A news item on April 27 shocked everyone when zeng jiang, a veteran actor of a generation, died in an isolated hotel in Nathan Road, Tsim Sha Tsui, and the old actor was the familiar Zeng Jiang.
In "The True Colors of Heroes", he is Jian Uncle; in "Across the Sea", he is the adoptive father of the three protagonists; in the 83rd edition of "The Legend of the Archery Hero", he is the evil Yellow Medicine Master.
Mention Zeng Jiang, you can think of the gangster he once played, with a unique aura.
The actor, whose performances will never be remembered, was found by the staff of the quarantine hotel in a room alone.
After the ambulance arrived, medical staff confirmed that the old man died on the spot, and the cause of death was not known until the results of the autopsy came out.
Zeng Jiang, 87, has just returned from a trip to Singapore and Malaysia, accepted the arrangement of immigration quarantine, and waited intently for the end of the quarantine and his family reunion.
Unexpectedly, a person left this world in a hotel.
Zeng Jiang, 87, was still working last year, and there was a new movie to meet with everyone in April this year.
He has been in the acting industry for over 60 years and won the Academy Award for Best Supporting Actor in 2016 for Eavesdropping 3.
Zeng Jiang left many wonderful works in his life, all out of his own love for acting.
Zeng Jiang's family was well-off, he studied in the United States since he was a child, and he also won a scholarship, and he was a proper student bully who graduated from architecture school.
When he first returned to Hong Kong, China, Zeng Jiang was an architect, because his sister was an actor, Zeng Jiang often transported his sister to and from work, thus contacting a lot of staff, and soon, Zeng Jiang turned to an actor.
In the 60 years of acting, news about Zeng Jiang's poor temper has emerged endlessly.
As he grew older, Zeng Jiang also gradually became ill, and was once slapped in public by Xie Tingfeng's father, Xie Xian, because of his physical inconvenience and bad temper.
In recent years, there have been frequent news of Zeng Jiang's emergency admission, and Zeng Jiang's late years are late, and only his third wife accompanies him when he is recuperating in the hospital.
Three marriages in a lifetime, two children, and when they are old and need to be cared for, they are not seen.
Why did this powerful actor with a successful career end up like this in his later years?
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Matching love is not necessarily a matching marriage
Zeng Jiang gave up his admired job as an architect and became an actor, a decision that led him to meet his first wife, Lan Di.
Lan Di's original name was Zhang Laidi, and she had a prominent family lineage and was the great-granddaughter of Zhang Zhidong, a famous minister in the late Qing Dynasty.
At that time, she was also a very good actress, and the two of them worked together for the first time to shoot "The Great Circus", playing husband and wife in the play.
Male handsome and beautiful, because of the drama, the two people soon got married and had children, at that time Zeng Jiang's brother-in-law was the director, so Zeng Jiang's acting road was very smooth.
After getting married, Zeng Jiang starred in many works, and after constantly honing his acting skills, he slowly performed his own style.
Because the experience of studying abroad gave Zeng Jiang the opportunity to go to Hollywood to shoot a movie, the news that Zeng Jiang was angry with Hong Kong actors was made at that time:
"Hong Kong actors don't have a professional, they just care about fun all day long, and they never think about how to improve themselves."
He also scolded actresses who cried and couldn't find their state during filming.
Zeng Jiang, who has deep qualifications, high requirements, and treats himself and others very strictly, was once called "the most difficult actor to work with."
Arrogant and picky, he also has his own ideas in life.
For this reason, the first wife Lan Di also had no choice.
Once Lan Di asked her sisters to come to her house to play mahjong, Zeng Jiang was very annoyed when he watched them gossip while entertaining, and left the house angrily.
Since then, Lan Di has reduced her contacts with her sisters, but the matter of personality is not something that can be changed.
One personality is strong and self-motivated, the other likes to idle and enjoy, the time is long, the contradictions between the two people intensified, and finally ended in divorce, Lan Di moved to Canada with her son.
When they are together, they are the golden children and jade girls in the eyes of others, and their family lineage, experience, and appearance are quite matched.
