Text: Xi Xihuan
Figure: Originating from the network If there is an infringement contact deleted
-
Although there is no distinction between high and low in a relationship, people always hope to conquer each other faster in a relationship and become the most special existence in each other's hearts.
In love, if a person is always in the active position, pays more and takes more initiative, and even changes himself without a principled bottom line, just to cater to the other party's preferences, then there is no doubt that in the end he will lose very thoroughly.
Conquering a person is not about flattery and change, if you blindly pay even what the other party really wants feelings, then in the end it is you who are tired, and you will not get the feelings you want.
Men and women are skilled when interacting, many people seem to have not paid anything, but they hold each other very accurately, and they can easily conquer each other, in fact, they have taken these "shortcuts".
01 Improve yourself
There is a saying that in the hearts of many people, "it is better to please anyone than to please yourself", and some people who have been hurt in their feelings are even more deeply touched by this sentence.
Friend Li Lei has always been very obsessed, like a girl for five years, at the beginning, he just put this feeling silently in his heart, because he felt that he was not worthy of a girl, so he never dared to confess.
Later, watching the girl experience a failed relationship and career setbacks, Li Lei has always been with her and has never crossed the line.
Because he wanted to give the girl happiness, Li Lei thought about many ways to conquer the girl, but in the end he did not put it into action, he thought, only if he is good enough, can he have more confidence and ability to give the girl happiness.
In the past few years, Li Lei has constantly enriched himself, even when he is busy and tired, he has not slackened off, although he is really tired, but thinking about girls, he has motivation.
The girl's father was very ill, very serious, and urgently needed a sum of money for surgery, but the girl's family was ordinary, her mother died very early, leaving her and her father to rely on each other, and relatives hated them and did not come and go.
Li Lei contacted his friend for the first time after he knew, sent the girl's father into the operating room, saw the girl standing outside the operating room door anxious, he told her that everything had her.
The girl wrote an IOU to Li Lei, saying that the money would definitely be returned to him, and Li Lei accepted it, but he knew that he would not ask for the money.
Li Lei did not use this incident to ask the girl to do anything, but in the girl's heart, he felt Li Lei's concern and concern.
Over the years, in fact, Li Lei's company is not something she did not feel, but watching Li Lei become more and more excellent, but the girl felt that she was somewhat unworthy of him.
Finally, after the layer of window paper between the two people was broken, the girl finally understood Li Lei's painstaking heart, and also knew that the driving force that supported him to work hard over the years turned out to be herself.
There is no doubt that the girl was completely conquered by Li Lei, not by any earth-shattering efforts, nor by rhetoric, but by Li Lei's own improvement that conquered the girl.
From Li Lei's struggle history, the girl felt his affection for herself and understood that she was so important in his heart.
Conquering a person is not only to have external excellent conditions to attract each other, but also to conquer the other party's heart, so that the other party is willing to identify themselves, which is the real and complete conquest.
The process of improving yourself is bound to be accompanied by hard work and loneliness, because many times, you are actually not accompanied on the road to becoming better, especially the more excellent people are surrounded by few companions, because there are often not many people who can really persist to the end.
Imagine if there is such a person who is willing to become better for you, then his feelings for you are not the most sincere?
When we improve ourselves, we may not have a purpose, we can not for anyone, even if the final result of the relationship with the other party is not satisfactory, but it is not always a bad thing to improve ourselves.
The process of hard work can most attract the attention of the opposite sex, the other party will appreciate you because of your efforts, so that you silently begin to feel affection for you in your heart, which is also a shortcut to conquer the other party.
02 Pay when the other person needs it most
There is a word in the relationship called "accurate payment", that is, the real good to the other party in the relationship is not to give the other party all the good you think, but to understand what the other party really wants, and to appear and pay in time when the other party needs you most, in order to conquer the other party faster.
Zhao Yuze is a "straight man" in the eyes of many people, does not understand women's minds, and does not understand romantic interest, so friends around him joke that it will be difficult to find a girlfriend in the future.
However, what many people did not expect was that Zhao Yuze suddenly became "shrewd" when he fell in love, and the very cold woman was quickly chased by Zhao Yuze and was dead to him.
Someone asked Zhao Yuze what method was used to conquer the other party so quickly, Zhao Yuze said with a smile, there is no secret, if you really want to say that there is a shortcut to go, that is, accurate payment, you must know what the other party needs, when she needs it most, "just" appears, so it is difficult to want her not to move.
Women later said that there have always been many suitors around them, but they often show off their strengths, but they don't care if she pays attention to these.
There are also some men who will send flowers and jewelry to women, but they have never noticed that women are actually allergic to pollen and do not like to wear jewelry.
Zhao Yuze will not do this, he has not even said a word of love to a woman, but he can always appear next to her when she needs it, there is no excessive words, he will only silently help her deal with the problems she encounters.
Over time, even if Zhao Yuze did not say anything, the woman's attitude towards him gradually changed, and she was as cold as ever to others, but when she looked at Zhao Yuze, she had more admiration and dependence.
Some people may say that Zhao Yuze has played tricks and routines in his feelings, but in fact, such a "shortcut" can be learned.
No one wants to find their way in the relationship like a headless fly, and blind efforts will only waste their time and energy, but they will not grasp each other's hearts.
The so-called accurate payment is conditional, you need to understand the other party's preferences and temperament, but also need to know what the other party's weaknesses are, do enough homework to trap the other party faster.
And these preparations you make are also the degree to which you care about that person, and "taking advantage of the void" when the other party needs you the most is the best time to conquer the other party.
END.