"I can't smash Zhao Benshan's signboard, and I can't smash Ge Shuzhen's signboard either." Zhao Benshan's ex-wife Ge Shuzhen said.
As the "King of Comedy in Northeast China", Zhao Benshan is popular all over the country. All kinds of rumors surrounding him are endless, even if he has retired and lived in seclusion, his daughters and apprentices have always been scandalous, and even his daughter's boyfriend can circle a wave of black traffic.
And Ge Shuzhen, the ex-wife who was abandoned by Zhao Benshan, has never heard anything.
Zhao Benshan has publicly stated many times that the only stain on his life is to abandon the chaff : "I am Chen Shimei and his second brother." ”
After Zhao Benshan became famous, he chose to divorce, left a pair of children to Ge Shuzhen, and became the "second brother of Chen Shimei". Why would he rather bear the infamy and guilt of making such a choice for the rest of his life?
After the divorce, Ge Shuzhen painfully lost her beloved son, but she suffered a double blow but became a strong woman by working to wash dishes. Isn't the bitterness and tears in it the ex-husband's fault?
In 1957, Zhao Benshan was born in tieling, a small, remote village in the big city of Tieling, the "end of the universe."
There are several older brothers and sisters in the family, and their parents are honest farmers, facing the loess with their backs to the sky and eating food in the field.
The family's life is tight, but it is also a happy reunion. Until Zhao Benshan was 5 years old, his mother died of tuberculosis.
After The death of Zhao's mother, Zhao's father took the children away from home, when Zhao Benshan was too young, and taking him not only dragged his feet but also took care of him. So the father cruelly left his young son alone in his hometown.
Grandpa took on the responsibility of taking care of his grandson, but Grandpa was old and could no longer work in the fields. He can only take his grandson to ask for food for a living.
After eating a hundred meals for two years, Grandpa also passed away. The lonely and helpless Zhao Benshan did not know where to go, but fortunately his second uncle took him in.
Why did the second uncle appear at this time? Because the second uncle was blinded by chicken pecking when he was a child, he was blind in both eyes.
The blind second uncle could not take care of his young nephew, but fortunately, Zhao Benshan had asked for food for two years, and he was already able to take care of himself, and even help take care of the second uncle.
Although the second uncle is blind, he is skillful in his mind, and he is good at blowing, playing and singing. He didn't have much to teach his nephew, so he simply taught his craft.
Under the careful teaching of the second uncle, Zhao Benshan learned erhu, singing songs, and sighing, especially the three strings, which became the ability to change his life in the future.
When he was seven years old, Zhao Benshan followed his second uncle to the streets to sell and sing to make money, and he could sing at a young age, and he really sucked a lot of powder.
This combination of old and young was added a lot of sympathy points, although it did not make any money, but the uncle and nephew could have a full meal.
When Zhao Benshan reached the age of school, he went to school during the day, rested and vacationed, and then sang and performed with his second uncle.
His energy is mainly spent on studying survival skills, so his academic performance is not good. However, his rich social experience has made him more aware of communicating with his classmates.
At school, he and his classmate Li Xinghua are like brothers. Li Xinghua saw that Zhao Benshan never brought lunch and went to afternoon classes hungry. Li Xinghua gave him half of the food he brought every day.
Over time, Li Xinghua's mother, Zhou Yumei, learned about this, and she asked her son to take Zhao Benshan home to see.
Zhao Benshan is polite, can talk, and can "come to things", coupled with his poor life, which makes Zhou Yumei's heart ache. She recognized Zhao Benshan as her son, and since then she has simply brought Li Xinghua two lunches every day and let the two children eat together.
The appearance of Zhou Yumei to a certain extent makes up for Zhao Benshan's extreme lack of maternal love, and Zhao Benshan goes to his mother's house to help work as soon as he has time. Zhou Yumei's kindness to him, he has never forgotten. Until he became famous, he often visited his mother.
At the age of 17, Zhao Benshan joined the village's cultural propaganda team, singing a two-person turn while feeding pigs in the production team. At this time, he and his second uncle had been able to eat enough and no longer had to go out to sell and sing.
Fast forward to the age of 20, Zhou Yumei began to be anxious. In the countryside of that era, 20 years old was the age at which men should marry and women should marry. After 20 years old, you are considered a "leftover fighter".
Zhou Yumei began to give Zhao Benshan a target, and Zhao Benshan was repulsive in his heart. He was poor and overstretched, and he thought he shouldn't get married.
At this time, the second uncle enlightened him that no matter how poor he was, he would get married, and not getting married would make people laugh. Zhao Benshan had no choice but to obey the arrangements of his mother and second uncle.
Soon, Zhou Yumei, a mother, took a fancy to a girl from the next village, Ge Shuzhen, who was also a bitter child without a father and a mother. Zhou Yumei felt that these two people could not be more suitable, and the same life experience would make them cherish each other more.
