"Don't come to me when you're divorced, I can't play the role of father in this situation."
It's hard to imagine a usually smiling father who openly recounted his attitude toward his ex-wife and biological son on the show.
The famous director and producer Yingda has had 3 marriages in his life and has given birth to 3 children, and everyone does not understand why he is also his own biological child, and he wants to treat it differently.
He had two sons, but one was never mentioned in public, and Song Dandan's eldest son, Batuu (Yingru Pi).
One is full of pride when he mentions it, willing to be a nanny for him, and the youngest son born to his current wife, Liang Huan, is Ying Rudi.
Some people think that the reason why he did this is the same as that of Aiwu and Wu, because he didn't like his ex-wife anymore, so he was tired of the son born to his ex-wife.
That Yingda and Song Dandan have been married for 8 years, has he ever loved Song Dandan? What have they been through in their lives?
1.
Yingda was born in Beijing in 1960, his ancestors were famous aristocrats, the family is quite prominent, great-grandfather, grandfather and his father Yingruocheng are all high-level intellectuals, the country's pillars of talent.
In addition to being a famous translator, Ying Ruocheng also has an artistic cell, in order to realize the dream of being an actor, he was also admitted to the Beijing Renyi, and has had wonderful performances in "The Tea House" and "The Last Emperor".
After several generations of accumulation, the starting point of Indah's birth is much higher than that of ordinary people, and he does not lose himself by winning at the starting line.
Instead, under the influence of his father, he deeply liked the theater industry and hoped to make a career in this area in the future.
For this dream, he immersed himself in hard study, and his academic performance has always been very excellent, and after graduating from high school, he was successfully admitted to Peking University and obtained a degree of "Bachelor of Science in Science".
After graduation, Yingda was ready to apply for the drama school, but he did not expect to be rejected by the school because of the high degree of myopia in the eyes, and then assigned him to educational psychology as a teacher.
But such a bland day was not what he wanted, and his desire for drama became stronger and stronger, and eventually he chose to study abroad desperately.
This time I went abroad with my first wife, but I didn't expect that when I came back, he was left alone and a divorce certificate.
This ex-wife was a classmate of his at Peking University, the two were in love at first sight, very affectionate, in order not to suffer from the separation of the two places, married under the witness of their families, both flew abroad to study.
After graduation, Indah said to his ex-wife with great expectations: "Let's go home, I want to be a director, go to my hometown to create a piece of the sky that belongs to me!" ”
But the ex-wife said unexpectedly, "What? Do you want to go back? We are already in a prosperous foreign country, but you still want to go back to development, is it affecting your development here? ”
Indah was silent, looking in disbelief at the girl he once loved, now he could not recognize the appearance, after a long time, he said with difficulty: "Divorce it", and thus ended the marriage of the two.
He was 27 years old that year, full of ambition and enthusiasm, and after returning to China alone, he vowed to gain a firm foothold in the film and television circle and become a big director who everyone gave him a thumbs up.
In the first year of his return to China, Yingda couldn't wait to start his own acting path, first starring in the role of "Zhou Daqing" in "The Last Nobleman".
Two years later, he finally survived to the position of director of human art, and it was also in this year that he won the Hundred Flowers Award for Best Supporting Actor with "Siege of the City", which made his acting skills affirmed.
Then Indah was bent on introducing British comedy into China, and after a long period of planning, a "I Love My Home" was born, and since then, his name has become the talk of people after dinner.
While doing behind-the-scenes screenwriting, production and other work, he continued to participate in excellent film and television works, becoming a rare all-round talent in the entertainment industry.
Unlike him, who regards his career as the most important thing in his life, Song Dandan attaches more importance to feelings, and her life is much more bumpy than Yingda.
2.
Song Dandan was born in the same year as Yingda, and her father went to the northeast to participate in the war at a very young age, and later settled in Beijing, where he served as a leader for a long time.
Her mother was a learned teacher, and her two older sisters and one older brother were good-looking and high-achieving school bullies.
But when she arrived here, she completely changed, not only was her hair thin and small, but she was also thin and short, often teased by her classmates, and only slowly gained weight when she grew up.
Fortunately, her brothers and sisters are very fond of her, and regard this little sister as a treasure in the palm of their hands, although Song Dandan is not as good as her brother and sister, but her psychology is very sunny and positive.
In the third year of high school, Song Dandan, who was in adolescence, began to have an ignorant understanding of the opposite sex in his heart, and he was also fascinated by a handsome transfer student in the class.
Caught in the feelings of unable to extricate herself, she no longer had the heart to study, her grades plummeted, and she regrettably fell off the list during the college entrance examination.
Watching the boy she liked enter Peking University, she vowed to re-study for a year and be admitted to the boy's school so that the two could really be together.
But Song Dandan underestimated the status of love in her heart, full of boys, she could not calm down to study, and a year later, she undoubtedly fell off the list again.
During that time, she was very sad, remorseful, helpless and even felt a little humiliated, and she thought that in the future, she might only have to go to the hutong mouth to sell meat for a living.
Fortunately, at this time, there was a good friend in the compound who accompanied her all day, and the girl advised her to try to be an actor, and in order to restore her self-confidence, the girl praised her bright eyes for being able to talk, acting or something.
