The understanding of love, when you are young, basically always think of "sticking tightly together, never separating".
But after the "life of one person" into the "world of two people", often everything is not as "perfect" as we think.
It was discovered that love is not the fairy tale of "princes and princesses" we imagine, it needs to be managed.
Among them, there are "character run-ins between two people, family chores of chai rice oil and salt, and the maintenance of family relations between the two sides."
These may seem simple, but they are not simple.
In particular, the "love brain" full of longing for "love" and full of "talents" and dreams of beautiful people is easier to fall into the "reality" stage of "dreams" and feel "frustrated, entangled, and troubled".
This is what we often say, "the greater the hope", the "greater the disappointment".
It is also for this reason that many readers and friends have said in the message to the author: "My lover has a strange temper, before they were together, I felt that he was quite gentle, I did not expect him to be such a person, which really disappointed me." ”
But the author also tells you: "Maybe your lover feels the same way about you in his heart." ”
"Full of hope" but because of the "polishing of reality", in the end full of "loss".
In fact, do not wonder why love is like this, as early as a long time ago, Li Zongsheng's song "When Love Has Become a Thing of the Past" has already told you the reason: "In fact, you don't understand, there is love in this world; one day you will understand that this world will not be different without me." ”
It's not that "love" hurts you, it's that you don't understand what "love" is.
However, every girl is still full of "longing" for love in her heart, so today, we will talk about a few from the perspective of horoscopes, the older we are, the more we understand what "love" is, and we will "first bitter and then sweet" in feelings.
At the same time, it also makes you understand why you have a sense of loss about "love" and how to get your own "happiness".
Cancer
Almost every Cancer girl will experience a love that makes her "tear her heart and lungs" but can't reach the end.
Why?
Because this constellation is dominated by the moon planet that represents "motherhood", it is too easy to dominate others.
Getting along with friends, it is easy to take friends' affairs as their own affairs, take a big package, and carry all the problems of friends over, which is more positive than their own affairs.
But if the other party is the kind of more easy-going is good, when the other party is also a strong personality, it is easy to feel that the "Cancer girl" is too nosy, and too strong, full of concern, but will be blamed.
In the relationship, this is even more so, because he likes to take care of people too much, is too good at thinking about people, and is too empathetic; on the contrary, it is easy to provoke "ma bao man, leg splitting man".
Speaking of this, everyone must feel unfair, why such a good girl, but will meet such a boy!
But make sense and you'll understand why.
You are taken care of by your mother, who has cooked for you since childhood, washed your clothes, worried about your studies, and worried about your warmth and cold.
But soon, these will become "habits" in your mind, and many times, you will not be "grateful", but will resist and argue with her.
The same is true when applied to "love".
Therefore, many "Cancer girls" are always prone to encountering such boys who have no sense of responsibility, no empathy, and are spoiled when they first come into contact with feelings.
These "sunshine boys" have the "lively, positive energy" that "Cancer" wants, but they do not have the "steadfastness, security" that "Cancer" girls want.
They are "doing", Cancer women are waiting, waiting for them to grow up, waiting for their "pay" to be rewarded after all.
However, unfortunately, the first relationship of cancer women is difficult to have a perfect ending, and it ends in a "breakup".
Yes, although these boys will definitely "regret for life" after breaking up with the "Cancer girl", the "Cancer girl" will also become "selfish and do not believe in love" for a long time for this reason.
After ending the relationship, they will become reluctant to fall in love and think about themselves: "What do I really want, why did I become this way I hated, what are my strengths, and what should I live like?" ”
Under multiple reflections, choose to "study, study, start a business, exercise", and spend time and money on how to make yourself more "excellent".
Turn yourself from a "yellow-faced woman" who worries about lovers all the time into a "goddess" who passes by a group of boys and attracts the attention of all of them.
From the emotional feeling that "I have no choice", I have become the one who "has many choices".
Thus, among the many suitors, choose the partner she likes who is "responsible, responsible, and secure".
Then, it's really like a fairy tale: "The prince and the princess live happily ever after!" ”
Libra
Countless emotional TV series have said: "Why is it difficult for a woman to be a woman".
But "Libra girls" rarely do not wronged themselves.
Obviously dressed himself like a "princess", but in his feelings like a "slave".
The reason is that she will always choose a lover who is not suitable for her in the "first relationship".
Because she cares more about appearance, she has always controlled the temperament in this area to death.
Therefore, naturally there is no shortage of people to like; but the strange thing is that Libra's choice difficulties always make her make the wrong choice.
It was as if she were buying something, two hand creams, and she always liked to choose the one that looked good but wasn't easy to use.
Then look at it badly, throw it away and pity, then make it work.
But she doesn't know that she is a constellation who does not like "make-up".
Thus, her "entanglements, troubles" followed.
She desperately wants to tell herself that she did not choose the wrong choice, so as to try to change herself, let herself adapt to her "choice", lie to herself, this is my favorite, I did not choose the wrong.
