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In the past two days, I suddenly saw netizens on the Internet discussing topics related to spoiling, in the past, there has always been the view that "spoiled women's best lives", and Zhou Xun also starred in a movie related to this.
Many people think that a woman is the best life, at home with her parents to spoil, you can get the love of your parents, in friendship, learn to play with friends, will also get the love of friends, with the object, know how to spoil the woman, is deeply liked by the object.
From this point of view, we can divide women into women who will be spoiled and women who will not be spoiled, in the movie "The Best Life of a Spoiled Woman", the female advocate Hui played by Zhou Xun is a woman who is very unspoiled, she is particularly straight, and she speaks straight.
In order to help her pursue the boy who has been in love for a long time, her girlfriends teach her how to be spoiled, and the girlfriends are very good at spoiling women. One day they used a stick at the window to steal the citrus of the next door house, and they were discovered, and the neighbor was very angry, and her girlfriend had a good meal, and then the other party was not angry.
This scene is really funny and realistic, that is, women who can be spoiled can really get what they want through spoiling in some cases.
So, in a romantic relationship, is it really the best life for a woman who will be spoiled?
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Under this topic, I saw a short video, a girl in order to prove the object's love for herself, she called the other party, in a very playful tone to call the other brother, said that she was lost, let him come to pick up.
The two also showed off on the phone, first the boy pretended to be angry and said that she saw the handsome male star also called her brother, said no, let her think of her own way. The girl coaxed him again, saying that there would be only one brother in the future, and there would be no other brothers, and then the boy softened his heart, saying that you stood where you were, send me an address, and then come to pick you up.
If you just watch this video, take it as a small story to see, it is indeed quite sweet, the girl in reality must be a very good at spoiling people, the boyfriend is angry, a petite, want lipstick, a petite, there is no thing that can't be done.
But in real life, does it really have that much magic?
We do not deny that there are indeed men who eat this set very much, like their own objects and themselves to spoil, the other party is spoiled, he immediately softens his heart, to meet all the needs of the other party. But the reality is that there are actually quite a few such men.
And most of the spoiling is useful, in fact, in the hot love period, that is, when the emotional concentration of two people is relatively high, this time will generally meet each other, once the hot love period has passed, then your pampering, for each other, may not have much effect.
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At this point, I think the movie "The Best Life of a Spoiled Woman" is quite real.
Zhang Hui's crush on the boy Gong Zhiqiang is also a very straight person, and very homely, in fact, he also likes Zhang Hui, but the two people are too straight, can't say it, and don't know each other's thoughts about themselves, and they all feel that the other party treats themselves as brothers.
Later, Gong Zhiqiang was taken down by a woman who was very good at spoiling, Bei Bei, who relied on spoiling to eat him, and he did eat her set at the beginning, thinking that such a girl was very good at coaxing.
Bei Bei really loves to be spoiled, and when they first met him, they used the means of spoiling him to make him think that she was still quite cute, but after a long time together, he began to feel tired with her, because she seemed to have nothing but to be spoiled, and she could not see those charming places at all.
Bei Bei briefly had his love through Sa Jiao, but her Petite soon became ineffective in his place, and because of Bei Bei, he recognized his love for Zhang Hui even more.
At the end of the story, Zhang Hui still does not spoil, she is still the original her, but she has gained his love, she relies on personal charm, not pampering.
It is true that being playful can make people feel pity at some times, but if you are just being a spoiled person all the time, it is actually difficult to make people like it for a long time.
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In an intimate relationship, the long-term attraction of two people is actually based on each other's advantages, if you say that you have no advantages, you will just be spoiled, relying on pampering to coax each other to be happy, then such "advantages" will soon become shortcomings.
Spoiled can be used occasionally in life, as a love interest between two people, can make life easier, which is understandable, but it is impossible to take it as a treasure book of love, feel that as long as the child can get everything done, this is very immature.
We don't have to be one-size-fits-all, saying that being spoiled is good, or being spoiled is not good, being spoiled is good, and not being spoiled is also good about not being spoiled.
The spoiled person gets what he wants through the child, and the person who does not spoil gets what he wants through other means, and if the two can be combined, it will be better.
Because we live in the world, it is impossible to solve all problems by just being spoiled, there are always many problems that need to be solved by ourselves, and this process will also allow people to grow.
Moderate pampering in intimate relationships can enhance the interest of the two people, excessive pampering, it will hurt feelings.
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Article illustration | Stills from "The Best Life of a Spoiled Woman"