Because of similar experiences, it will be easier for each other to understand each other, but these external conditions are only convenient for two people to communicate.
To live together truly intimately, it still depends on whether the personalities of the two people are suitable, whether they are willing to give in to each other, and whether they can find satisfaction in their common lives.
If you live more and more unsatisfied, there will only be more and more friction between the two people.
02
Competing in feelings is like playing with fire
After separating from his first wife, Zeng Jiang soon married his second wife, Deng Gongbi.
Deng Gongbi also had a marriage before, but Deng Gongbi knew life very well, not only maintained a good figure, but also had his own aesthetic.
Outgoing personality, a wide circle of communication, his own column writing, funny and humorous and very temperamental, so that Zeng Jiang is very admired.
Deng Gongbi is good everywhere, and there are many houses to rent, food and clothing, and he also has his own ideas in personality.
Deng Gongbi, like Zeng Jiang, has a very sense of superiority, and when she was interviewed, she said:
"I don't care at all about how much money Zeng Jiang makes from filming, and I can't spend all the money I collect on my own rent."
Soon after the marriage, the two had a daughter, named Zeng Muxue.
Wealth, family, children, Deng Gongbi has it, but her extroverted personality does not feel satisfied, she longs for love and needs emotional nourishment, while Zeng Jiang loves drama and often has to go out to shoot.
Over time, Deng Gongbi could not feel romance in the wall of marriage, and wanted to jump out of the wall to seek excitement, and she fell in love with another man, Ruan Zhaohui.
After Zeng Jiang knew, he felt disgraced, and the two people had a very unpleasant time when they divorced.
In order to avoid suspicion, Zeng Jiang chose to leave the house cleanly, but Deng Gongbi refused to let him go, and entangled with Zeng Jiang for a long time under the pretext of "one yuan alimony".
When getting along, if two people want to become the dominant person in the relationship, they must need the obedience of the other party, and when no one wants to obey, getting along becomes a tribulation for two people.
When money and status are on par, the requirements for a partner will rise to a higher spiritual level.
Let each other's spirits get along comfortably, rather than making each other feel bad in the relationship, in order to live together more harmoniously.
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Strange parent-child relationship after divorce
The two marriages made Zeng Jiang's children complete, and after the 50-year-old and the 40-year-old actress Jiao Jiao formed an old companion, the two people have lived until now.
Although Zeng Jiang has always announced to the outside world that he only realized what love is after meeting Jiao Jiao, the two people did not choose to have children again.
The son, who has lived separately for a long time, will occasionally visit Zeng Jiang after growing up, but every time he asks Zeng Jiang for money, he disappears.
Jean Zeng Jiang angrily said that this son was as if he had never been born.
Because the eldest son did not live together since childhood, he used Zeng Jiang as a cash withdrawal tool, while the daughter did not freeze the previous suspicion with his father many years later because of the unpleasant divorce of his parents.
The two unhappy marriages led to the two children becoming alienated from their fathers, so when Zeng Jiang was old, there was no one else around except his third wife.
Children are like saplings, parents who water them more, who cares about them a little more, they will have an emotional connection with whom.
When you are young, you don't spend time and energy on your children, and when you are old, don't expect them to know how to give back.
People who have not been indoctrinated with the concept of filial piety, when they grow up, lack the company of family affection, and naturally do not feel that they should pay for people with a weak sense of connection.
The same is the divorce, but the father-son relationship between Xie Xian and Nicholas Tse is very good.
Although Xie Xian is also a lonely and arrogant person, he uses another method to teach Xie Tingfeng to grow.
When Nicholas Tse really grew up, he understood his father's hard heart and understood his father's different love for himself, so he would give back to Xie Xian.
Divorce is not the most important cause of parent-child alienation, but the father's neglect of his children.
Author | Yu Bing graduated from Beijing Normal University majoring in finance, has been engaged in the financial industry, and then transferred to the media industry for 3 years, a domestic and foreign film and television analysis researcher, good at thinking about life from watching dramas, as well as exploring realistic emotional values from the current situation of women's existence at home and abroad, deeply inspiring many women to marry and self-improvement.