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Today, I will share with you the anti-bullying picture book "Don't Let Hurt Get Near You".
Of course, picture books are only a starting point, it triggers our parents' thinking about the topic of "bullying", and what can be done to make their children recognize and stay away from these hidden harms?
Bullying does not only refer to physical bullying (pushing, kicking, boxing, etc.), but also includes speech (ridicule, sarcasm, threats, bad words hurtful), emotional isolation, unfriendly behavior and other hidden bullying.
Remember I wrote a similar article before, what if a child is bullied?
1) We want our children to understand that it is not your fault that you are being bullied.
2, when being bullied by others, you must react, although each child has a different personality, but silence will only make others think that you are weak and good at bullying. Give your child some practical little methods, such as:
Stare into each other's eyes, shout out that you don't like his behavior (it's not right to laugh at others), and make a very fierce posture, the first time you will pinch the other party's signs of wanting to bully people.
Of course, sometimes the bully is not just one person, but a group of people, we must teach children to protect themselves, but also teach them to ask for help from the adults around them.
3, usually when getting along with children, to tell children, but also to let children feel that parents are the most love for you, at any time, there are uncomfortable things in the heart can be said, do not hold in the heart.
If the child likes to bully others, we must also stop the child's behavior, after all, such behavior will not be welcomed anywhere.
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"Don't Let Hurt Get Near You" is a set of anti-bullying picture books, there are 5 books, to be honest, on this topic, I am very happy to have such a set of picture books that are just right.
First of all, it is a high-quality children's book published by CITIC.
Second, the 5 books describe some common bullying behaviors, allowing children to identify what bullying is and learn how to defend themselves, and what I can do when others are confronted with bullying.
The point is that these stories are telling children a truth, you can ask for help, if you can't solve it yourself, you must tell the trusted adults, say it, the heart will be much easier, and the adults will find ways to help us.
At the same time, parents should also be aware of their children's emotions in time.
When I tried to go back to my childhood, there were some things I really didn't want to do, and I didn't know how to tell my mother.
Even though I'm a few years old Chinese New Year's Eve, some of the stories still seem to be very substitutionary and familiar, and this kind of book is really recommended for parents and children to read intensively and do extended discussion.
1. "No! I don't like this kind of joke."
It made me uncomfortable with the jokes, but he insisted that it was just a joke, what to do?
Terry, Sydney, and Jamie are good friends, they go to summer camp, Taylor is a new arrival, he is very joking, spreading rumors that Jamie is poor, then Jamie is ridiculed by everyone, Taylor alienates the three of them, and Jamie is completely isolated.
He was upset, and later Terry (as a friend and as a bystander) stepped forward, and they decided to tell the counselor that Taylor had been transferred to another room.
From this story, we know that you can make jokes, but you can't hurt others, and any joke that makes you feel uncomfortable can be stopped immediately and let the other party stop.
2. "No! I don't like that kind of thing."
We will feel sad to be denied by others for a long time, and we may feel that we are really bad, so is it boring in our hearts or do we have the courage to say it?
Casey loves to play football, but Dana always says he's "stupid" and "stupid enough", he's afraid of being ripped off, the more scared he gets, the worse he plays, and then they lose as a team. He didn't want to play football anymore.
Another player, Reese, told the actual situation in front of the coach and everyone. When the coach found out, he taught them a lesson and told Casey's parents about it.
In this story, we learn that verbal violence can hurt others, we can stop it, if we are afraid, we can also choose to tell a trustworthy adult, ask him for help, and don't hold it alone.
3. "No! I don't like to be teased."
In the face of other people's malice, if I say it, is it a complaint? Will it make things bigger?
While riding the school bus, Kelly is told by Sam that he is poor and ugly, uncultured, and takes the lead in coaxing, Kelly is very sad and feels ashamed, but Alex tells Kelly that this is a bully and can tell the teacher.
He finally plucked up the courage to tell the headmaster about these things, and the headmaster told him that it would be much better to go with him in the future, so he chose Alex, who had helped him.
Usually, you can have more contact with your own friends, or make more friends through social activities, and it will be much better to have partners to play with.
4. "No! I don't like to be pushed."
After being bullied, will you choose to tell your parents?
Bailey was always bullied at lunch, and my mother found out about his injuries and told him, I was always pushed and shoved by my classmates when I was your age, have you ever encountered such a thing?
With the encouragement of his mother, he said it, and his mother told him a good way: confident children are less likely to be bullied and do not cry, which will only make the other party more arrogant. Counselors also say that children with friends are less likely to be bullied.
This is a very wise mother, when the child's mood is not right, we must give timely attention, and give some children self-protection methods and suggestions, really good.
5. "No! I don't like to be touched by you."
When the child does not want to go to school, when the child's body is touched at will, does the parents notice it in time?
Tony didn't want to go to PE class because his teacher always insulted him at will and violated his safety, he was scared, and when he was found by his mother in the shower, he hesitated for a moment or said his heart.
Mom told him that everyone's body is their own, can not let others infringe, can say "no" loudly, stay in a crowded place is safe, when small, do not follow others alone to a remote and strange place.
I have to say that with a good parent-child relationship as a prerequisite, the child will be willing to tell us that we must also firmly stand on the child's side and solve the problem together.
Don't let the damage get near you 4-8 years old ¥175 purchase
In addition, there is also a picture book with three views that is very positive, "Bullied, can you fight back?" The child has been bullied, can he fight back? In another article, it is said that if you need to make a single order, you can make this, or you can choose something with a unit price of more than 25 in your own business.
If you are bullied, can you fight back (Uncle Yang conflict education picture book, solve the parents' century problems, tell the child what to do if they are bullied) ¥38 purchase
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