But is the heart of the autumn sign so easy to be "fooled"?
So, while she humbled herself, she herself began to look down on herself.
In this state, her other half will slowly begin to "ignore" her.
And when I keep torturing myself and asking myself, "I've given so much, why is this happening?" ”
The "Libra girl" began to awaken.
She is no longer "indecisive" and thinks that this unsuitable "hand cream" should be "used together".
She suddenly found that the "trash can" was the place where it should be.
After making this decision, she will feel very relaxed, and BGM will instantly change from "Two Springs And Moon" to Wu Bai's "Sudden Self".
Then, it is the "wash of decline" that says: "Why should Libra be embarrassed about himself?" ”
Start dressing yourself more aggressively, correcting yourself, and perfecting yourself.
When more people come to pursue themselves, she will strictly control it, so that she no longer likes a person for "packaging", but "from the inside out" to understand a person.
Then ask yourself repeatedly: "Do you really like this person, whether you want to be with him, whether you have regrets in your heart." ”
When you tell yourself, "I definitely won't regret it, it's him." "Make your own decisions again.
Later, the happy Libra put on the wedding dress he wanted, and then understood this truth: "If you can't choose, then wait patiently; if you wander, it means that this is not what I want; when I know how to be patient and serious, I finally become my own princess!" ”
Leo
A very strong constellation, but with its own sadness.
Leo girls are very strong, very self-reliant, very sensible, very responsible.
But it's also because of these character traits.
Let their first relationship, it is easy to encounter a "married man".
Why?
They need the other half to have patience, but it is difficult for young boys to have; she needs the other half to be enterprising, and the young boys' playfulness is heavier; they need "sweet mouth, clever heart", and it is difficult for men who cannot fall in love to understand the woman's heart.
And "married men or love field masters" can easily meet their psychological needs.
Under the premise of being blinded by "attraction", "Leo girls" can easily become "deceived and pretend to be strong women" without knowing it.
And this "strong sense of self-esteem", like to report good news and do not report worries of the constellation, but also always like to be happy to tell everyone, when hurt, lick the wound, but also increase their pain when the "love failure".
At this time, Leo girls are reflecting on whether I am not suitable for love, whether I should re-recognize myself, why I love someone so much, why I am always deceived, always encounter "rotten peach blossoms".
Then, it's the beginning of a new life.
Leo girls will no longer be so cold to "sweet words", and will have a kind of rejection and suspicion.
When you meet a person you feel like, you must know him thoroughly, meet his parents, friends, and family, and then choose whether to fall in love.
As she becomes more and more cautious, she will find that she is so happy to let herself be "down-to-earth".
When looking back, although full of regrets, Leo girls will tell themselves: "My choice today is what really makes me happy!" ”
The above are a few constellations that are bigger and more understanding of love, first bitter and then sweet.
From the text, you can find that the more women who know how to hurt themselves, the easier it is to get "happiness" and get their own "love".
And the more you pay attention to others, the more likely it is to lack self-confidence, or even have no self-confidence, and this kind of girl, the more likely it is to be emotionally frustrated, career frustration, deceive yourself, lose yourself.
So if you're still struggling with "why my love is not happy," please focus your energy on yourself as soon as possible.
How to divert attention, not through "blind thinking, impetuousness, entanglement", but to let yourself "settle your mind, calm the spirit" to thoroughly understand yourself, more understand your "advantages" and cherish yourself more.
How?
My advice to you is to achieve this by hand copying the Diamond Sutra.
First of all, if you indulge in your own "sadness, entanglement" every day, you will still be in the same place, unable to detach, and then more into the "impetuous, anxious" psychological state.
There is no benefit to yourself, and the more you think about it, the more you feel that you are wronged, and the more you think about it, the more you can't figure it out.
Instead of this, it is better to let yourself "calm down", give yourself a quiet space, light a blazing incense, brew a pot of tea, and let your "heart, god, mind, eyes, hands, and pen" focus on the facsimile of the Diamond Sutra and copy it carefully.
In the process of non-stop copying, he exercised his "sitting", and he also exercised his "endurance and concentration".
And from the Diamond Sutra verse: "All appearances are illusory; seeing all phases is not the same, and seeing them as they are." In a few words, it is clear: "As long as you are still attached to right and wrong, and do not consider your own feelings, everything you do is useless."
If you want to get out of your current life, first you have to give up everything you have now, and what you stubbornly don't want to give up is the reason for your pain and entanglement.
And when you are willing to "give up", use new ideas, and look at problems that could not be solved before, you will understand the reason for everything, and you will be reborn."
Therefore, it is really beneficial to have nothing to copy the Diamond Sutra, especially for those "bitter mistresses" who are entangled in feelings.
At the end of the article, I would like to emphasize again that every fall is to make us walk more steadily.
Every pain is also to make us stronger.
Pain is old, life is new, let us forget the past, look forward to the future, never stop, born to the sun!!