from live streaming for other purposes, divorced his mother, and had children outside. For the sake of his mother, and to defend the gains of his labor, when he became an adult, he took his father to court in the name of custody and property disputes.
The silent family tragedy is a mistake caused by the lack of protection of minors in the reckless era of the live broadcasting industry, and it is also a human tragedy that ordinary people cannot cope with with a normal heart when facing the opportunities of the times. 4.2 million, which seems like a lot, implies a huge price, especially for minors who have no autonomy and are mentally immature, and what changes their lives is their lives.
From June 1, 2021, the newly revised Law on the Protection of Minors was officially implemented, which specifically added a chapter on online protection to protect minors online from a legislative perspective, stipulating that minors under the age of 16 are prohibited from opening online live broadcasts.
The struggle between Silence and his father lasted for three years. In the past three years, he had seen the complexity of human nature, and he attributed it all to his father. He turned 21 this year, and at the end of June, after a two-tier court trial, he and his father chose to settle out of court. The mediation plan is that the father will pay 1 million, 150,000 per year, and pay it off within 7 years.
But in his view, "this lawsuit was won, but it was lost to reality." He chose to break off relations with his father and "don't come to me when he's old." Silent Ran is still broadcasting live, he has thought, if he chooses another road, do not live broadcast, can he have a normal family life? He sometimes feels very tired, the joy of playing games has disappeared, and he doesn't know how long he can do live broadcasting and what he is fighting for. Taking care of his mother and raising his brother became his life goals.
In the narration, Silence's title for his father often changes, sometimes "my father", sometimes "biological father", sometimes directly by his first name. He wanted to make a cut of his memories related to his father.
Here's what Silence tells.
Text | Yi Fangxing
Edit | Zhao Lei
Operational | Painted fireflies
A moment of rupture
On January 21, 2022, I was scared that day, and while I was broadcasting, my dad came to the door.
Two months before that, I approached a lawyer to sue my dad and recover the money he had taken from me. From 2017 to the beginning of 2019, I earned a total of 4.2 million in live streaming, because I was still an adult, and all this money went to my dad and let him manage it. But after he had the money, he squandered it and divorced my mother.
After I sued my dad, his bank card was frozen. That night, my father did not know where to know the password, directly opened the password lock and came in, I hurriedly broadcast, and in a hurry, I also called the police, because I was really scared in my heart, worried that he would do something too drastic.
Sure enough, he found it because his bank card was frozen. He threatened me that he was my guardian, that the money I earned was his, and that if I disobeyed, I would wait for the police to come and arrest me. After the police came, they could only mediate, but the property dispute still had to be resolved in court.
The first time I had a trial, my dad didn't hire a lawyer, and he said he was my guardian, so my income was all his, and it was reasonable and legal for him to spend it. The court did not support him. At the end of June, the second trial, he sold the car, hired a lawyer, changed the rhetoric, and the trial lasted three hours from 9 a.m. to 12 noon.
His lawyer believes that in the more than two years that I have been live broadcasting, my income has totaled 4.2 million, I don't care about money, every month's living expenses, large and small expenses have to be taken with my father, which adds up to more than 1.4 million, to be deducted. Although I don't have a specific count, I think it is actually only more than 500,000.
▲ Silent ran to the law firm to check the accounting bill given by his father. Figure / Courtesy of the interviewee
According to this calculation, the net profit is 2.8 million. But the lawyer said that my father was not a guardian, but a partner of mine, an agent, so the net profit should be half a share with me, which is equivalent to saying that he deserves 1.4 million. And my 1.4 million miles, he also put the renovation costs of the house I live in now, the money to buy mobile phones and computers, and the money that I transferred to my mother every month to support the family, and even listed some of the money he spent, more than 1.2 million, all of which were counted as my expenses and had been spent. In the end, he only needs to pay me back about 100,000.
But our point is that he can't count that way, he, as a guardian, just drove me to sign three contracts and actually didn't do much. At most, once, the live event was going to hit the list, he used my money to help me rush the list, and once, the live lottery he helped me send some prizes. He did a total of three things, and he said that it would be 50%, which was certainly impossible. And the money I spent, if I die, it will be 1 million, then he will at least pay me back 3 million.
There was not a single outcome argued in court at the time.