Song Dandan also had no idea, so she nodded and agreed to go to the interview, and the next day she followed this friend to the gate of Renyi.
After taking a deep breath, she stood in front of several teachers, and at the age of 19, she came out very standard, and the moment she entered the door, the teachers had already given her a green light in their hearts.
To be able to enter the study of human art, Song Dandan also had an iron rice bowl, at that time she did not have any great ambitions, she looked forward to the boy's graduation, marrying her and having children, and being content with her in a plain life.
But to her surprise, the boy only told her after graduation to go abroad to develop, then she woke up, she regarded the boy as a family, and the boy just treated her as a normal friend.
The boy never wanted to be with her, and there was no her presence in the future plan, perhaps from the beginning, the boy regarded her as a friendship.
This incident hit Song Dandan particularly hard, and when there was no one at night, she covered herself with a quilt and cried until she collapsed, and finally time let her forget the pain, and the wound slowly healed.
Frustrated, she can only focus all her energy on her career, and she is also very lucky to get the opportunity to show her face in "Red and White Happy Event".
However, Song Dandan, whose acting has just improved, has made another mistake, and he has flashed marriage with a man who has known him for 3 months and then flashed away.
No matter how the outside world questioned her and evaluated her, she kept her promise, kept her mouth shut about the person's name, and guarded the secret between them.
In this context, Yingda and Song Dandan met, both of whom had failed marriages and had more common topics with each other.
3.
Because the two families live very close together and work in the same unit, Yingda always goes to her house downstairs on the pretext of stopping by and waits for her to work together.
The two families who came and went knew their thoughts, and the family knew that they were both married twice, and they worked together, and there would be no differences in the future, so they were very supportive of them together.
With the blessing of their families, their union becomes much smoother, but many people will expose their shortcomings after marriage, and This is the case with Indah.
Song Dandan, who was originally full of expectations for marriage, began to become unsatisfactory after marriage, and it can also be said that there are chicken feathers and devastation in the land.
At that time, Song Dandan already had some fame, coupled with the wonderful interpretation of the Spring Festival Gala sketch "Lazy Man Blind Date" and "Super Life Guerrilla", she seemed to have become one of the popular actresses.
Of course, she does not pay as much attention to her career as before, people are like this, and the more she has achievements, the more she wants to become better.
But song dandan can't ignore the family's affairs, Yingda is a "big young master", whether it is a new house decoration or buying vegetables to cook, never pay attention to it.
Watching his wife's fame getting bigger and bigger, but he is still an unknown little, out of the door are called Song Dandan husband, he alexander, every day after work home will fall asleep.
It was during this time that their son Batuu (Ying ruyi) was born, but the parents' feelings cracked, and it was impossible to repair it close to the child.
Since the birth of the child, Yingda's companionship has been very little, and Song Dandan has no choice but to make a career and family, while filming hard, while taking care of his young son.
When the child was sick, she and the crew took leave to accompany her to the hospital, but what the two of them did not know was that Yingda was busy with her career and was also busy talking about love.
A sitcom "I Love My Home" was born, and Yingda became a well-known director and a male protagonist with screenwriter Liang Huan.
Song Dandan was angry and found Yingda who was working in the crew and asked him: "You and Liang Huan, are you two in trouble?" ”
Indah instinctively shook her head and said, "No... It's okay, don't listen to the media. ”
Song Dandan returned home with confidence, but there was more of a knot in his heart, and since then, Yingda has returned home less and less, and occasionally he is drunk when he goes home.
Sometimes vomiting everywhere, Song Dandan came home tired after a day, and he had to take care of the children and take care of the drunken Yingda.
For such a life, she really felt that she could not stand it, but looking back at the silly and playful Batuu, she swallowed the divorce to her mouth and swallowed it back into her stomach.
After a long time, such a widowed marriage made Song Dandan collapse, and one day she plucked up the courage to go out for a drink with a male friend, and the expected thing happened.
After the incident, she was a little sad and a little happy, and she felt that this might be a reason for her to make up her mind to divorce.
With such a complicated mood, after three days, Song Dandan's heart was particularly tormented, she could not stand her own condemnation, and then dialed Yingda's phone: "I have cheated, let's divorce!" ”
As a result, after Yingda was silent for two seconds, he happily agreed, and Song Dandan still felt very sorry for Yingda at this time, but he did not know that Yingda had already fallen in love with someone else at this time.
After the two divorced peacefully, the child was given to Yingda, but Song Dandan was uneasy about one thing repeatedly, that is, "Can I go to see the child at any time?" ”。
After receiving a positive reply, she reluctantly separated from the father and son, but what everyone did not expect was that they had just completed the divorce procedures on their front feet, and in only one month, Yingda took Liang Huan's hand and entered the Civil Affairs Bureau again.
At this time, Song Dandan was dumbfounded, and she reacted that she had been deceived, in fact, Yingda had already cheated, but she was unwilling to bear the name of abandoning her wife and abandoning her son, and the cold treatment was to wait for her to take the initiative to propose divorce.
