What is the most enviable same-sex type for women? When you are a child, you may envy the little friends who are favored by your parents, envy your female classmates with good grades when you study, envy the strong women who are fierce in the workplace when you grow up, and envy the mother who will have a happy family in marriage.
If someone can combine the excellent deeds of this stage into one, it is simply a winner in life. Although there are not many such women, I have hardly seen one around me. But it does, and Li Yinuo is.
Although she is a single-parent family, her mother treats her very well, she was admitted to Tsinghua University at the age of 18, became a partner of McKinsey after work, and her work did not delay the family, and she had three children in four years.
He also became the chief representative of the Gates Foundation in Beijing, spending money on Bill Gates' public welfare undertakings, and later founded a school. The word envy is probably the first impression of many people on her.
The predecessors are the role models, and the future generations are mentally strong
Li Yinuo was born in 1978 in Jinan, Shandong Province, and in her youth, the biggest problem should be the disharmony of the family.
Her parents often quarreled, and although they sometimes refrained from her face, she knew that the relationship between her parents was not good at all.
At the age of 12, the relationship between his parents broke up and chose to divorce, and Li Yinuo followed his mother.
Her mother was a very powerful woman, who at the age of 16 took part in the uphill and rural activities, and returned to the city to work as an ordinary worker in a chemical factory.
Because my parents are cultural people, I have read some books, know a lot of words, and belong to more educated people in the factory, and are often arranged to do different types of work.
Later, through self-study, he was admitted to the Department of Chemistry of Shandong University and became a rare intellectual at that time.
After graduation, she returned to the factory again as a manager, because she insisted on studying, went to study abroad, and returned to become the chief engineer.
In the event of an accident at the factory, the mother can run against the crowd to the accident site. She told Li Yinuo that her duty was here, even if it was dangerous, she had to do her own work.
After the divorce, she also resigned to serve as a vice dean of a private tourism academy in Beijing, and later after continuously learning about modernization, understanding the fund, and also became a representative in China at a German foundation.
Her mother is so excellent, Li Yinuo will naturally follow her example and learn from her wisdom and bravery.
And in addition to her mother, her grandmother is also a very progressive and respectable woman.
Grandma was born in a relatively feudal era, and it was rare for women to read, but she loved to read, eager to learn knowledge, and always secretly hid outside the door of the class to listen to lectures.
Fortunately, her father was more enlightened, and learning that she liked to study did not stop her, and let her officially enter the academy to study, and later her grandmother was admitted to Luzhong Public School, and after graduation, she went to the hospital to become a nurse.
After the war years, my grandmother respected life and loved life very much, and worked until about 1980 before retiring. After retiring, she also learned new skills, tried Chinese painting, and achieved good results.
The two modern progressive women in front of her gave Li Yinuo encouragement, she also loves to learn, and is very conscious of reading.
Elementary school and high school ranked among the best all the way, and he was admitted to the Biology Department of Tsinghua University with the first grade in the college entrance examination.
In the school full of geniuses, Li Yinuo has met all kinds of smart people, and she wants to be more excellent.
In addition to learning professional knowledge, she will also take other courses, so that her life is busy and there is a chance, she met Yan Ning, who is also from Shandong.
Yan Ning is also a student at Tsinghua University, but she is in the Department of Biological Sciences and Technology. The two people are outside the country, and their professions are similar, and the communication is very smooth.
They soon became good friends who talked about everything, took the car back to their hometown together, studied together, and went out on weekends together.
Yan Ning's personality is very grinning and cheerful and lively, and he will also pull the relatively quiet and gentle Li Yinuo to see beautiful women in other departments.
The two people have different personalities, but they are exceptionally harmonious, becoming the driving force for each other's progress in the university, and they are also affected by each other's advantages to become more excellent. They are not girlfriends, more like confidants.
After graduating from college in 2000, Li Yinuo went to the University of California to study for a doctorate in molecular biology.
In a foreign country, she thought that her years of learning English would allow her to adapt quickly to the new environment, but she still couldn't understand what others were saying. So she continued to learn, as if it were all over again.
Four years passed, and in 2004 she graduated as a doctoral student. When she was an undergraduate, she once chatted with Yan Ning and said that she wanted to develop in the direction of scientific research, and Yan Ning also said that she would work hard with her to study academia.
But later, Yan Ning, who seemed to be socially first-class and impatient, insisted, and Li Yinuo instead raised his feet and stepped into the workplace.
Li Yinuo threw her resume into the United States McKinsey & Company, a well-known company that provides consulting for enterprises, and has nothing to do with her profession, and working here is equivalent to re-exposure to a field.