At the end of June, the court recommended that we mediate out of court. The mediation plan given was that my dad still had 1 million, 150,000 a year, and paid it off within 7 years. If there is a one-year non-repayment, it is fully enforced. At first, I couldn't accept this plan at all. And divided into seven years, he can continue to have fun and procrastinate.
But the judge said that if the lawsuit continues, it will not be able to award much money, because the case will have to involve my mother. Although my parents are now divorced, according to the law, the money was there before they divorced, and even if my mother did not touch the money, my father was sued and had to bear the debt jointly.
Now he has no property in his name, only a foundation house that is not protected by law. Even if the lawsuit is really fought to the end, it can only be said that he is pulled into the blacklist and not allowed to take the plane and high-speed rail, which has no impact on him. So I was really angry, and I almost cried at the time, but then I figured it out and agreed to the out-of-court settlement plan.
For me, it's succumbing to reality. Although Chinese law does not break the relationship between father and son, please do not come to me when he is old.
"Happy" memories
From the earliest days of my understanding, my family has always been my mother's money to support the family.
My father didn't work much, and when he was a child, he remembered telling others fortune-telling feng shui or something, collecting hundreds at a time. In 2006, when I was five years old and in kindergarten, my mother was working in the factory, one or two thousand a month, and when I went to elementary school, my mother went to work in Leather City, and she could have 3,000 yuan a month. In my impression, although I was not hungry and warm when I was a child, I was not very rich, and I was a little worse than the average family. When I was a kid, I didn't have toys, my wish was often just to eat a bag of seaweed, and when I got to the supermarket, I didn't talk, I just stared at the seaweed. Occasionally, my mom would buy it for me once.
I didn't get beaten much when I was a kid. The only time I remember was when I was in elementary school, my english test scores were poor, my dad hit me on the head, and I didn't hit much since. At that time, I played more with my dad, but my mom was occasionally a little fierce, she worked harder, may be stressful at work, and sometimes lose her temper with me.
Before I was 10 years old, I had two happy memories, both related to my dad. First, my dad likes to play games, so when I was in kindergarten, my family bought a desktop computer; The second was that my dad took me on a trip. In those years, the online game "Legend" was very popular, and my dad liked to cut legends. When I was 6 years old, my dad took me to an Internet café to cut legends. I have a computer at home, and I play games at home.
When I was in elementary school, most of the time my mother used an electric car to take me to school, at that time I was an ordinary elementary school student at school, but outside of class, I was already an Internet addicted teenager.
I do have a bit of a talent for playing games. My dad loved to play games and taught me to play StarCraft, Warcraft and the like. By the time I was seven or eight years old, I had also tested that my APM of StarCraft operation had reached 150-200, that is, when operating the game, the number of mouse clicks per minute could reach up to 200 times (an average adult player can only reach about 110 times on average).
At that time, my level was almost the same as my father's, and he would praise me for playing well. Once, he called an uncle to come to the house to play, and I played a game of Warcraft 1V1 with that uncle, and I won, and he also rewarded me with a red envelope.
I was at school just a different story. I can't learn the subjects that require endorsement, and I stay up for a long time when I go to class. The grades slowly changed from middle to lower middle. I am also not good at socializing, friends are limited, every day when I come home from school, after doing homework, my time is spent playing games, playing until eight or nine o'clock in the evening to sleep, when I was more addicted.
At that time, I already knew the concept of e-sports, but I was too young to have any ideas, so I just wanted to play after reading. According to normal circumstances, I would go to a vocational high school, learn a craft, and then graduate and earn money to live.
In early 2016, I was not yet 15 years old. At that time, it was the winter vacation of the second year of junior high school, my father gave me a Xiaomi mobile phone, he used the rest, and my classmates called me to play the king together, which was my first contact with this game.
I quickly became the highest in our class and later became the strongest in the school, when I was the first 150 star in the district. In this way, even some people in the school knew about me. Once I went to the school cafeteria, a classmate who grew very handsome in the grade was our school grass, he came over and took the initiative to talk to me, asking me if I was on the hundred stars? I said yes.
It really gave me joy and a sense of accomplishment.
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Other than that, there aren't many places in my life where I can get a sense of accomplishment. At best, it's math. Math was the only one I learned well in junior high school, I usually scored more than ninety, sometimes with full marks, but I was seriously biased, and English was the worst.
At that time, my dad also quit this game because of my myopia. I used to play with the computer, but after playing with the phone, I became short-sighted. I played with the computer for a while, and then my dad bought me a tablet. Thinking about it this way, I had a really good impression of my dad at that time.