In this way, in 1979, the 22-year-old Zhao Benshan spent all his savings, rented a kang in someone else's house, and hung a mosquito net to be a new house. Zhou Yumei's conditions were not good, but she still made a new futon for her son, which was a "big gift".
19-year-old Ge Shuzhen walked into the cave room wearing a new cotton jacket and looked at the four walls of the house, she was not disappointed or disgusted. She even brought some pots and pans and other utensils.
Zhao Benshan has not been satisfied with this marriage, he does not want better, but is worried that he cannot afford to raise a family.
On the second day of the new marriage, Zhao Benshan immediately rushed to work in the field, and he wanted to try to make his life better.
In the same year, Ge Shuzhen gave birth to a daughter Zhao Yufang. The birth of his daughter also brought good luck to Zhao Benshan.
The county set up a qu art troupe, and Zhao Benshan successfully got the "iron rice bowl" with his rich experience in grassroots performance and entered the organization. At this time, Zhao Benshan could already make his wife and daughter reach the subsistence line.
Three years later, he also gradually became a pillar of the group, and his wife Ge Shuzhen gave birth to a second son. The children and daughters made Zhao Benshan very happy.
This year, the province held the first rural small drama performance, and Zhao Benshan stood out with his role in "Breaking the Three Strings".
In the play, Zhao Benshan plays a blind man who plays a three-stringed man, who has lived with his second uncle since he was a child and is good at imitation, so this role seems to be tailored for him.
Zhao Benshan, who had a successful career, was soon unhappy. A few months later, Zhao Benshan and his wife noticed that their young son was somewhat abnormal. They spoke to him, and he never reacted. When it was time to speak, he did not respond.
Taken to the hospital for a check, the younger son is not only a natural deaf and mute child, but also has problems such as hypochondriasis, emphysema, and heart disease.
As the old saying goes, it is said that it is easy to feed one's life, and Zhao Benshan named his son Zhao Tie Egg. But that didn't make my son feel better.
Zhao Benshan's pressure was unprecedented: once he was poor, he was also a bare stick, he ate enough for himself and the whole family was not hungry; now his wife and daughter want to eat, and his son wants to treat his illness...
Zhao Benshan began to perform hard, whether in the theater or in the countryside, he did not refuse to come, just to earn more money to see his children. Gradually, he was away from home more often.
In 1987, Zhao Benshan met Pan Changjiang, and the two collaborated on "Blind Man Watching the Lights", which triggered a boom. In Shenyang alone, they performed no less than five or six hundred times.
Zhao Benshan, who exploded, was transferred to the folk art troupe in the big city of Tieling and became a serious actor.
He bought a big house in Tieling and drove Charlie's car back to the countryside to pick up his wife and children. At that time, he was full of spirit and high morale.
His wife Ge Shuzhen was very relieved to see that he had a successful career, but there was also a sense of strangeness in his heart: this man who drove a car and lived in a building was far from the man who rented the North Pu Kang.
After that, Zhao Benshan was favored by Jiang Kun, and after several recommendations, he appeared on the stage of the Spring Festival Gala, and his wife's "Zhao Laofu" was remembered by the national audience.
Ge Shuzhen watched her husband's success in front of the TV, but felt as if she had passed away.
Zhao Benshan and his wife were originally a marriage of matchmakers, and there was no emotional basis. Coupled with the fact that he has been performing outside for many years and is surrounded by all kinds of beautiful women, his vision and three views have long been different.
Especially after meeting Ma Lijuan, Zhao Benshan realized that the original feeling of the common language was so different. He thought about it again and decided to divorce Ge Shuzhen.
He knew that Ge Shuzhen was a traditional woman and would not easily accept divorce. He made various psychological preparations in advance, and even contacted his brother-in-law to help take care of Ge Shuzhen, who was out of control.
The result was unexpected by everyone, Ge Shuzhen was unusually calm, and did not hang herself in one cry, two troubles and three hangings as everyone expected. In fact, the pillow person already knew that she could not keep up with her husband's footsteps, and she was ready for this result.
For divorce, Ge Shuzhen only said one sentence: "Divorce is OK, but you can't starve our mothers here, and the iron egg still needs to see a doctor." ”
Zhao Benshan came prepared, and he gave Ge Shuzhen the big house in Tieling, The Xiali car, and all his savings of 250,000 yuan. He was ashamed to abandon the chaff in his heart, and getting out of the house was the only thing he could do.
It was 1991, and the wages of ordinary workers in state-owned enterprises were more than three hundred yuan, and "ten thousand yuan households" were rare. Ge Shuzhen, who has 250,000 savings, can be regarded as a super rich woman.
But the money she didn't touch, it was all in the bank. She has no culture, but she has the wisdom of life. Sitting on the mountain and eating the sky is also inconsistent with her identity and character as a working woman.
She kept the money for her children's schooling, medical treatment, and marriage, and as for living expenses, she decided to earn it with her own industrious hands.
