As the old saying goes, "Life is seventy years old."
The Tang Dynasty poet Bai Juyi was weak and sick since childhood, and his life was bumpy, up and down, so that when he was forty years old, his teeth fell and he declined before he got old, but on the way to grow old, he paid attention to looking down on many things, nourished his body and heart, and lived to more than seventy years old.
It can be seen that if you want to live a long and blessed life, you must learn to look down on some things.
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Look down on the past.
Older people love nostalgia.
On weekdays, I may have nothing to say with my friends and children, but as soon as I open the floodgates of memory, all kinds of sweet and sour will come to mind, and there will be more topics.
It is said that "good men do not mention the courage of the year", but in everyone's life, the most memorable thing is precisely the "glory years" of "bitterness and joy, laughter and tears". Those who "passed five levels and slashed six generals" and those who defeated the "enemy of the enemy" were the topic of relish every time.
However, perhaps one second was still immersed in the passion of the memory, and the next second, it began to sigh: "Old, no use." ”
If every "reminiscence of the past" ends with a sigh and a sigh, and ends with "regret for the choice of the year", it is far from the original intention of relieving emotions and seeking comfort, and it is better to dust off the past and not mention anything.
Bai Juyi is an old man who is good at nostalgia, and he wrote in "Crazy Words Show Your Nephews": "The world deceives and does not know words, and I attack the writing. The world can't deceive officials, and I live in the rank of the class. "This means that if others are illiterate, I can become a great writer; others are ordinary people, but I am in an official position." Whenever he recalls the past, he always thinks that he is a little "luckier" than others, and he will feel very happy.
This kind of self-consolation is the most important elixir in old age, which can cure a lifetime of desolation. Even if you are dying of old age, in this life, you can still live healthily and freely, which is already beyond the happiness of most people.
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Look down on what's outside of you.
Confucius once wrote in "Gentlemen Have Three Precepts": "And his old age, the flesh and qi are decaying, and the precepts are gained." This means that when people are old and can't keep up with their flesh and qi, they can't fight for their careers and make money like when they were young, otherwise they will hurt themselves."
The poet Bai Juyi also agreed with Confucius's point of view, he believed: when you are old, you can eat and wear warmly, you can sleep with a bed, you can go out and have a car to sit on, and you don't care how expensive it is. As for money, it is an external thing, and it does not have to be taken too seriously.
When Bai Juyi was sixty years old, his good friend Yuan Shu died, and he forcibly endured grief and wrote an epitaph. The Yuan family gave him six or seven hundred thousand yuan to polish the pen, but he gave all of it to Luoyang Xiangshan, leaving no article of his own.
If you look down on the things outside your body, you will have a little less burden, and you will not fall into the strange circle of calculation and gain and loss.
In real life, many elderly people live a very screwed life, often because they value things outside the body.
In the countryside, a very common phenomenon is to compete for mountains and soil, even if you can no longer go to the land to cultivate, you would rather be desolate than cultivate for others. Once you find that others have "moved their own cheese", they have to "ask for an explanation" again and again, so that the relationship is frozen.
In the city, uncles and aunts often fight for some "external things". For example, a bench in the park, a well-located "leisure zone", who is accustomed to occupying there, it becomes a "private territory", once one day is preempted by others, quarrels will come unexpectedly.
Similar "taking advantage" goes on and on. Not only take advantage of others, but also do not forget to "take advantage of yourself".
For example, many elderly people have no legs and feet, and their brains are not clear, but as long as they can still move around, they have to work in the fields, or do something that can "make money" until an accident occurs.
This kind of "hard work" and "frugality" that cannot be given up is, in fact, a kind of greed, coveting the visible cents and cents, but turning a blind eye to the high medical expenses that need to be paid.
Those who cannot look down on what is outside of their bodies, even if they are sitting on a million family wealth, cannot perceive "what happiness is."
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Look down on the affection of children.
Regarding the affection of children, the writer Long Yingtai once wrote a brilliant passage:
The so-called father-daughter mother-son relationship only means that your fate with him is that in this life and this life, you are constantly watching his back drift away. You stand at this end of the path, watching him fade away into the bend of the path, and, silently telling you with his back, "No need to chase." ”
Children grow up, they slowly grow old, the best state of children's affection is that they are safe and do not disturb each other.
This is not cruel, not ruthless, but the best way to maintain the affection of children for a long time.
In this regard, Bai Juyi, who is a great poet, is also quite indifferent, he once wrote: "People are old and worried, and I am married today." This means that I have finished the marriage affairs for my children, and I will no longer worry about their future affairs.
Such freedom, placed in today's day, is also unattainable for many people.
From the day I became a parent, I was destined to have an inexhaustible heart in this life. Many people in the name of "love children", a lifetime is not willing to let go, from school, employment, marriage and children, to help with children, I hope that the trajectory of children's lives can be under their control.
Therefore, this life will be burdened by children.
As the old saying goes, "Children and grandchildren have their own children and grandchildren, and they should not be cattle and horses for their children and grandchildren." "People who know how to look down on their children's affection and live their lives well are truly blessed people."
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Conclusion:
On the road to getting old, learn to make yourself a "dull" person, look down on everything outside the body, in order to make yourself easy.
Only when you are relaxed can you find the true meaning of life and live up to this life.
Author: Like the wind is light as a cloud.
Your happiness, my blessings.
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