The road to live streaming
At the end of 2016, in the third year of junior high school, I started live streaming. At that time, many live broadcasts were very popular, and many platforms were grabbing anchors. I joined a team at random, and one of the members of the team saw that I was playing well and said let me go live.
At that time, minors can also broadcast live. I gave myself the name "Silence", which at first was called "Lonely Silence". I don't have many friends, I don't talk to my parents, and many times I chat with netizens. I remember that on the first day of broadcasting, only a few people in the team went to see it. I locked the door, a little afraid my parents would know. But I have always insisted that it be broadcast every day when I come back from school, and they will slowly learn about it. I remember in the live broadcast room, someone gave me a 23 yuan gift, a virtual seahorse, and I was very happy at the time. Later, I gave more gifts, and I received up to 666 yuan a virtual pearl.
▲ Photo / Visual China
I also didn't want to play the king's professional game. Because at that time, although my mother did not have any particular objections, she always told me that it was best to study while broadcasting, and she still wanted me to study.
In the first month, I made more than 1,000 yuan, and the bank card was in my dad's place, and I didn't withdraw it. Mainly I don't have such a concept either. When I was a child, my mother often said that she was very tired, and I felt very hard when I looked at her, so I always felt that I could live with money. I never spend money indiscriminately.
After three or four months of live broadcasting, I can earn more than 10,000 yuan a month. I sometimes broadcast for more than ten hours a day, and I can increase my fans by more than 10,000. After I caught fire, almost all the platforms came to dig me up. They added my QQ, and then said they were treated well here, and I refused, mainly because the liquidated damages were too high.
After my dad found out that Kari had this money every month, he didn't care too much at first, but later, when the money was more and more, he was particularly supportive of me. In 2017, in the second half of my junior year, my dad directly helped me to go to the school to take a break and let me broadcast live. I remember going to school to take a leave of absence from the teacher, and then I came back, and then I took a final exam at the end of the third year of junior high school. As for high school, I didn't read it, and I went livestreaming it directly.
My dad supported my live streaming. But my mom was still more traditional and wanted me to be able to study best, and even though she knew I could make a lot of money a month, she thought I should study. Later, the number of fans had exceeded a million, and when my mother said these words again, I couldn't answer her. How could I possibly go back to school? It can only be the wind in the ear. As for myself, I really don't have any ideas.
After that, two and a half years of live streaming, I made $4.2 million. My dad told me that the money could be used to invest, buy a house, and so on, and he said that he could lend it to friends and have a high interest rate. I didn't question him. At that time, I trusted them because I believed that my parents could control them. I said to my dad, then you go get it.
I remember when my parents were happiest together, when I was just live streaming, when I was at home live streaming to make money, my parents took my brother and three people out on a trip, and I also had the ability to make them live well, and I thought it was quite good.
At that time, a few friends told me that their money should be managed by themselves, but I didn't listen to it at the time, because I really felt that they were all family and quite credible. If I could sign a lawyer's agreement at that time, or I could manage the bank card myself, I could sign a custody contract, but now it is too late to say anything.
Defend motherhood
The last thing I can bear is that my father bullied my mother.
In 2019, I'm 17 years old and almost an adult. In May of that year, one night at 12 o'clock, I had just finished the live broadcast, and my mother suddenly went downstairs and started crying as soon as she entered the door.
That was the first time my mom cried in front of me. Before, my mother would either come down to order me fruit, or occasionally cook me a meal, or wash my clothes or something, but that time I cried for an hour.
She said that my dad was looking for a junior outside, and that my dad had spent all my money. What I think is that if my dad spends my money no matter how much he spends, if he is still a family, I think it is acceptable. But he spent it outside and had nothing to do with me.
At that time, I myself was also facing the problem of jumping from tentacle live to tiger teeth, not knowing that so many things were happening at home. It turned out that my father had tricked my mother into signing a divorce agreement in March 2019, and the reason for the divorce was that I needed them to fake divorce and remarry later. In the agreement, he also signed in writing promising to raise my brother and give him 10,000 to 20,000 yuan a month.
Later, I went to Guangzhou to broadcast live, and once my mother fell, broke her hand, and was hospitalized for a few days. In those days, my father secretly took his ID card and car keys, and secretly sold the car I spent money on for my mother, because at that time, my income was no longer in his card, he did not go to work, he may not have money to spend, my mother only reported to the police, and then did not pursue. Not to mention the maintenance, not once beaten, and my mom didn't sue him.
