"My sister and our lives are the same, she just doesn't want to show up in front of the public, but in fact our relationship is very good, every time we go back we will party." 」
Zhao Benshan's daughter Qiu Qiu's words during the live broadcast caused a thousand waves, and the "sister" she called was the daughter born to Zhao Benshan and his ex-wife.
Qiu Qiu said that the outside world thought things were too complicated, but in fact, the relationship between the two families was very good.
Regarding Zhao Benshan's last marriage, there is indeed a lot of speculation from the outside world, his ex-wife Ge Shuzhen gave birth to a son and a daughter for Zhao Benshan, and accompanied him through that difficult period of art.
However, after Zhao Benshan became famous, the "wife of the chaff" had to go to the church, and Zhao Benshan fell in love with the young and beautiful Ma Lijuan and filed for divorce with guilt.
Now that Ge Shuzhen has been separated from Zhao Benshan for more than 30 years, how is she doing now? Is there any contact with Zhao Benshan? Is she really as the matchmaker said, still can't let go of Zhao Benshan?
In Zhao Benshan's work "Ma Dashuai", there is always a place name that frequently appears: Kaiyuan, which is the name of Zhao Benshan's hometown.
Ge Shuzhen is a Pioneer like him, Zhao Benshan's life is even more miserable than Ge Shuzhen, just remembered that his mother died of illness, because he could not stand the poor life, his father also abandoned Zhao Benshan and left his hometown, and since then there has been no news.
Zhao Benshan became an orphan when he was six years old, with no relatives to rely on, and could only learn art from his blind uncle.
The money earned by the uncle by selling art barely allowed Zhao Benshan to feed him, but when Zhao Benshan grew up day by day, when he reached the age of marrying relatives, his uncle was helpless.
He was just a blind entertainer, and even his meals were not eaten, where could he afford to buy a house for Zhao Benshan to help him marry?
Zhao Benshan had nothing but this uncle, so he became the boss in the eyes of the village matchmaker.
But everyone in a slightly better family did not agree to introduce their daughter to him, and everyone said, "Isn't it obvious that you are going to suffer when you marry into such a family?" ”
When the peers around him have been getting married and starting a family one after another, Zhao Benshan still lives with his uncle, and no girl in the village can look up to him, and Zhao Benshan can only play a bare stick in the laughter.
Later, his second aunt could not see it and broke her leg and broke her mouth, so she said that she had a marriage for him: the woman was a local, named Ge Shuzhen, and was a good girl who was practical and hardworking.
Before getting married, the matchmaker repeatedly warned Zhao Benshan: "When you become a family, you must be good to your daughter-in-law, and what people say is what it is, otherwise if you hurt the girl, you really can only beat a single stick for a lifetime." ”
On the day the two met, Zhao Benshan was extremely nervous, stumbling to introduce his situation: his parents left early, followed the second uncle to learn to pull erhu, before working as a propagandist in the commune's propaganda team, after the disbandment of the propaganda team has not found a new job, the family did not leave a house, but he will definitely hurry to find a way and strive to build a house as soon as possible.
Probably touched by Zhao Benshan's sincerity, Ge Shuzhen did not show dissatisfaction after listening to Zhao Benshan's conditions, but said very shyly: "I am also a bitter person, poor for more than ten years, but if we have a new family together, I think we will not be as poor as before." ”
This means that their blind date is successful, and Ge Shuzhen agrees to live with Zhao Benshan and marry a man in the village who no one wants to give him a matchmaking again.
Although she had made enough psychological preparations before marriage, when she married into the Zhao family, Ge Shuzhen was still shocked by the poverty of his family.
It is not an exaggeration to say that this condition is that the four walls of the family are all over, and the daily necessities and pots and pans are all brought from her mother's house.
The wedding was also very simple: there was no light and no one was boiling, and Zhao Benshan took Ge Shuzhen to his home alone, which was considered to be a family.
A woman only has such a romantic moment in her life, because the poor Ge Shuzhen's wedding was rushed and shabby, and her heart was wronged.
But when Zhao Benshan said to her apologetically: "I really can't stand you, such a big happy event should be blown and beaten a little battle, but I don't have money",
Ge Shuzhen's unhappiness in her heart was swept away, and she told Zhao Benshan: "I am not afraid of poverty, as long as we are two people together, eat a little pain and suffer a little tired, life will definitely get better."
I don't believe that we can continue to be so poor, maybe we still have a rich and noble life, and no one in the village will dare to look down on us in the future, and they will ask us to do things. ”
Ge Shuzhen said this in order to enlighten Zhao Benshan, and now she still does not understand what a word is, her husband is not the big guy who "went out of shanhaiguan and looked for Zhao Benshan", but an artist who had no upper and lower meals.
After marriage, Zhao Benshan still pulled erhu everywhere to earn rations, and he traveled east and west to break through, and the work in the family's work field naturally fell on Ge Shuzhen. She often had to run on both sides of the family's field, busy with housework and farm work, and refused to delay anywhere.
The housework at home is good to say, but the labor in the field is not something that a woman can bear, and every autumn harvest and spring ploughing Ge Shuzhen is tired and breathless on the field.
