Excerpt from the Golden Sentence of the People's Daily:
Hurting someone with your mouth is one of the most stupid acts.
A person who can control his emotions,
Stronger than a man who can take down a city.
The depth of the water is slow, and the language is late.
It took us two years to learn to speak.
It will take decades to learn to shut up.
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To say, is a kind of wisdom.
Not to say, it's an ability.
As the saying goes: Too many words will be lost, and misfortune will come out of the mouth.
It took us two years to learn to speak, but it took decades to learn to shut up.
It can be seen that speaking is an advanced technical work, and what should be said should be said cautiously, and what should not be said should be said less.
Many times, often we inadvertently say a sentence, in our own eyes, harmless, but for others, it is a kind of harm.
Saying less and keeping your mouth shut is a person's greatest cultivation.
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1. Talk less about the big talk
In the film and television drama "All Is Good", Su Mingzhe is a person who loves face and likes to talk big.
Knowing that he was unemployed and barely surviving on his wife's salary, he still punched his face and became fat, and proposed to take Su Daqiang to live in the United States.
When Su Mingyu secretly introduced him to a new job, he thought that he had obtained the job by his own ability.
And in front of the whole family, he boasted about Haikou, wanted to buy a house of 5 million yuan for Su Daqiang, and swore: This money, I came out.
Because Su Mingzhe loves face and likes to talk big, Wu Fei, as a wife, has repeatedly persuaded him to live without success, so he chose to take his daughter out to live and filed for divorce.
Seeing Wu Fei with a resolute attitude, Su Mingzhe was finally willing to admit his mistake and confess his situation in front of the whole family.
Although he was later forgiven by the whole family, Su Mingzhe's habit of talking big words not only lost face in front of the whole family, but also almost separated his wife.
"Zhou Yi Feng": When the water is full, it overflows, and the monthly profit is lost.
Anything that reaches a certain limit will go in the opposite direction.
The same is true of people who speak big, and if they say too much, they will lower their fortunes, not only will they lose the trust of outsiders, but they will also fall into unkindness and injustice.
Don't talk big, is a real mature person.
2, less angry words
As the saying goes: impulse is the devil.
When people are angry, they will inevitably have a hot head and say something that hurts a thousand people and damages themselves eight hundred.
And open-minded people are often calm and calm.
In the TV series "In the First Half of My Life", Luo Zijun, who has been a canary for 8 years, had to re-enter the workplace after Chen Junsheng cheated on his divorce and did sales in a physical shoe store.
On the day when Luo Zijun was on duty, Chen Junsheng brought Xin Huan Lingling to the store, and the three people who had just met looked very embarrassed.
But in the face of her ex-husband and a third party who destroyed her marriage, Luo Zijun was not angry, and even lost control of her emotions.
Instead, she enthusiastically took out her shoes, tried them on Ling Ling, and asked her if she wanted to try on other styles.
Perhaps out of guilt, or perhaps out of face, although Ling Ling said that the shoes were too expensive, Chen Junsheng bought the shoes.
As the saying goes: a good word is warm in three winters, and a bad word hurts people in June.
If Luo Zijun had faced her ex-husband and a third party at that time, like a shrew, vented her dissatisfaction and pain through vicious language.
She would destroy not only her own image, but the worst consequence would be that she might lose her job.
Instead, she didn't. Because she knows that if she's emotionally out of control, it means she hasn't let go of the past. Because she let go, she can calmly face them and embrace a better future.
People who talk less angrily tend to be able to hold their breath, bend over, and raise their heads.
Talking less angrily is a real measured person.
3. Say less about right and wrong
Old Saying Day: Meditation often thinks about oneself, and gossips about others.
This means that when a person is alone, he should be good at reflecting and summarizing his own faults, and when talking to others, do not talk to others about the right and wrong of others.
People who like to say that others are right and wrong, often they are also a right and wrong person, and they like to vent their dissatisfaction and inferiority in their hearts through hurting others.
This kind of behavior tends to transmit a negative energy to others, allowing themselves to be farther and farther away from those around them.
Or the drama "The First Half of My Life", Xiao Dong, who is Ling Ling's classmate in the play, is a person who likes to chew the root of his tongue behind his back.
As the most gossipy person in the whole company, Xiao Dong interprets the so-called "wall head grass" very well. Which side the wind blew on which side, and finally ended up being dismissed.
Yu Minhong once said in a talk show that as a boss, there are three types of people he dislikes the most, one of which is people who don't talk about others in person and like to talk about others behind their backs.
This kind of person is often narrow-minded, jealous, and can't see others well, which is actually an extremely selfish expression of emotion.
Saying less about right and wrong is a kind of cultivation for people to deal with the world, and it is also a kind of wisdom.
A person's life should be built on the basis of lifelong learning, and it is a person's cultivation to keep his mouth shut and talk less.
Don't talk big, be a mature person
Don't talk angry, be a generous person
Don't say right or wrong, be a cultivated person
Above all, encouraged together
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