Before the interview, she made up for the development direction and job responsibilities of McKinsey & Company, in order to make a good impression on the interviewer.
She also found a Korean female student in the laboratory to borrow a suit. After several rounds of interviews, Li Yinuo successfully joined the company.
How to balance the working family
Like all people who have just entered the workplace, Li Yinuo was very uncomfortable at the beginning, feeling that he did not understand anything, and he was often confused about his work.
But she had to pretend to understand and learn and do it.
She also found that most of her colleagues wore designer clothes and looked more elite, so she took off her storm jacket and jeans, began to understand the various clothing brands created for people in the workplace, and tried to integrate her appearance into everyone.
She thought that she had studied abroad for many years and was already quite proficient in foreign languages, but she found that she still did not listen to the professional vocabulary of her colleagues, and she did not want to show timidity, but could only laugh casually on the side.
Here, she can not find her outstanding advantages, the heart always inevitably gushes out of inferiority, after the company arranged the work, always feel that she is not ready, still need time.
She also realized that her mentality was not right, and she went to her seniors for help a few months after joining the company.
The senior said to her: "Yinuo, you can rest assured, you will never feel ready."
Just like driving a car, you read more books and do more exercises until you get in the driver's seat and you drive. ”
Touched, she tried her best to hide her uneasy emotions and respond to everything at work until she came to a satisfactory outcome.
A year after joining the company, Li Yinuo held a meeting within the department to analyze, and she needed to make a data model.
For this meeting, she made a lot of preparations, even the font used in the PPT, have been repeatedly changed several times, but also after work, at home repeatedly practice how to explain, word by word has been deliberated countless times.
At the meeting, in the face of the leader's questions, although the palms of her hands had sweated a lot because of the tension, she still explained fluently.
When the whole meeting was over, she got up and walked in the direction of the bathroom, not expecting to be stopped by a very harsh German leader.
She subconsciously felt that she was not playing well and was about to be criticized, and turned around stiffly, but saw the leader smile and give her a thumbs up and said: "Yinuo, I just want to tell you that your work is very good." ”
Li Yinuo, who was originally occupied by uneasiness, relaxed instantly, and this praise also made her more confident in her future work.
Probably since then, Li Yinuo's psychology has undergone a huge change, "everyone's growth needs to bring self-confidence through external recognition, and gradually transition to inner self-identification, which is a necessary process." ”
Workplace whites, only by being recognized first, will produce self-confidence.
In the following years, Li Yinuo performed more and more well in her work, and she has completely changed from a timid newcomer to a female elite in the workplace who is not alarmed.
After completing several outstanding tasks, she was also promoted to project manager to take over more business. Different identities will have different troubles, and after working for many years, Li Yinuo has a new confusion.
She found that some mechanisms in the workplace were not perfect, the superior leaders were too arbitrary, the approach was not comprehensive, and it would affect the development of other colleagues, although she wanted to try her best to change, but she was always powerless.
The feeling of knowing that something was wrong but having to watch it happen was really uncomfortable, and the idea of resigning kept flashing in her mind. But can we get out of the center of error and not be affected?
Obviously not, she changed her mind, and since she couldn't change someone else, she would replace him. If she wants to be a rule-maker, she has to climb up and become a leader in a higher position.
The opportunity in front of her at this time was to compete for partners, and at McKinsey & Company, to get this position, not only to have excellent work ability, but also to have their own supporters.
Needing the support of others is equivalent to exposing his ambitions, and it is difficult for Li Yinuo to accept such a straightforward performance of himself. In her opinion, as long as she does a good job, she will definitely be discovered.
But this is actually not right, ambition is not a disadvantage, showing their own value in the workplace is a work attitude.
In real life, speaking directly about your needs will have a greater chance of getting a response.
She worked hard to overcome her own inherent thinking patterns, made changes, took the initiative to contact colleagues and business partners she had worked with, showed each other her abilities and willingness, and won everyone's support.
In 2011, the company specially arranged investigators to issue an investigation report to McKinsey & Company after learning more about Li Yinuo's social relations. In this way, she successfully rose to become a global partner of the company.
His career is busy, and Li Yinuo has not forgotten his personal feelings and family. She married her lover as early as 2001, and the two have been working hard in the United States.
It's just that when they first started working, on the one hand, they didn't allow it financially, and on the other hand, time didn't allow it, so they didn't have children for a long time.
It wasn't until 2010, when Li Yinuo was running for partner, that she became pregnant and gave birth to her first child.
