Guo Meimei is imprisoned again, and the original family behind it surfaces

On October 18, 2021, Guo Meimei was sentenced to two years and six months in prison and fined 200,000 yuan for selling toxic and harmful food. This is not the first time that Guo Meimei has committed a crime, as early as September 2015, she was sentenced to five years in prison for opening a casino. After sitting in prison for 5 years, he committed another crime shortly after he was released from prison, which was really hateful and regrettable.

Someone joked: "Guo Meimei is either in prison or on her way to prison." Some people also asked: "Is she so short of money?" Do you have to do something illegal and disorderly? Obviously, there are still two apartments in Beijing, and the economy is not worried, but he still teaches and does not change, and once again "does" himself in prison.

Guo Meimei also expressed remorse during the trial: "I have failed in my life, sorry for the fans who care about and support me." ”

This woman, who has just turned 30, has already been scolded for showing off her wealth and fraud, but why does she not know how to restrain the horse from the cliff, but instead falls deeper?

Looking at Guo Meimei's every crime, it has a lot to do with "making fast money".

Guo Meimei first entered the public eye because she blatantly showed off her wealth online. Guo Meimei, who was only 19 years old at the time, met the wealthy businessman Wang Jun under the introduction of a friend. This "dry daddy" loves her very much, luxury cars, bags, jewelry, pocket money to start with 10,000 words, as long as she opens her mouth, there is no unruly.

Under the care of men, Guo Meimei lived the life she wanted. At the age of 20, she began to show off her wealth on social platforms without concealment. On Guo Meimei, there are luxury goods worth more than 10,000 yuan everywhere: Chanel brooches, Tiffany necklaces, Hermès bags...

Guo Meimei's cloakroom is filled with designer bags and watches. But that's just the tip of the iceberg, and the 20-year-old, who received a birthday gift worth $2.4 million, was a Maserati.

In order to attract more attention, Guo Meimei even changed her Weibo nickname to "Commercial General Manager of the Red Cross Society of China" to satisfy her vanity. But this operation made Guo Meimei completely collapse, turning "Guo Meimei's show off her wealth" into a sensational news event in the country, and also affected the Red Cross.

Netizens gradually discovered her "success code", it turned out that behind the 20-year-old "inspirational life", it was just a transaction to make quick money with the flesh.

Guo Meimei has created a "rich second generation, good family" person for herself, and her absurd and exaggerated style is also despised by the public. I thought that Guo Meimei would learn a lesson from this, be a low-key person, and go on the right path. However, after 3 years, Guo Meimei was arrested for participating in online gambling. In the same year, she opened a casino for huge profits and was sentenced to 5 years in prison.

In July 2019, Guo Meimei was released from prison, and she publicly expressed regret for her past acts of showing off her wealth, and also went to a non-governmental children's public welfare organization to donate love. Guo Meimei said tearfully: "I will use my own practical actions to prove that I am no longer the Guo Meimei of the past." ”

However, it turns out that Guo Meimei is difficult to move, and is now once again in prison for selling poisonous and harmful food. In fact, Guo Meimei has not been short of money since childhood. When she was in college, in order to let her have face in and out of North Shadow, her mother even sacrificed the down payment on the house and gave her a mini cooper. However, Guo Meimei, who has never made money through her own efforts, once she tastes the taste of making quick money, it is difficult to lean down and run her own life. It's a shame, and it's like fate.

In fact, Guo Meimei's strange and self-destructive style of acting now has an inseparable relationship with her distorted family environment.

In 1991, a little girl was born, and her name at the time was Guo Meiling. At that time, guo Meimei and her mother's situation was extremely embarrassing.

Guo Meimei once explained the relationship between her parents in an interview: "My father was married, but he did not tell my mother. My mom thinks he spends, so she doesn't agree to be with him. In other words, Guo Meimei's biological parents were not married, and she never had a healthy and complete family.

Although his biological father had money and "only sat in first class and only lived in five-star hotels", he also went to jail for fraud. Therefore, the impression of this vague biological father in Guo Meimei's mind is: "He is a liar, who has money, and is poor, and has cheated my mother for a lifetime." ”

Guo Meimei did not have any illusions about her biological father, so she devoted herself to following in the footsteps of her mother Guo Dengfeng.

Her mother has opened a clothing store in Shenzhen and has also long operated leisure services such as bathing, sauna, and tea art. Guo Meimei saw how her mother used all kinds of men to make money, and from a young age, she was infected with many means of "dealing with" men.

The concept that Guo Meimei received from childhood was not to study hard, but to dress herself up beautifully and find a rich man to marry.

