A few days ago, actor and model Zhang Liang's 14-year-old son Zhang Yuexuan (nickname Tiantian) was accused of suspected early love, and several intimate photos with his little girlfriend were also exposed, which caused many netizens to discuss hotly.
For this matter, not long ago, Zhang Liang himself sent a long article to respond to his son's early love.
In the long article, Zhang Liang mainly expounded three important points:
1, adolescent children have a good feeling for the opposite sex is a normal phenomenon, but there must be a boundary range.
2, we parents, to constantly urge children to study seriously, to maintain a healthy physique at the same time, children's psychological understanding and psychological counseling can not be ignored! The premise of educating children is respect, understanding and guidance.
3. Strongly condemn the online violence against two minor children on the Internet. When children encounter problems in their growth, we will pay strict attention to them at the first time and strive to guide education in a good direction!
It can be seen that Zhang Liang's long response this time is very careful, and, as a father, but also a public figure, he not only carefully weighs the pros and cons, but also strives to achieve the best effect of the response at the same time, to achieve a positive impact.
First, let's review the full story of this.
It is reported that at the beginning of this matter, netizens posted photos to break the news, pointing to early love every day.
Just like the photos posted by netizens, everyone can clearly see that every day with the little girlfriend is in the sweet moment of love, and most of the two will hug and kiss each other when taking photos, without concealing the strong and hot love for each other.
Tian Tian is only 14 years old, and as a child star, he participated in "Where Did Daddy Go" with his father Zhang Liang, and he can also be regarded as a child who grew up watching the audience.
Early love has always been a sensitive topic in adolescence, although every child is difficult to avoid, but no matter who understands, during the study period, early love, if not handled properly, is indeed easy to affect the school.
In addition, the little girlfriend exposed in this group of photos appears to be very mature and has traces of makeup, which also prompts some comments to start to deviate, and even obviously has malicious elements towards the woman.
The miasma of smoke on the Internet, what kind of people have, I believe that no matter who feels the same.
This time, Zhang Liang, as a father, is obviously also quite critical of public opinion and wind direction on the Internet, so he emphasized related topics such as online violence in his response.
From the overall response, Zhang Liang did not avoid the important and light, obviously, he understands more about the focus of the problem now, not the son's love affair itself, but how to reasonably guide, and how to reduce the harm caused by online violence to the son.
To be precise, I personally believe that Zhang Liang's education style and attitude have almost no thorn to pick, and it is also worth learning from every parent and parent who is confused about education.
A few years ago, Zhang Liang had answered the question of early love for children on the show, but it was his daughter who was asked at the time, and Zhang Liang's reaction was that he would be in a bad mood when he thought that this kind of thing really happened.
It should be noted that what is said here is the daughter, the reason why Zhang Liang will have such a reaction, one is that the girl is indeed the party that is easy to be hurt in the relationship, and the other reason is that he envisions his own daughter.
After all, the matter of "early love", if it is not placed on public figures, will not even surprise many people, although this matter needs attention, but it is by no means such a big deal.
Putting aside the identity of the star, Zhang Liang, as an ordinary father, believes that like most people, there are only three problems to worry about.
First, it affects learning and future.
Second, the child is hurt in the process.
Third, you may lose control of your child.
Of course, the above is only most ordinary parents, in fact, spread on a public figure like Zhang Liang, these problems have to be magnified countless times.
In the film and television circle, there are also many works about early love, foreign ones have "Sudden Heartbeat", domestic ones have the "17-year-old does not cry" that we are familiar with, etc., and even in recent years, "Little Parting" and "Little Joy" have also mentioned the related topics of "early love".
So, why do film and television dramas mention the "early love" that is not worth advocating in the eyes of these adults?
The reason is simple, this is an inevitable experience, and it is also an adolescent process that almost everyone has to face.
Whether it is as a party or a responsible person, whether it is a child or a parent, we should also look at "early love" with a calm mind as much as possible.
If the feelings of adolescence can grow naturally, then, no matter what the result is, it will be the most precious experience in life in the future.
As for whether "early love" is guilty? It also all depends on the individual's mentality, because, but those who think this way, they just turn too many people's adolescent feelings into weakness, self-destruction, self-denial.
In the same way, modern public opinion's treatment of parent-child relationship has long been off track, and most topics only talk about the scale of contemporary people's intervention in private life, while ignoring the emotional boundaries of human beings themselves.
Therefore, do not blindly criticize "early love", if most parents have an equal heart, if most parents will reasonably help children understand the correct way of handling human feelings, then the word "early love" should have disappeared a long time ago.