There is a lyric in "Cloudy Day" that goes like this:
"The beginning is always wonderful every minute, and everyone thinks that its enthusiasm will not diminish."
Some stories, you can guess the beginning, but you can't guess the end.
Just like feelings, in the beginning, men are passionate about you, gentle and considerate, and patient.
However, once he successfully chases you down and spends a long time together, some men will get tired.
He will begin to dislike you for talking too much, for your dependence on him.
The position between you has changed from being his initiative in everything at the beginning to being your initiative in everything now.
If you don't take the initiative, there will be no intersection between you.
A man like this, in the end, has no heart for you at all.
So, in a relationship, girls must learn to discern.
Judge whether a man has real feelings for you, just see if he will contact you at the following 3 times.
When he encounters difficulties
Many boys are indoctrinated by their parents and teachers from an early age:
"Boys have tears and don't flick", "Boys must be brave",
"Be calm and calm in case of trouble", "We must face difficulties and cannot escape"...
So many boys will try to make themselves look invincible after they grow up.
Even if you encounter difficulties, the first thing you think of is not to ask for help from others, but to find a way to solve it yourself.
Only when you really can't solve it yourself, you will ask for help from others.
But once he falls in love with you, you become his weakness and his armor.
No matter what happens, he will discuss with you and work with you to find a way.
Because in his heart, he has long regarded you as his own person, and you and he have become 'you'.
He won't be prejudiced against you in his heart, think you're a girl, don't understand anything, and won't want to talk to you about anything.
On the contrary, people who truly love you are willing to talk to you about anything.
Even if you can't help him, he's willing to talk to you.
Because your encouragement to him is the best and greatest help for him.
People like this who will respect you from the bottom of their hearts are really the people they love most.
As Tolstoy said:
"We love each other as equals because we know each other and respect each other."
People who love you must know how to respect you, and will go through the storms with you and share the prosperity of the world.
Meet something you like
When boys chase girls, they are enthusiastic, flamboyant, and generous.
He doesn't skimp on anything you like.
Moreover, it will often take the initiative to buy you what you like and give it to you.
The same is true of the hot love period, which will be so good to you that you want to live with him for a lifetime.
But once you spend more time together, some boys will shift their focus from you to work.
He will start to forget your preferences and stop buying gifts for you.
Such a boy can't say that he doesn't love you, only that he loves you deeply enough.
People who really love you must have a lot of preferences for you.
Even, in order not to forget, he will write down everything related to you in the phone memo.
He knows exactly which coffee you like to drink, which bread you like, what color of lipstick you like.
He may not be very rich, but as long as he sees something you like, he is willing to pay for it.
A man like this who will infiltrate love into the bits and pieces of your life is really loving you.
Zhang Xiaoxian said:
"Every woman falls into the bowl of hot soup that a man brings home from work.
In fact, it is not that the soup is delicious, but it turns out that you still put me in your heart. ”
Indeed, women are really easy to be warmed and touched by these small details of boys.
What women ask for in their feelings is that men care about themselves.
When you misunderstand him
Two people have been together for a long time, and there will always be some stumbling or misunderstandings.
This is something that is very common in relationships.
But some men, once they have a misunderstanding with you, the first thing he thinks of is not how to solve the misunderstanding with you.
It is to escape, not to face, or to force you to take the initiative to bow your head in a cold and violent way.
Such a man is undoubtedly unreliable, and his love for you is unreliable.
The person who really loves you must be afraid that you will misunderstand him.
When you misunderstand him and ignore him, he gets nervous.
Will call you frequently and want to explain it to you.
If you are angry, you are not willing to answer his phone at all, and he will continue to send you WeChat messages.
His initiative and his discouragement will make you feel that he values you.
Men who love you must be afraid of missing you.
Therefore, whenever there is a misunderstanding between you, he will take the initiative to explain it to you.
Even if you don't want to listen, he will still try his best to solve the misunderstanding between you.
Like this encounter contradictions, do not escape, but face the difficulties, must explain clearly with you,
The man who doesn't want you to misunderstand him must have had real feelings for you.