In a person's life, you have to make countless choices, and behind each choice, there will be a lot of deep thinking, and there will be a lot of suggestions that you did not expect. This is because when people think about a profound problem, they will want to listen to the opinions of others, and then make their own choices based on their actual situation. In the case of feelings, we often hear advice from parents and friends, so at such times, should we listen to their suggestions?
First, on the basis of not violating the principle, it may be considered
Sometimes advice is not made out of thin air, and it may also be a judgment made in the senses based on what others have learned and known about you. Although such a recognition is not necessarily completely correct, if it is not contrary to the principle, it can also be considered, after all, no matter how to say, know one more person, one more friend, the truth and principle are the same. Therefore, you can try to be a friend first without violating your own requirements, maybe it is really suitable?
Second, their proposals could be given due consideration
Although it is still necessary for us to make up our own minds about emotional matters, the objective suggestions of others can sometimes have a promoting effect. Therefore, when others give us suggestions, we need to seriously think about the suggestions they make, whether they are suitable for themselves, whether they coincide with their own ideas, if their suggestions are in line with their own requirements, they can listen appropriately, try to contact and see, and then make their own choices and judgments. After all, sometimes what you encounter will not appear for no reason, there must be a reason for his appearance. Therefore, when others give you advice, you can also think about whether it is really appropriate, whether it will really be like this, and verify it yourself.
Third, the advice of friends can be listened to, but not necessarily followed
As the saying goes, a thousand people have a thousand Hamlets, everyone treats things differently, and their suggestions or ideas are mostly born out of their own or objective evaluations. Therefore, when a friend gives you advice, especially in terms of feelings, you can listen to it appropriately, and think seriously without depriving your friend of his sincerity, but you don't have to do it. After all, sometimes when you make your own choices, the results will sometimes break through the expectations of others. Therefore, emotional choices, just listen to it, decide to do it yourself, and live your life by yourself.
Fourth, recommendations are often based on assumptions
As the saying goes, to do things to open their own pattern, although other people's suggestions may not play a big role, but sometimes, objective suggestions can often play a role in icing on the cake, just the so-called more advice, maybe more than one choice. Therefore, in the hypothetical thinking based on suggestions, if there is really such a result according to the development of the script, it may as well be tried, of course, these are based on their own will, can not force themselves, after all, happiness this thing, is what they can not force, or need their own action or effort.
Will you listen to the advice of others and choose a lover? First of all, we still have to see whether this suggestion meets their own requirements, if it meets their own requirements, they can also accept the suggestion appropriately, and go to contact to see if it is really suitable for themselves. If this suggestion goes against one's original intention and principles, then you can ignore it and listen to it. After all, life is to live by oneself, happiness must also be pursued and fought for by oneself, and the suggestions of others are only other people's, not their own. Therefore, learn to value your own decisions and make your own choices.