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Xun Zi said, "The Heavenly Dao always exists, not for Yao, not for Jie."
Everything has its laws.
The grass will turn green in the spring and the leaves in the autumn will wither, and if you break the law, the results will never be satisfactory.
Heaven and earth, planning is in people, success is in heaven, no one can succeed in a lifetime.
Many people are reluctant to argue with their own lives. The result is that the more you do it, the more wrong it is, the deeper the obsession, the more painful it is.
Instead of doing some hopeless struggles and finally walking into a dead end, it is better to be quiet and be yourself.
Going with the flow, going with the flow, is an important philosophy of life.
How did some things go and how did they get lost?
As the saying goes, "Sometimes there is something to have in life, but don't force it all the time." ”
I was born with a bad habit of comparing myself to others.
For those things that others have but they don't have, the chief accountant is extremely eager to get.
The more people crave, the more they can't distinguish between right and wrong.
In life, we inevitably miss a lot of things, and sometimes we are too attached to what we don't have.
It will only be trapped in obsession, making people tired.
What really makes us tired is not the external gains and losses, but our own inner gains and losses.
The Tao Te Ching says:
"If the husband does not fight, the world cannot fight with it."
A truly intelligent person who knows how to be worthy of others, worthy of the rest of the world, accepts it calmly, and takes it lightly.
Nine times out of ten things in life are unpleasant. If you get them, you'll be happy. If you lose them, don't be too afraid.
Not yours, don't ask for too much. If you can't make up for mistakes, you won't be harsh.
Life is not for money, not for honor, not for status, but for yourself.
Do not rejoice in things, do not grieve with yourself, gain my blessings, and lose my life. Look down on gains and losses, and no matter how big the setbacks are, they can't be crushed.
The rest of your life is very expensive, the smarter you are, the more you know how to look down on everything, calm and peaceful.
Some people should forget, forget, and let go.
Zhang Xiaoxian said a word:
"A person's unforgettable memory may have been forgotten by others."
The more you try to please someone, the more likely that person is to break your heart.
Anticipation is the root of all heartache. If the heart is not moving, it does not hurt.
A lot of people, you don't want to be able to keep.
Let the relationship end.
You are full of doubts, argue endlessly, can't sleep, can't eat, and you are the only one who suffers in the end.
When people are young, they always have good expectations for love, and the more they grow up, the more they don't need love.
Gradually understand that the people you care about the most are often the easiest to make you cry;
Gradually, I understood that what love needs is not salty, not light, and let nature take its course.
Why cling to past feelings?
Unforgettable and ignorant efforts do not make a person's wishes come true.
On the contrary, it will only make people fall deeper and deeper in this sense of humility, unable to extricate themselves.
When love is gone, you have to learn to live your life. If you don't deserve it, forget it and let it go.
Use this time alone to improve yourself, surprise those who return to the future, and give an account to your past self.
Life is still very long, and no one can predict tomorrow. Don't wait for the rest of your life to say you're safe.
Be kind to yourself and let everything go your way
Along the way, everyone's life is not easy. The scenery outside the window changes again and again, and the people around them leave in waves.
In the end, I had to rely on myself.
For the rest of your life, you will be less entangled with yourself, be kind to yourself, and everything will go naturally.
Su Shi said:
"You shouldn't like things that don't matter, and you shouldn't get angry when you're angry."
Things turn with the heart, the situation is born from the heart, and living requires an indifferent state of mind.
Don't waste your emotions on things that aren't worth it, and don't lament and grieve over the indifference of the human heart.
When you are happy, don't be complacent, stay calm, and don't be affected by the ups and downs of life;
When you hit a trough, stay optimistic, don't be thwarted by the current predicament, and go with the flow and everything will pass.
Don't be demanding about everything, come when it's time to come; don't frown when you encounter something, laugh when you laugh; don't force results, just do it;
Life is about a kind of fate, what you deliberately pursue, may be difficult to get for a lifetime.
The glory you did not expect will come unexpectedly in your indifference.
All kinds of tastes in life, you have to smile and face.
Be kind to yourself and let nature take its course, life can be full of surprises and cope with everything.
As long as you live, don't take everything so seriously. You are most afraid of wanting to care about everything, but you can't grasp anything.
If you can't live, you have to give up; if you can't wait, you can only let go; if you can't stay, you know how to let go.
When people are cold, they warm their hearts; if they are inevitable to gather and disperse, they enjoy the pleasures of the world.
Go with the flow, don't look back, don't settle.
It's like a couplet in "Little Window Chronicles":
"Be yourself and watch the flowers blossom before the court;
If you don't want to stop, look at the sky. "
That's the life you should live.