Ge Shuzhen is not willing to return to the countryside to farm, she does not want to nest in the countryside anymore, she wants to grow and progress.
But with no education, no skills, and no longer young, Ge Shuzhen can do very little work. She chose to work as a dishwasher in the back kitchen of the restaurant.
Daughter Zhao Yufang advised her not to work so hard, but Ge Shuzhen had her own ideas, and she planned to steal a few small dishes from the teacher.
In the third year after the divorce, in 1994, the 12-year-old Zhao Tie Egg still left this world. After the death of her son, Ge Shuzhen fell seriously ill. After recovering, she continued her part-time job.
She is now working as a sales clerk in a store, and it wasn't long before the store turned yellow and Ge Shuzhen lost her job.
After that, Ge Shuzhen went to the wholesale market to buy goods and set up stalls to sell some small goods such as socks and head ropes. Ge Shuzhen, who had no business experience, was tragically killed by Waterloo, did not earn 5 yuan a day, and was driven away by the city management.
Ge Shuzhen felt that she was not suitable for being a hawker, so she found a dumpling restaurant to work, brushing dishes, helping the kitchen, removing the table... She has to do all kinds of chores, and she only has a salary of more than 200 yuan a month.
Fortunately, her daughter Zhao Yufang was angry and was admitted to Dalian Foreign Chinese College, and Ge Shuzhen went to Dalian with her daughter to accompany her.
Zhao Benshan was also very pleased with his daughter's good results, and bought a house in Dalian with a big hand to give to his daughter and ex-wife.
During her daughter's college years, Ge Shuzhen worked all the way there, usually as a restaurant kitchen. She didn't learn to learn small dishes, but the way of doing business that she heard was deeply imprinted in her heart.
After graduating from university, Zhao Yufang was admitted to the Dalian Municipal Public Security Bureau and worked as an internal clerk. The daughter has been cultivated into a talent, and Ge Shuzhen at this time finally breathed a sigh of relief.
Unencumbered, Ge Shuzhen looked after a restaurant in the community and was ready to show her fists. She used the 20,000 yuan saved from part-time work to take over the business.
From the waiter to the back kitchen, Ge Shuzhen did not dismiss anyone. She worked for many years and knew the bitterness of it.
Ge Shuzhen asked the chef to stir-fry a few dishes at random, and she could see the crux of the problem at a glance. The reason why this store was sluggish before was because it was not beautiful and the price was not cheap.
This is a restaurant in the community, doing neighborhood business. Stealing and slipping business can only keep guests away.
While adjusting the taste of the dish, Ge Shuzhen increased the amount without increasing the price. However, due to the poor reputation before, it is still difficult to reverse the situation for a while and a half.
Ge Shuzhen simply began to make box lunches, in the form of meat and vegetarian set menus with small profits and high sales. A box lunch makes fifty cents, and even the chef is distressed for her.
But years of experience working in hotels told Ge Shuzhen that honest business will definitely be rewarded.
Sure enough, many people came cheap to buy a box lunch to fill their hunger, and unexpectedly found that the taste was good. Later, when I went to the restaurant with my family and friends, I would choose to come to Ge Shuzhen's shop.
A box lunch that only makes fifty cents not only refreshes the reputation, but also brings more business. Gradually, some guests came to the door, and once they ate it, they found that it was delicious and affordable, and under word of mouth, every meal would usher in a full meal.
Ge Shuzhen had to hire a few more people, and was busy from morning to night every day. However, at this time, Ge Shuzhen was the happiest stage in her life, and she finally found her own value.
After the establishment of the Benshan Art College, under the arrangement of Zhao Benshan, the daughter Zhao Yufang resigned and came to work at her father's school.
Zhao Yufang originally wanted to take her mother with her, she felt that her mother opened a restaurant too hard, she hoped that her mother would go to the art school with her to work, decent and not hard.
Ge Shuzhen rejected her daughter's suggestion, and at this time, the restaurant was not only a profitable business, but also Ge Shuzhen's ideal and sustenance.
Although this hotel is not very luxurious and large, the business has always been very prosperous. Neighbors and repeat customers have praised this hotel, and both guests and employees like this lady who does not talk much.
It's just that no one ever knew that this obscure woman was actually Zhao Benshan's ex-wife.
Ge Shuzhen has never used the past as a gimmick, and she does not borrow anyone's fame and traffic.
She is still the honest woman, with her own efforts, she has become a strong woman with a millionaire.
Although Ge Shuzhen's property could not be compared with Zhao Benshan, every penny was earned by her own hands.
This is the awakening of Ge Shuzhen's female consciousness, she is not willing to be that "yellow-faced woman" again, she learns from scratch, starts from low, just to find her own value.
Now Ge Shuzhen has a successful career, her daughter lives a happy life, and she is already satisfied. But I believe that she is even more relieved that she has finally achieved the transformation of herself.
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