Imperial College London
The only Chinese polo player of the famous British Royal Forest Polo Club
Create a platform for domestic young polo players
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Liu Ziwen, a 22-year-old polo player and chairman of the Polo Club of Imperial College, a Chinese student, is like getting the script of the big male protagonist, "opening and hanging" all the way in his studies and hobbies.
Liu Ziwen, a Chinese student polo player and chairman of the Imperial College Polo Club
For Liu Ziwen, in his eyes, these are just labels given to him by the outside world, and he will not set limits on his life.
The open education and living environment created for him by his mother Qin Hua gave him more possibilities to choose his life.
Today, with the curiosity of the majority of rider mothers, we also interviewed Liu Ziwen's mother and psychological counselor Qin Hua.
"A woman, a daughter, a wife, and then a mother"
Around Mother's Day, we saw a lot of reports about mothers, and mainland horses also showed you several different styles of rider mothers.
They either drive tens of kilometers to send their children to the stable for training, or provoke photography, psychological counselors and other work to record every progress of their children, but they continue to enrich themselves while raising children, learn and grow together with their children, and will not confine themselves to the role of "mother", they will travel, will enjoy life, and will pursue their dreams.
New Age women loosened the shackles for "mothers."
When Introducing herself, Teacher Qin Hua will also put the identity of "woman" in the first place, first of all, daughter, then wife, and then mother; in addition, she is a psychological counselor and a senior media person. "These roles complement each other," Qin Hua said, "and the experience of getting along with his parents and husbands and his years of work will affect ziwen's growth." ”
Because of the child's education, he has promoted his own career change. Destined to be ordinary, let yourself be thrown into another world.
As Teacher Qin Hua said, "Parents and children grow up together." When he was young, his parents led him; when he grew older, he began to contact new things and began to help his parents learn. And laughed that every time Liu Ziwen tried a new thing, he would secretly inquire about relevant information.
In order to communicate with children, but also to keep up with the times.
The habit of "eager to learn" is like a family style, and it is passed on to Liu Ziwen, who will find information when exposed to anything new and study in depth.
Because of the work of psychological counselors, Teacher Qin Hua also served as the director of the school's parent committee when Liu Ziwen was in junior high school, contacting the school and parents, after witnessing the state of his mother's work, the mother image in Liu Ziwen's heart became rich, and the little boy Wen who studied like a school also grew into a thoughtful and responsible man, which also laid the foundation for him to study abroad alone.
In the contact with teacher Qin Hua, I can also deeply feel the mother's equal and inclusive mentality towards her children.
Learn equestrianism, skiing, sailing, rock climbing, ice skating, taekwondo, kendo, glidering... But anyone who likes it will support, as long as the child likes safety, as a parent will give affirmation.
"Mom, we have a polo club at school."
"Then you go and participate."
"Well, I've signed up!"
Knowing a son is like a mother. Learning physics, how to suddenly play polo? In the face of his son who is not very "single-minded", Teacher Qin Hua expressed understanding. When I heard that Imperial Had a Polo Club, I also gave a positive answer at the first time and went to learn about polo.com.
In teacher Qin Hua's eyes, "Polo as a team sport. As spectators, we pay more attention to the athletes on the field, but behind the scenes, we also have to shovel horse dung, take care of the horse, contact with the horse, etc., and there is a whole team behind the support. Just like being a human being, it is impossible to fight alone, but to cooperate with the people around you to achieve the goal together. To touch horses, to learn equestrianism, to learn polo, first of all, there must be love, and secondly, love. ”
After experiencing a variety of attempts, Liu Ziwen still chose a hobby related to horses, and Teacher Qin Hua was even a little relieved.
The desire to explore and practice is more important than the result. In the eyes of mothers, whether they achieve excellent results is not as important as the health and happiness of their children.
"Getting enough sleep and nutrition is more important than homework"
I don't know if it is a child who sleeps enough, and the motor cells are more developed. Gu Ailing had also said before that he would sleep ten hours a day. Teacher Qin Hua also said that it is very important to get enough sleep during growth.
Pay attention to the child's hobbies, pay more attention to his health. Maintaining adequate sleep time is a point that Teacher Qin Hua focuses on, healthy work and rest good habits, so that children can have more sufficient spirit to meet new challenges at any time.
Because Teacher Qin Hua has enough trust, Liu Ziwen quickly found his own balance in hobby and study, in order to go riding horses on the weekend to plan in advance to complete the school homework, of course, just started will also delay time because of improper arrangements, but Teacher Qin Hua holds the principle of trust, let the children try to plan and think of ways, which is also an additional advantage brought about by learning equestrianism.
Therefore, the advice shared by Teacher Qin Hua to equestrian parents is: let go. Children who can move can calm down, and exercise can help children's brains work better, which is the parenting scripture of Teacher Qin Hua. Let go appropriately, let the child learn self-control, and help the child grow.
According to the personality of children, encouraging children to make friends or inviting classmates and friends to learn equestrian skills together can stimulate children's desire to learn and guide children to socialize. Not only for peers, but also often take children to interact with their good friends, so that children can contact people of different ages and personalities.
This open and equal way of getting along allows mother and child to have more topics and more integrated lives. Liu Ziwen's biggest wish recently is to let her mother come to the UK to watch her own game and let her know her friends in the UK!
I believe that many rider parents are more interested in the question of whether to buy a horse. Teacher Qin Hua also gave a pertinent answer, and did not recommend that parents buy horses prematurely, first of all, the horses in the stable are enough to learn and use, select a horse to take care of often, feed the horses to interact with snacks, and buy horses alone is not much different; secondly, considering the changes in the child's future school location, the horses bought are likely to be idle. But for parents who are very passionate about equestrianism and want to improve again, it is also possible to buy a suitable horse.
During the trip, Teacher Qin Hua "secretly photographed" Liu Ziwen's father taught his children photography
At the end of the interview, Ms. Qin Hua, as a family relationship counselor, particularly emphasized the importance of family to children. Not only the mother, but also the father plays a key role in making the child more secure and motivated. The growth of children is irreversible, and I hope that parents will not be too hasty and let children grow freely.
Have the courage to try and not be afraid of difficulties. Just as open education, unlimited experience and enthusiastic attitude to life, Liu Ziwen opened up more possibilities and has his current achievements.