There was a time when a school was very popular in China, this kind of school recruited a lot of problem students, such as love to fight, Internet addiction, do not love to learn, etc., through the militarized management of the children to clean up obediently, the more obedient the more able to graduate early. At that time, many parents flocked to it, because everyone wanted to have a child who was carefree, obedient, and disobedient.
Even if the tuition is expensive, they are willing to send their children over, as if this is the only way to make the naughty children back to normal, but what really happens to the children here? Many parents don't know it.
Today we can learn a little bit through the movie "Spring of the Cattle Herding Class", whether it is important to educate a child whether it is important to punish or to use love to influence.
The film opens with a yellowed old photograph and a notebook that draws the thoughts of musician Pierre Moonk back to his childhood, the "Bottom of the Pond Correctional Home," nicknamed "Bottom of the Pond," because most of the students here are problem children. In the words of the principal, they are villains, they are waste materials, they can smoke, they can beat their hearts and eyes, because they will beat people, stab teachers, stab butlers in the eyes with traps, and do nothing evil.
Clement Matthew was a talented musician, but in the French countryside in 1949 he had no chance to develop his talents and eventually became the superintendent of a class at the school. On the first day he went to the school to report that he was shocked by the educational concept here. Because everyone told him that this group of children has no medicine, communication is the most ineffective means, making mistakes = corporal punishment is the principal has always implemented the educational concept, only treat them as animals, make mistakes must accept corporal punishment or locked up in a small black room, so that they can be restrained, must not be soft-hearted, otherwise it is themselves who are hurt.
Even the teaching of knowledge in the classroom is that if the child can't remember, it is stupid, there is no intention, the best way is to punish, once not, it will be punished 100 times, and then add up until it is remembered.
A child who makes a mistake will be treated as a negative teaching material, watched by everyone, and labeled a "bad person" to warn the rest of the students that if they follow him, you will be punished more severely. The dignity of the children here has been trampled to pieces, and a child who does not even care about dignity will care about what?
What is even more frightening is that the so-called psychological and IQ tests will be used to divide the children into three, six, nine and so on. To say that it is for better management and education is actually to smash the child's future with a stick and deny the changes and internal drive in the child's growth process. As long as you do something bad now, you'll be a villain in the future.
This is not like our own method of education, it may not be so cruel, I think as parents we can find our own shadow in the principal in the movie.
Both verbal and corporal punishment threats are an effect for children, who are afraid but never truly admit their mistakes, and temporarily give in just to better resist next time. So the more severe the corporal punishment of the children here, the more naughty they are, the stronger their sense of revenge, and they will treat the better bullied people in this way.
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This atmosphere made Clement, an adult, feel afraid, he was afraid of the principal, afraid that the children here would sneak into his room in the middle of the night and hurt him, depressed, he did not understand why he chose to stay in such a ghost place, managing a group of little guys who could not communicate in normal language every day, making him feel tired and sad.
It wasn't until he saw the dream occupation filled out by each child that he realized that the children didn't want to be a bad person or want others to think they were a bad person, but they didn't know how to deal with their own contradictory emotions.
Clement found the child who had hurt the butler's eyes and was about to take him to the principal's office, but when he heard the cries of pain from other children inside, he softened and punished the child for volunteering to take care of the housekeeper's living quarters. The housekeeper is the only person here who understands the child, and his kindness makes the child feel self-conscious. It also made him understand that hurting others is also punishing himself, because guilt is far more psychological torture than physical pain.
When he found a student who made a mistake, he did not tell the principal at the first time like other teachers, but in his own way to maintain their sensitive and fragile nerves. Talk alone, hoping that the child will open his heart knot and tell him clearly why he is doing harm to others.
Once several children broke into his bedroom, pried the door lock, and stole his precious song score, he was still not angry. At night, a child played the harmonica while humming a little tune, which made him seem to see a direction.
He began to teach the children to sing, to baptize these young, confused, kind but contradictory hearts with lyrics, and he made them feel respected, cherished and loved, and gave them the ability to treat others in this way.
Because of Matthew's appearance, the children became soft, they began to be willing to reveal their hearts, their movements were no longer stiff, their eyes were no longer defensive, they were no longer trembling with a small mistake.
The children's clear eyes, sweet and clear children's chorus, the childlike heart that flies in the melodious tune, dreams, gratitude, affirmation... It's all beautiful.
If you're a father, or a mother, I recommend you watch this movie, you'll cry and you'll love your children even more.
Our children come into this world with all kinds of small flaws,
Some children are very noisy, non-stop, charging for 5 minutes, talking for 2 hours, until the battery is exhausted, they can rest;
Some children have ideas, are particularly stubborn, are not controlled by others, and do things that make their parents' brains congested and their hearts pound;
Some children are particularly stuffy, particularly subtle, happy and do not say, sad and do not tell, let people be anxious, crazy, jumping feet;
I think they just don't understand things, can't manage their emotions, don't know much about the meaning of learning, and want to withdraw when they encounter small setbacks.
But he's definitely not a heinous villain, he'll grow up one day, but he's always needing your love as an adult, just as you need his love.