Hello everyone, I am a love person who focuses on family education.
Do you want your children to grow up to be successful? Of course, your answer is yes. However, in the process of children's growth, parents are prone to mistake the advantages of their children as shortcomings, affecting their children's chances of becoming talented.
Colleague Liu Jie's children love to help children from childhood, after going to school, good grades will give lectures to classmates, however, Liu Jie feels that it is too much of a waste of time, with this time, children learn on their own, certainly more progress, do not let children give lectures to classmates. Although the child was not very happy, he still agreed.
Wait until the child is about to go to college, Liu Sister's brother's child came to ask a math problem, the child directly refused, the reason is that there is no time, will affect their college entrance examination, Liu Sister brother is angry, Liu Sister is also pressed not angry.
However, if you think about it carefully, this kind of practice is what Liu Jie taught her children, who can blame? Is it really okay to raise a child to be a selfish person and only love yourself?
From ancient times to the present, many accomplished people will strictly demand themselves, and they will be more demanding of their own descendants, so that they will leave behind methods such as "Zhu ZiZhi Family Maxim" and other methods that can be used as a reference for cultivating children.
Before Ouyang Xiu participated in the imperial examination, when he was a child, he helped the children of his benefactors and came to him for questions, but he refused! After his mother knew, let him carry water to reflect, he understood his mother's hard heart, to be a person to know gratitude and repay gratitude, there is no grateful heart, empty talent, but also lost the value of growth.
When Zeng Guofan was educating his next generation, he would ask his children to get up early, read the sages, and do their own housework. He believes that getting up late is the manifestation of the loser, reading the sages, in order to let the child understand the truth of being a man, in the case of a maid at home, the child still needs to sort out his own supplies, in order not to make one, even his own room is not clearly swept, how can he be a person with the country in mind!
In the process of children's growth, there are three advantages, but they are easily regarded as shortcomings by parents. Affects the development of a child throughout life.
(1) Children are helpful
When parents judge whether their children are excellent, they always evaluate the results. Originally, children liked to help their classmates, but parents thought that it would definitely affect their own learning, so they did not agree with their children to help their classmates talk about topics, and even did not let their children become cadres on duty.
But I don't know that the people who are really productive are helpful and can find what others need.
When children are only learning for themselves, the amount of heart is small, even if the grades are good, it is difficult to achieve great achievements.
Children with big hearts can have a bigger stage in life.
A child with a small heart will only become a selfish person, and it is difficult to have a big show.
(2) Children are diligent in their hands and feet
The child goes into the kitchen to help, but the parents think that the delay will affect the learning and drive the child out of the kitchen. Originally, the child was very diligent and could clean up the room, but the parents felt that doing housework was too delayed and would affect the learning.
Don't let the child do housework, and even say ugly things when you see the child helping to work. Forcing the child to stay away from housework, he also lost a good opportunity to grow.
I am not used to it, and I am not grateful. Children do nothing, parents can only work harder, and will not improve academic performance. Instead, I lost my gratitude to my parents and to others. When you meet a child who complains, can't see the hardships of others, with these habits, when he enters the workplace, it will become a bad problem that affects his promotion.
Who wants to have a colleague who can only see the shortcomings of colleagues, their own poor ability, no team spirit, only value personal interests, it is difficult to get along with colleagues, how to get a promotion opportunity?
(3) Children pursue perfection
Children do things extra carefully, strict requirements for themselves, and even hope that their homework is clean, every word is neat, the time to write homework is too long, parents do not find children, is to hope that homework can be perfect, only to see that the homework time is too long, they began to criticize children, write homework faster, affecting the child's determination to pursue better.
Originally the homework was neat, in order to let parents see that their homework could be written quickly, they had to write poorly in order not to be criticized by parents.
When children pay attention to details, they are not encouraged, but are criticized, which will only make children give up details, complete in order to complete homework, and ignore the details in the process in order to achieve the goal.
However, all those who can achieve fame care about the details.
"Persuasion" said: Do not accumulate steps, there is no way to go thousands of miles; do not accumulate small streams, there is no way to become a river and a sea. Only when we work hard from every step of the moment can we pay seriously, can we harvest greater progress and achieve a better life.
When cultivating children, it is necessary to guide children to take a correct path in life in order to give full play to their talents and achieve achievements in their careers. Love is not enough to harm it. If the child's correct behavior is all controlled, it will only make the child a selfish person, who is eager to do things, cannot see the efforts of others, and often complains that life is unfair and fate is unfair!
Do you want to see your child become a grateful, complaining person every day?
Cultivate children to become big hearts and willing to pay, in order to see the needs of others, solve more people's troubles, achieve brilliant careers, and really get ahead and soar!
In your eyes, what are the advantages and disadvantages of your child?
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