The villagers advised her: "Your old Zhao Hao said that he is also a strong man, and that women can do farm work, and he can earn a few pounds of grain by selling art every day, so it is better to come back and cultivate the land for you." ”
Ge Shuzhen always defended Zhao Benshan: "He mixed well outside, from the township fire to the city, and from the city to the province, and he will do big things in the future!" ”
All this news was told by Ge Shuzhen herself to Zhao Benshan, and he always told her about his achievements with great interest: he entered the qu art troupe, he went to the province to perform, and both of them became famous in the Liaoning Folk Art Troupe...
Ge Shuzhen only understands farm work and does not understand art, she does not understand what Zhao Benshan's achievements represent, and every time she listens, she can only smile and be happy for him.
This made Zhao Benshan feel a little disappointed: his wife was good at everything, she could suffer hardships and be wronged, she had no culture, and she had no common language with herself.
There was occasional friction in the married life of the two, but when the daughter was born, Ge Shuzhen and Zhao Benshan's feelings were deeper, and the daughter Zhao Yufang was well-behaved and clever, and a mouth with sharp teeth resembled Zhao Benshan, which was deeply loved by old Zhao.
A few years later, Ge Shuzhen gave birth to a son for Zhao Benshan, and they named their son "Zhao Tie Egg" according to the saying that "the more the child's name is, the more expensive it is", and Zhao Benshan, who originally had nothing, had both children and daughters at the moment, and the family of four lived very happily.
However, fate seemed to deliberately embarrass this bitter couple, and it was not long before Zhao Tieegg was found to have congenital heart disease, and he was still a deaf and mute child, unable to hear or make a sound.
Ge Shuzhen's eyes swollen with tears when she heard the news, and she blamed herself for not being able to give birth to a healthy son for the Zhao family, which made the family that just got up fall into difficulty again.
Children's lives are in danger at any time, and congenital heart disease treatment requires a high cost that a peasant family can not afford.
In order to earn money for his son's treatment, Zhao Benshan had a heart and decided to go outside and sell his art more diligently.
In 1982, he became famous for performing "Three Strings", and eight years later he was discovered by Jiang Kun and walked to the stage of the Spring Festival Gala, becoming a well-known comedian in the country, and his life has undergone earth-shaking changes.
Money, fame, status, these things that Zhao Benshan could not think of before broke out like a flash flood at this moment, Zhao Benshan is no longer the poor boy before, bought a car and bought a house, and became the envy of everyone in the village.
Ge Shuzhen was very happy to see Zhao Benshan's success, but at the same time she had an ominous premonition: the bitter days were coming to an end, and her marriage to Zhao Benshan was probably over.
Sure enough, after becoming famous, Zhao Benshan no longer needed the peasant women who had worked in the fields, what he needed was someone who shared a common language with him and could sing with his husband artistically, and Ge Shuzhen, who had no culture, obviously did not belong to the latter.
At this time, Ma Lijuan appeared, Ma Lijuan was young and beautiful, was a teacher at the provincial opera school, and usually always discussed various singing methods with Zhao Benshan, and in getting along, the two had feelings.
Zhao Benshan immediately confessed to Ge Shuzhen, Ge Shuzhen knew that today he was no longer the same person as he was, even if he cried and made trouble, he could not win his heart, and endured grief and promised Zhao Benshan: "You say separate, then separate." ”
Zhao Benshan, full of guilt, gave Ge Shuzhen the family's three-story small Western-style building and car, as well as 250,000 yuan in savings, ending the marriage.
After the divorce, their son Zhao Tie egg also passed away, only 12 years old.
Ge Shuzhen put all her hopes on her daughter and encouraged her to study hard and be admitted to college, and when her daughter was admitted to Dalian Foreign Chinese College, Ge Shuzhen ran to Dalian to accompany her, and when her daughter graduated, she began her own counterattack road.
She did not rely on the money left by Zhao Benshan to retire, secretly went out to work alone from her family, sold socks and brushed plates, brushed bowls in winter until her hands were frozen, sold socks and was driven away by the city management, and her daughter blamed her after she knew: "Why do you have to do this?"
Until Ge Shuzhen spent money to take down a hotel daughter her intentions: she did not want to live on others, and wanted to start her own business to achieve a career.
Ge Shuzhen's original poorly run restaurant, honest and courteous to others, soon did a good job, taste and service are highly praised by customers.
Her daughter once advised her: "You can use your father's name to advertise the restaurant, so that more people will come to visit." ”
Ge Shuzhen refused this offer, she did not need to rely on Zhao Benshan to eat, and she was afraid that she would affect him.
It turns out that Ge Shuzhen's choice is correct, the business of the hotel is getting better and bigger, and she has also become a millionaire, proving her strength.
Now that her daughter Zhao Yufang has already established a family, Zhao Benshan has been living with his current wife, and Ge Shuzhen's original match is very low-key compared with the current one.
The matchmaker who once made a matchmaker for them said that she still had Zhao Benshan in her heart, and perhaps she had not let go of that deep love, but she still chose to let go, gave the other party freedom, and also let herself have a reliable career.
Not relying on others and not complaining about life, Although Ge Shuzhen's culture is not high, she has become the most sober.