Song Dandan misses her child, but she is afraid that she will not be able to give her child a better life, and she is groggy all day, and she has thought of committing suicide several times to end herself.
Under the enlightenment of her friend Ni Ping, she stepped out of the shadow of divorce, wanted to return the custody of Batuu, and started a life of "motherhood and gang".
4.
Perhaps it is really as Indah said, "The big tree is planted in a flower pot, and the root is wrong", because Indah's treatment of his current wife, Liang Huan, is a different scene.
He admired Liang Huan's talent, and the two of them cooperated together in comedies with good reputation such as "Idle Centaur Big Sister" and "Northeast Family", which has a sense of husband and wife sharing the same heart and breaking gold.
Not long after the marriage, the two gave birth to a son and a daughter, and Indah had already turned back at this time, so she found a balance between family and career, and even more inclined to family.
Especially after giving birth to her son Yingrudi, Yingda gave up a lot of work and spent more time with his wife and children, becoming a good husband.
The youngest son lived at home in the young master's life of wearing clothes to stretch out his hands and eat to open his mouth, and when he was 3 years old, because he stared at a skating show for a while, Yingda immediately enrolled him in a figure skating interest class.
After studying for a while, Yingrudi began to be interested in ice hockey again, and Yingda was obedient to the requirements of her younger son, and the clothing and equipment used in training were all the best.
Every time I go on the show, I also praise my younger son, such as: when I was very young, the piano was played very well, and the trophies of the ice hockey game were full at home.
He also said unashamedly: "I used to think that others called big directors, I was very proud, and now I prefer others to call me Yingrudi's father." ”
At the beginning, he said this on the show, Song Dandan turned a blind eye, after all, they are divorced, and there is no need to meddle in other people's affairs.
But as Yingda said more and more, when he participated in the show again, he said how he loved his son and how he became a multi-role good father who surrounded his son, a driver, a coach, a nanny, and a cook.
Many netizens could not sit still, and they all spoke and asked: "The same sons, why hasn't Batuu enjoyed the same treatment?" ”
All the officials could not sit still, that Song Dandan was not at the mercy of others, she did not allow Yingda to hurt her son in this way.
On the Internet, he shot back: "Batuu begged you to take him out to play when he was 7 years old, you ignored it; 11-year-old asked you for a phone number, you didn't give it, now you want to play a loving father, but don't hurt my son!" ”
Indah did not remain silent, but explained in the show that the reason why she did not care about her son Batuu was that she was afraid of hurting her current child (Ying Rudi).
In addition, he said: "People don't want me to pay attention to Batuu, how can I take care of it?" It alludes to his ex-wife Song Dandan not allowing him to approach his eldest son.
It also revealed that his requirements for his younger son from childhood to adulthood are very strict, and it is precisely with such attention and preference that the younger son is more excellent.
At the 2022 Winter Olympics, when YingruDi participated in the game, Yingda transformed into a professional ice hockey commentator to explain the game and cheer for his son.
In order to make his son's hobby, Yingda has also trained himself into an expert, it is reported that in order to watch a game of his younger son, he did not sleep much for several days, and his eyes stared at Yingru on the screen.
From the large gap between Yingda's treatment of two relationships and two sons, it can be seen that there is really no one right or wrong in the relationship.
Indah must have loved Song Dandan deeply at the beginning, so he was born with Batu, but he only wanted a home after all, a home that could make him straighten up.
Their combination at that time was a typical "strong woman and weak man", Andda had a big gap in psychology, coupled with Song Dandan's strength, it became an accelerator to push her husband into the arms of other women.
Perhaps when Song Dandan was willing to become the woman behind Yingda, to give her husband more care, to understand her husband's difficulties, and now they are also a happy family of three.
And if Yingda can be more generous, less macho, and his wife's career is developing well, then he will help his wife manage the family and children more, and he can also be happy and happy.
Unfortunately, there is no if, fortunately now they all have a good home, Song Dandan has lived a realistic version of "Family with Children", through the introduction of friends to know Zhao Yuji with a daughter.
After encountering the wall many times, she finally understood understanding and tolerance, and now at the age of 61, she has become a grandmother and lived a happy life with her grandson.
Today's Yingda rarely appears in the public eye, his focus is on his wife and children, perhaps the most proud work of his life is his young son Ying Rudi.
But no matter what kind of grudge between parents, it should not involve the child, and in the whole thing, the person who is hurt the most is the eldest son, Batuu.
I wish them a different and uninterrupted relationship in the days to come.
epilogue
The mother of "genius girl" Wu Yishu once said: "Every excellent child is not a miracle that has been born out of nowhere, but a cause and effect that can be followed." Its cause, in the family, its roots, in the parents. ”
And excellent children and excellent parents complement each other, and children are excellent, everyone will say that because of the teaching of parents.
Yingda gave her young son enough companionship, learned with the child, and grew up together to create such a good ice hockey player.
He gave his current wife infinite tenderness in exchange for the current harmonious coexistence, in fact, love and non-love, can be seen at a glance, because the mood of loving a person is uncontrollable.
It's just that when we see a person's true heart, we can make a decisive decision, not let ourselves regret it, and don't be let down by anyone.