Her father is absent, her mother is busy with her career and falling in love, and Guo Meimei is "completely brought up by a nanny", and in addition, there are almost no other good objects around her.

Guo Meimei's aunt was also criminally detained by the public security organs on suspicion of accommodating others for prostitution, and her uncle was an addict who was sentenced for drug trafficking.

No wonder some people say that Guo Meimei's entire family can be said to be "complete with five poisons".

Guo Meimei once said enviously: "My cousin went to school in New Zealand, and she was completely freed from the sea of suffering." After leaving the influence of the family, the cousin is more likely to dominate her own life, and she is reduced to a "deformed life under the worship of gold."

The original family will have a huge impact on the child's outlook on life and sense of value. Psychologist Hellinger has analyzed several patterns of children and the original family, one of which is to copy unconsciously, to copy the emotions of parents with subconscious loyalty, and even to copy the painful fate of parents, and even to copy their doom...

From Guo Meimei's repeated "falling into the same trap", perhaps we can get a glimpse of one or two.

In The environment in which Guo Meimei grew up, her father only appeared once on her 14th birthday. The father was a false and irresponsible man to the mother. Therefore, it has spread to Guo Meimei's concept that she will also think that "men do not have a good thing", and even copy the fate of her mother who is good at using her young beauty to maximize her interests, so as to express her love and loyalty to her mother.

For her father, Guo Meimei adores him but hates him, but she also knows her personality soberly, inheriting her father who has a history of fraud, "I am very much like my father, I have to sit in first class by plane, and I have to live in Shangri-La in a hotel." ”

Guo Meimei's subsequent encounter also clearly saw the shadow of her parents' belief in life. In the arrangement of the family system, the child's love for the parents is very strong, and the motivation to follow the family system is also strong. They will copy, save, inherit the fate of their parents, and even atone for what they have done. When parents are full of fraud, lies, and hypocrisy, it is difficult for children to live freely and innocently. Because it is different from the parents' way of life, it means betrayal, and the "guilt" in the heart is difficult to get rid of.

I have hosted a visitor. He could have become a successful person, but every time his career has just progressed, there will always be some situation that will make his money "disappear".

After talking to the counselor, he found that his guilt and shame about money were hidden in the family consciousness. His parents and brothers were living very poorly, so in his subconscious, he should not be living well, otherwise he would be sorry for his family. If your parents and brothers have a very hard life and a very heavy fate, they gave up everything for you to get ahead. When you face them, you say to them, "You have worked so hard, and I can be very relaxed, happy, and enjoy the good life that money brings me." ”

When most people say this, they feel unpleasant, guilty, and guilty. And only if you say, "You've had a hard time and sacrificed everything for me." Now I've sacrificed everything, I'm just like you", and we subconsciously carry a deep relaxation. This is not the ideal life we want, but it is a life that is guided by the energy of the system and automatically selected.

People generally want to make themselves better, and if you find yourself going the opposite path, it's likely to be the influence of family dynamics.

Hellinger believed that family relations were not maintained by blood and love, but by a more primitive dynamic that promoted the flow of family energy. This dynamic, he called "order."

Only when we stand in the right position in the family can we not cause energy blockages and various relationship problems. If you want to avoid repeating the mistakes of others and get rid of the entanglement of family fate, you can do this: First, who are you really like, the feelings, emotions, and beliefs that you often experience, is that really what you want?

Just like Guo Meimei, her desire for money, the love and hate for men, and the vanity of material things are actually imperceptible from her parents. Guo Meimei wants to become a mother, and also hopes to replace the role of her father in the family. But you have to acknowledge their place and bring them back into the full family system so that you can return to where they should have been.

Second, respect their destiny and dignity. Maybe your parents have a bad life, and you want to share or replace their suffering for them, but you have to respect their life experience and respect the facts themselves. They are like this, do not need to change, respect their own choice of life. Hellinger once said: "No matter how cruel, the ancestors should bear their fate alone." ”

If we try to share what our parents have endured, we will hinder our own development and even perpetuate the suffering of our families from generation to generation. Even if you sacrifice and sacrifice yourself, it will still not help the entire family system.

Furthermore, give back the energy that belongs to others. For example, anxiety about survival, distrust of marriage, etc., that is their emotion, not yours. You may feel guilty, but "guilt is the price you have to pay to grow." ”

Blind loyalty to the family makes it impossible to achieve true growth and live your own life. Let everyone return to their respective life trajectories, and love and life will continue to flow.

In fact, many people hate the original family on the one hand, and at the same time, they are subconsciously loyal to it, repeating it over and over again, torturing themselves. But the past has passed, we can only strip ourselves and master the second half of life, I hope everyone can have a better life.