Many years later, Gu Jiayi met Wen Zhiyuan again, her former crush, driving a luxury car, doing big business, did not expect that he was not yet married, and what she did not expect was that Wen Zhiyuan was still thinking of being able to come with her.
The happiest thing for a woman is to get divorced, turn around and find that the person who had a crush on you is still waiting for you, and now he has become so good.
With a house in Nanjing, or a doctor in a public hospital, how can Gu Jiayi look up to Lin Hongnian? Is she too stupid? No, that's because you haven't understood Gu Jiayi, and after you understand it, you will know that Gu Jiayi is a woman who lives very thoroughly.
1. Single-parent families
Gu Jiayi is a child brought up by her mother, because there is no father, Gu Jiayi's mother regards her daughter as more important than other families, and everything must be managed. Such heavy maternal love also gave Gu Jiayi a lot of pressure, she understands her mother's hardships, so she has always been very obedient to her mother.
She likes to dance, her mother feels that learning to dance, there will be nothing to do in the future, she thinks that girls will be better to be doctors and teachers when they grow up, Gu Jiayi's mother is not wrong to think so.
However, Gu Jiayi believes that her mother does not respect her interests and hobbies, if she insisted on learning dance, she would now be the pillar of the provincial dance troupe, standing on the stage and shining, not as boring as she is now.
Children of single-parent families, most of them will encounter such a situation as Gu Jiayi, because without her father, Gu Jiayi's mother lacks a sense of security, she regards her daughter as the whole of life, gives her all her love, and also gives her a lot of pressure.
Gu Jiayi hated her mother the most, when she was a child, she couldn't resist, and when she grew up, she would think of staying away from her mother. After Gu Jiayi and Lin Hongnian received the marriage license, she thought of quickly living separately from her mother, and marriage was also the most appropriate reason for her to leave her mother.
As a result, her mother did not agree, there was an empty room at home, Gu Jiayi and Lin Hongnian lived at home, completely able to live.
Second, protect your daughter
Because her mother's desire for control is too strong, Gu Jiayi feels that her life ideals have been destroyed by her mother, so for her daughter Gu Lin's education, Gu Jiayi adopts a very relaxed attitude and respects her choice.
Gu Jiayi's mother did not agree with Gu Lin to learn painting, and could only be regarded as a hobby, if she wanted to paint for a living in the future, she felt that it was not okay. Those who paint on the street, a portrait of dozens of dollars, learning to paint professionally costs a lot, but it is difficult to earn money.
Seeing that her tragedy was going to be reproduced on Gu Lin, she immediately took measures and agreed to let Gu Lin go to Beijing to study, hiding from her mother.
In a video, psychology expert Wu Zhihong talked about the problem of parents "controlling" their children, saying:
"I am not an appendage to you, I am not your hands and feet, I am not an extension of your ego, I am not used to satisfy you, my life is my own."
These words were exactly what Gu Jiayi had in mind, and she also knew that Gu Lin at this time was just like her at the beginning. To be honest, children can be interested in one thing, and it is from the heart to like, willing to work hard for this hobby, I think parents should be good support.
If because of the parents' reasons, let the child forcibly give up their hobbies, the child will definitely remember this matter, just like Gu Jiayi, although the doctor's job is good, but she will always feel flawed.
Fortunately, Gu Jiayi's mother later figured it out and agreed to Gu Lin's learning to paint. In today's society, as long as you are willing to work hard, there are many employment opportunities, all walks of life, as long as you do a good job, you can get by in life.
Gu Jiayi's ideal of protecting her daughter is actually another way to make up for the regret of her original dance dream.
Third, trust
Speaking of Gu Jiayi's marriage, Gu Jiayi is 100% satisfied with Lin Hongnian, without a trace of calculation, Lin Hongnian said, when he first saw Gu Jiayi eating a gourd of rock sugar and laughing so happily, it should be the happiest time in Gu Jiayi's marriage!
Lin Hongnian was calculating to Gu Jiayi from the beginning, he was looking for a "patron", a woman who could give him a life support. Gu Jiayi's family conditions are good, the burden is light, and her own conditions are not to be said, such a woman is very sought-after in the marriage market.
Why did she just look at Lin Hongnian? Lin Hongnian is an orphan, his job is unstable, when he first met, he was still sick, such a man, there is no scoring item at all.
However, we must not forget a word, when a woman is in love, the IQ is zero, as long as the man will "coax", the woman will be willing to go with him.
Zhang Guorong once said: "The man who can make a woman addicted must not be your talent and appearance and money, but you have given her a kind of sincerity, kindness, steadfastness and tranquility that others cannot give, responsibility and warmth!" ”
What does this mean? That is, as long as men are careful, women will take it seriously. Lin Hongnian has been independent since he was a child, he seems to be more responsible and independent than other boys, and the main thing is that he can decide his own life. These flashes of light are exactly what Gu Jiayi does not have, and she envies Lin Hongnian, who is free and free.
Lin Hong is also good-looking, eloquent, and a man who can play tricks on kung fu, and it is very easy to capture a woman's heart.
Gu Jiayi's feelings for Lin Hongnian are absolutely true, she really likes Lin Hongnian as a person, and she trusts him very much, that is, the kind of happiness that little girls meet the true destiny.
Unfortunately, life will always catch us off guard.
4. Concealment
The two have not had children since marriage, and later adopted Gu Lin, and in the process of raising children, Gu Jiayi also slowly discovered the true face of Lin Hongnian.