I was not at all aware of these behaviors on his outside. My concept of money is very vague, usually do not spend money, just eat, sleep, play games, life is very simple. I didn't expect money to turn people into this. Now I am very disappointed in my dad, and the previous memories have turned into hatred.
Before he got to court, he had always been a laissez-faire and foolish attitude, feeling that he could cheat as long as he could. I later analyzed that a month before the fake divorce in March 2019, the woman actually had a child in her belly. Then he may have had his own choice, and I had a feeling that he had chosen to give up on me, for the family, but at the same time he didn't want to give up my money.
That year, I felt disgusted when I learned about it. Five months after my mom came to me and cried, I was 18 years old and really out of my dad's control.
In 2019, I thought about going to a lawyer and asked a lawyer, but the formal prosecution was two years later. By 2021, my live broadcast work has stabilized, and I am also 20 years old, before I start to officially fight a lawsuit, I want to give my mother an explanation.
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Fantasy and reality
My mom always had illusions about my dad.
In my opinion, if my mother is really good for our two sons, she should sue my father, no matter how much he can get, but he should do it. But my mother always thought, for example, let The little three beat up the child, the life will still be able to live, or let my father divorce the woman, and then come back, can still be a family. This is the result she hopes for.
But my dad is with me and can't forgive anymore. After he made his choice, I had no illusions. When I called the police that day, I made it clear to my dad that you would give me back what you could, and the property you still have, such as the car and house he bought with my money, and give it back to me, and I wouldn't sue, and I knew he couldn't come up with the money.
And what disgusted me the most was that in front of me, my dad never showed regret. In front of my mother, he may still be doing things, but not in front of me anyway.
Now I have one more half-sister. The child is innocent, I don't have any opinions, but it really has nothing to do with me, it is impossible to say that I will raise anything in the future, and I will not contact her.
My mom is still at work today. She went to work because she didn't feel like she could sit idle, and she had been doing this all these years, and if she had the ability to work and was raised by her son, she felt that it was not good, and I had a younger brother.
I don't feel lonely now, but I feel that my mother and my brother are lonely. Later, I returned to Zhejiang from Guangzhou, moved closer to my mother, and once went to play a game, they came to see me, and my brother cried when he saw me. My mother said that my brother missed me more, but in fact, I would not do this, because I grew up, as an adult, I would not say that I was particularly fond of relatives.
So, now I live with my mom and my brother. I live on the 3rd floor livestream, and my mom and my brother live on the 4th floor. Family members, still close to each other, accompany each other.
I live from 6 p.m. to the wee hours of the morning. I really want to live well, I really try, I am actually an otaku, eating, drinking, sleeping and playing a game, not kryptonite gold, a month overhead is not thousands. But I've been trading my health for all these years, and I don't know how long it will last, sometimes I feel really tired.
My mom always told me that she felt a little sorry for me, that my family might have been too bitter when I was a child, and that I had a bad time. Actually, I think I was pretty good at that time.
When the hobby of playing games becomes the work of live broadcasting, it will produce fatigue. The joy of play is slowly decreasing, and I now make it my job. Sometimes, there is also a very sense of nothingness. I always feel that life is so hard, but I don't know what I'm doing.
I also thought that if I choose another path, do not live broadcast, choose to go to high school, maybe our family will have a normal family life, and I choose live broadcasting, the back is not normal.
I think that's the reason for the money.
I'm 21 now and I haven't regretted that I didn't go on to school. But my mom now wants me to go to an adult college. Diploma low this thing, to be honest I don't care much. Regardless of the level of education, there will always be a mixture of good and bad. My mom is now looking for a job in an insurance company, earning four or five thousand a month, and according to her income, it is certainly not enough to raise my brother and raise a family, so I have to work hard, and I am ready to raise my brother until he is 18 years old.
Another big reason for my voice online this time is to help my mom out, and I see that my mom is much more relaxed now than before. As for my father's memories, I sealed them. Or, rather, the former him and the present him, I will make a split.
And my own money, now finally by myself. I would punch money into my mom's card, and just in case, I signed a contract with my mom anyway. But how to say, my mother, as my relative, should not happen again.
▲ Silently posted a video and fans explaining the verdict. Figure / B station video screenshot
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