On May 9, Zhang Liang's 14-year-old son Zhang Yuexuan (nickname: Tian tian) rushed to the Weibo hot search in love, which caused netizens to laugh at it for a while.
In the face of the "concern" of netizens, Zhang Liang posted a response that it is normal for adolescent children to have good feelings for the opposite sex, but there must be a boundary range, and now learning is the most important, and they will respect, understand and guide children. But as a father, I strongly condemn those online violence against two underage children on the Internet!
In children's issues such as "early love", parents actually have two functions, one is to guide and calm, and the other is to stimulate reinforcement. All parents want to achieve the first effect, but unfortunately many parents in reality have made it the second result. They want to prevent the child from falling in love early, but they push the child in the wrong way, so that the child involuntarily falls into the whirlpool. "The most effective way to shake the child's will is to arouse his sense of guilt", the biggest mistake of the parent here is to use the vulgar concept of adults to vulgarize some of the children's original normal behavior, artificially create the child's guilt, and objectively push the child to an inextricable situation.
Neither is the tube? Whether it is or not? So what exactly should we do?
First of all, affirm the child, tell him/her, at your age to have a good feeling for the opposite sex, it seems that your psychological development and physical development are synchronized, very healthy. In addition, having the opposite sex like you shows that you are a lovely person; you have a good feeling for others, indicating that you are also a person who knows how to appreciate others.
Secondly, tell him/her that junior high school students have a good feeling for the opposite sex, this is just the beginning, you as a cute child, in the future, you will meet a lot of people who appreciate you, we must be grateful to them; at the same time, you will also meet many children of the opposite sex who deserve our appreciation, each of them has different advantages.
Finally, tell him/her that a person is only worthy of appreciation by others if he or she is cute. If a classmate does not study well, has a mediocre temperament, and has average ability, why let others appreciate him. For middle school students, the most important thing is to learn, temperament and ability are generated on the basis of knowledge. Only by studying well can you become more and more cute and get appreciated by others, and at the same time, you can slowly learn to appreciate others.
As long as the adult's heart is sunny, the child's heart will also be sunny.
Children are the best gift from Heaven, I hope that every child can grow up happily and happily, and at the same time remind every adult not to forget that you were once a child.
Bibliography: A Good Mother Is Better Than a Good Teacher: A 16-Year-Old Godchild's Handbook of an Education Expert