Lin Hongnian can't do to treat Gu Lin as her own daughter, she has always wanted to have another child of her own, and she has not paid much for this family, and Gu Jiayi is more and more disappointed in Lin Hongnian.
When divorced, Gu Jiayi asked Lin Hongnian if he really loved himself that year, and if he was also an orphan, Lin Hongnian would not marry himself. Lin Hongnian disappointed her, and Gu Jiayi had already seen through Lin Hongnian.
She just still had illusions about Lin Hongnian, wondering whether Lin Hongnian had always been so selfish, or whether he had become so selfish later. After Lin Hongnian said the answer, Gu Jiayi was not surprised at all, and after more than twenty years of getting along, she could see through Lin Hongnian.
The two of them can't have children, it's Lin Hongnian's problem, why did Gu Jiayi tell him until he got divorced? Doesn't this harm Lin Hongnian? After the divorce, Lin Hongnian remarried, still can not have his own children, if he knows that he can not have children, he will not divorce.
This is where Gu Jiayi's transparency lies, she does not want to use this matter to tie Lin Hongnian, she wants Lin Hongnian's heartfelt willingness to stay. If two people have a good relationship, they do not need to use "infertility" to maintain the marriage.
Although Gu Jiayi also wanted to save the marriage and was unwilling to divorce, she saw that Lin Hongnian really did not want to stay, she knew that the fate of the two people was exhausted, not to mention, for so many years, she also saw that Lin Hongnian was a selfish person, and the Lin Hongnian she thought at the beginning had long disappeared.
Let go and both people can live comfortably.
Gu Jiayi has also passed the age of keeping the marriage intact for the sake of the children, Gu Lin is an adult, and she does not need a superficially complete family now. Gu Lin also knew her own life, and she could also appreciate Lin Hongnian's true feelings for her.
Gu Lin has no father, Gu Jiayi doesn't care, Gu Lin doesn't care, she knows that it's time to let go.
If Lin Hongnian can have children, Lin Hongnian divorced at this age, Gu Jiayi really hurt him, but he left early and left late, he could not have children, Gu Jiayi did not apologize to him.
Fifth, bitterness
Lin Hongnian is an orphan, Gu Jiayi feels that he should cherish his family more, especially in the most difficult time in his life, the Gu family has helped him so much, he should love Gu Jiayi well. Unfortunately, Gu Jiayi looked away.
We only saw that Gu Jiayi hid that Lin Hongnian could not have children, but we did not expect how much harm Lin Hongnian had brought to Gu Jiayi.
A woman is calculated by her husband to get married, and after her husband has achieved a little success, he wants to leave her, and Gu Jiayi is being used by Lin Hongnian from beginning to end.
Lin Hongnian is destined not to have her own children in this life, but Gu Jiayi is OK, her body has no problems, and she can have a child of her own. In order to take care of Lin Hongnian's emotions, she did not say this, she also missed the age of having children, Gu Jiayi's sacrifice in this marriage is much greater than Lin Hongnian.
The bitterness in Gu Jiayi's heart, no one can understand, in the eyes of outsiders, her family career is very happy, her husband can earn money, and she has a sensible daughter. She herself knew how bitter her heart was after all these years, and no one shared it, no one understood.
Divorce, not only Lin Hongnian's relief, but also Gu Jiayi's own liberation, this marriage, Lin Hongnian is the beneficiary of benefits, Gu Jiayi is like a person who runs with her, divorce, she has no loss, but also can find herself again.
Sixth, transparent
When she sent her daughter to Beijing to study, she accepted wen zhiyuan's hospitality, and Wen Zhiyuan personally went to the station to pick up her mother and daughter at the station and arranged a luxury hotel for her.
What happiness does a woman of this age still want? Isn't it good to live alone?
Gu Jiayi did not think so, her current attitude towards feelings is to follow fate and will not escape. Wen Zhiyuan's feelings for her, she can also feel, in addition, he is not married, and now he has money, the focus has not been forgotten Gu Jiayi.
Find a man who loves himself a little more and women will be much easier.
In the first marriage, Lin Hongnian's calculation of Gu Jiayi was too cruel, and Gu Jiayi paid too much. If she is with Wen Zhiyuan, she will truly feel the taste of being loved by a man.
Wen Zhiyuan does not want her job, does not want her family, and does not want her Nanjing hukou, that is, Gu Jiayi. He and Lin Hongnian were completely different, and Gu Jiayi had a number in mind.
Young husband and wife old companions, Lin Hongnian can not accompany her to the end, Wen Zhiyuan is willing, but also single-minded to her, where to find such a man? After Gu Jiayi saw through Lin Hongnian, she also figured out her life, when she first learned dance, she failed to learn it, marrying Lin Hongnian, it was like being "deceived", Wen Zhiyuan may be a turning point in her life, she can live happier.
Whether she can come together with Wen Zhiyuan or not, Gu Jiayi chose to try it, but also to give herself a chance.
Some women who have failed in a previous marriage are afraid to enter the marriage again and reject men thousands of miles away. Gu Jiayi wanted to open, she did not close the door of her heart, willing to accept new feelings.
Before marriage, Gu Jiayi was controlled by her mother, and after marriage, she stayed up with Lin Hongnian for so many years.
If Gu Jiayi didn't have the job of a doctor, she would have had a harder time! Sometimes women who are too sensible bear more, and she does not want Lin Hongnian to feel inferior in her heart, so she keeps secrets until divorce.
If you say it earlier, Gu Jiayi will have a much better life than now!
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