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Love is reincarnation

The feeling of being in love is nothing more than two sentences: relive the beauty of childhood and correct the mistakes of childhood.

Many of the things experienced in childhood, especially those that are not good, will affect a lifetime, at first I did not feel it, but in the past two years, with the clearer understanding, it seems that it is really like that.

Experienced a period of diseaseless relationship, one-sided self-righteous like, in exchange for only the deep scars in the heart of the youthful ignorance, which cannot be repaired today, every time will unconsciously wake up, this addictive pain, when you see a person who has fallen into the abyss, he may be enjoying this abyss, every aftertaste will be immersed in it, it is difficult to extricate himself, but also in the unceasing de-sanctification of this feeling, as if it can be compared with the great love in history, but what is not recognized is that It was just a one-sided fantasy of his own, for such a first love, from the beginning of the despair, in the end it really became an impossible love, hurting himself very deeply, but it was difficult to extricate himself, and finally sealed it in his heart, becoming a holy place that no one could enter.

But the problem is that what you are obsessed with is only the ideal woman in your own mind, according to psychology, it is to project the model of the ideal woman in your mind onto the woman, and what you are obsessed with is only the illusion of the woman. Once the obsession occurs, the infatuated person sees only the illusion projected onto the infatuated person, and does not see the real existence of the infatuated person, her appearance, her temperament, her thoughts, her past and future life...

In reality, there has not been much contact and understanding, and it is not kept idealizing, so that when there is real contact with her, there will be complex emotions of doubt, is she really the one she likes in her heart? But as the distance increases, it will slowly repair and forget this short-term doubt, continue to retain the appearance of the fantasy in the heart, and that kind of unnatural experience will also remain in the subconscious, whenever there is a similar situation in the future, it will burst out unconsciously, unconsciously substitute into it, unable to distinguish, so it is really "reason has no power, emotion is the most charming."

It is like this, in this world trance after some years, now almost to the age of establishment, are more and more mature, only the emotions in the heart, or like children, after suffering from pain, not healed, has been shelved to this day, some things will gradually grow and mature with time, emotions are not, only experience more, will slowly become as stable as adults, and age has nothing to do, this is also a very strange thing. Especially in the past year, I have felt this more deeply.

Learning to be happy repeats happiness, and learning to be unhappy repeats unhappiness;

Learn to trust to repeat trust, learn to be hostile to repeat hostility;

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Don't fall twice in one place.

In other words, my previous self may have despised such a passage, saying it very superficially and without any content, but now after re-reading it, I know the wisdom of such a statement after I have really experienced it. Repeated reincarnation, in the time of the engraving disk will not be immediately reflected, it will have a large span of intervals, let you feel that it is impossible, heavy blow, will see how ridiculous you are, obviously has been very mature, but still make low-level mistakes, not at all rational, because the child in your heart, from beginning to end, has not really grown up.

Maybe that's how the repetition will always exist, as if we're used to having the life of the past, and if the life of the present is different from the past, we have to do something to make the present the same as the past. It's like this, maybe it won't get better in a lifetime, and the funny thing is that we sometimes recognize this, but we can't make changes subconsciously, so it's true that man is a complex creature.

Sometimes we also pin our hopes on another person, whether we are happy or not, completely rely on her, that "mr. right" or "right lady", but this view may be wrong from the beginning, in the era of love, as long as the lover is not forced to choose, then the luck and misfortune in love are actually your active choice.

If we cling to the idea that happiness lies in finding the right person, then we may not be able to find our own answers for the rest of our lives.

The key to the correctness of love is not to find the "right" person, but to whether you can cultivate your heart into "right".

Love is a reincarnation of childhood relationships.

Transforming dreams is the root of the pain points of romantic relationships. You are obviously with such a person, but you do not want her to become another person you imagined. Even, you can't see the real existence of this person at all, but you are extremely happy or extremely painful to project the "good things" and "bad things" in your heart onto each other. You are in love with a fantasy person.

Marriage is looking for a "companion", not a dream.

The infatuated person is not obsessed with the real self, but with an illusion projected on himself by the infatuator.

No one wants to be an illusion of another person.

What you shape yourself, only you can see.

If it is the feeling of reaching the extreme, caring about each other extremely, thinking about each other's every move all the time, their own happiness and pain are ignited by even small actions of the other party, and magnified to the extreme, so that it seems that they will dissolve at once, there is no such thing, this ultimate love, certainly not will not last and long, things will be reversed, Tai Ji Pi lai.

The interpretation of true love may be: "Find a person who stays with each other for a lifetime, not necessarily perfect, not even necessarily a love, as long as the same road is good, you can walk together, not to be lonely for a lifetime, enough."