In just a few decades of life, teenagers are full of ambition, young people are proud of the sun, moving forward, people's state of mind will continue to change with age, and they may feel happy when they are young, but they turn a blind eye in their later years. But no matter at any time, people have troubles, suppressing people to carry the weight forward, if it can be resolved, it will be easy to see the clouds, but it will only become a lingering bitterness, torturing people day and night.
If the troubles of youth are mediocre self-disturbances, then the troubles of life from forty to fifty years old will be the highest peak of life pressure, and all kinds of troubles are enough to make people white-headed overnight.
Dreams and reality are a foregone conclusion
With the improvement of living standards, people's life expectancy has increased from the ancient forties to more than eighties, and we have twice as much time as the ancients to enjoy a more complete life. Although life expectancy has increased, people's living conditions are different. Some people live in high-rise buildings to enjoy wealth, but others cannot even shelter from the wind and rain, and the reason is the accumulation of wealth.
Although they are all eighty years of life, in the first forty years, there will be a difference between people. When you are young, everyone will make up their minds in life and fight hard for their ideals, but the real wind and rain are always easy to discourage people, and countless people with dreams have finally become unknown people.
Such a "difficult" life is that middle-aged people have great remorse for their past experiences when they dream back in the middle of the night, and people always think back to "if they had done that at that time, then life would have been different", but the dream is beautiful, and the reality is very cruel. From the age of forty to fifty, people's lives have become calmer, it is difficult to set off a big wave, looking back on their glorious years, even if they are unwilling, they can only smile bitterly and continue to face the cruel reality.
Life is aging and overwhelmed
At the age of thirty or forty, or the prime of life, people can handle everything with ease, but once they pass forty, they will find that the condition of the body is declining, and the characteristics of aging are slowly reflected. Sudden changes such as the decline in energy and physical pain make people difficult to accept for a while, and it is easy to fall into self-doubt.
Secondly, in addition to the pressure of the body, the double burden of life and career has also become heavy invisibly. Forty or fifty years old said that retirement is still early, but it is difficult to go up again, and it is difficult to have a big breakthrough in work. Faced with the work tasks that were easy to deal with in the past, there will be a slight lack of strength at this time.
In the family, there are old and young, their parents are old and need to spend energy to accompany and help, and the children are in the time period of spending money on further education, and both ends are busy, but even if they use all their strength, it is easy to be thankless, such bitterness is only known to themselves.
Open the pattern, the old as new
Zeng Zi said in "Spring and Autumn" that "people are good and good, although the blessing has not yet arrived, the disaster is far away", if a person is good in daily life, although the blessing does not wait, but the distance from the disaster will be very far. At the age of forty or fifty, although it is the most difficult decade in life, we must open the pattern and do not overly immerse ourselves in sorrow and complain about the world.
Bai Juyi, a Poet of the Tang Dynasty known as the "Poetry Devil", became famous at a young age, and his career path was smooth at a young age, and he reached the rank of a scholar of Hanlin University, and the scenery was smooth for a while. However, at the age of forty, he fell into a court dispute, offended the magnates, and was relegated to a remote area.
Just came to this desolate countryside, Bai Juyi was very idle in his heart, but it was in this quiet place that he changed his mentality, washed away the impetuousness of the past, became plain and comfortable between the mountains and rivers, saw the cold and warm of human feelings, and even said in a poem "Pipa Line" that "the same is the end of the world, why should we have known each other".
Although forty or fifty years old life is difficult, but also to improve their own cognition, look down on the transformation of life, down-to-earth life every day, even if you do not wait until you are rich and expensive, life will not have serious changes, keep the plain is really life more precious.
brief summary
Different stages of life have different troubles, but the weight of this pressure in the heart is different. When you are in your forties and fifties, people are faced with multiple pressures of mind, life, and career, and once they can't stabilize their state of mind, they are likely to break the jar and break it, so that their lives will be ruined.
Although tired, a little bitter, but also to stick to it, for their own family, for a better life in their old age, they must face the difficulties, relax their state of mind, as the saying goes, "happy is a day, unhappy is also a day", so why not be optimistic to spend it!