She was 32 years old at the time, already considered an advanced maternal age, coupled with the heavy nature of the work, she had a huge reaction during pregnancy, so she also took half a year's pregnancy leave.
After giving birth to the child, in order not to delay the work, she also brought her mother to the United States to help take care of the child.
Over the next four years, she was busy with her work while giving birth to two more children.
After giving birth, although the mother helps to take care of it, she often feels that there is not enough time, the work must be completed perfectly, and the child must be accompanied and taught.
But the state at work can not be the same as when facing the child, she must switch back and forth between the elite in the workplace and the mother at any time.
After a period of time, Li Yinuo found that he was unable to live for himself.
Faced with this dilemma, Li Yinuo frankly said that he could not be perfect, nor could he balance work and life.
"Don't be obsessed with balance, don't fantasize about being like an elegant swan, no matter what kind of wind and waves you can maintain balance, that is for others to see, life is ultimately a trade-off." 」 In the eyes of others, she lived a glamorous life, but Li Yinuo himself knew that her life was also a chicken feather.
She described herself in a passage she saw: "There has never been a perfect mother, a perfect house."
Perfect kids and perfect life. Some are just real, real is one mom after another, waking up in the morning, seeing the child who calls her mom, getting up, and keep working hard. ”
As a mother of three, she had to do her best to create a good living condition for them.
Invited by Gates, he began to do social work
Busy work naturally reduces the time she spends with her children, and after becoming a partner, she needs to travel frequently, and once the child cried and pulled the corner of her clothes to prevent her from leaving.
Li Yinuo was very sad and held the child and cried together, but there was no way, after coaxing the child, she still had to carry the box to leave.
It is also in this business trip that her work ability continues to improve, and some headhunting companies have contacted Li Yinuo many times, wanting to poach her for a lot of money, and even the Gates Foundation under the name of Bill Gates, the world's richest man, also hopes that she can join.
In 2015, Li received an official invitation to meet bill Gates in Seattle.
Although he was not interested in charity, Li Yinuo was very curious about Gates, and with the idea of learning the thinking of the richest man, Li Yinuo sat across from Gates.
At this meeting, Gates said that the health of children in many parts of the world is not guaranteed, and nearly 200 million children will be infected with diseases.
But there is always a big gap in the treatment of specific drugs, and the annual research funds spent on infectious diseases such as malaria are very small.
The main reason for this is that the number of children affected is concentrated in poor areas such as Africa, and research and development requires a large amount of investment, but it cannot be returned accordingly.
The Gates Foundation exists to reduce inequality in health.
Gates learned that Li Yinuo had studied biotechnology and had been working in medical and health for more than a decade, and hoped that she would join his foundation to help him complete this career.
After two hours of communication with Gates, Li Yinuo saw a different side of the world, and after careful consideration, she decided to try this entirely new field.
At the end of 2015, she quit her mcKinsey job and returned to China to join the Bill & Melinda Gates Foundation.
Ordinary people change jobs for better development, and Li Yinuo's salary cut makes many people not understand.
In fact, she feels that she will lose her direction and have no goal in an industry for a long time, but this job has made her enhance her sense of social responsibility, find new ideals, and make her no longer tired of fighting for money, but focusing on the improvement of self-worth.
As the representative of the Gates Foundation in Beijing, Li Yinuo actively promoted the development of domestic philanthropy and became a woman who spent money for the world's richest man.
At the same time, she also operated her own self-media account, insisted on publishing high-quality creations, and gradually accumulated millions of fans.
In 2016, Li Yinuo's eldest son reached school age, and she traveled to all the schools in Beijing, finding that the school's education would only make children fall into competition, cope with exams, and fail to learn substantive knowledge.
So he decided to start a school of his own.
She also posted her idea on her own self-media account and received a lot of support.
After getting the affirmation of others, she contacted the relevant personnel to prepare teaching facilities and school addresses, and in September 2016, Yitu Education was officially established in Beijing.
In 2020, Li Yinuo's contract with the Gates Foundation expired, and she quit her job to devote herself to the development of education.
In the same year, she was also selected into Fortune's "2020 China's Most Influential Business Women (Future List)".
She's 44 years old, and any label on her body is enough to make people envious.
Looking back on her past experience, it can be seen that Li Yinuo has been jumping from a new environment to another, and it is in this constant change that she can go further with each step.
From Li Yinuo's body, it can be seen that setting goals for yourself and not worrying about failure, the value of life is to do what you think is right.
Resources
[1] China Education News Network, May 7, 2021, "Li Yinuo: The Most Important Thing in Education Is Invisible"
[2] Beijing News, May 10, 2020, "Li Yinuo: The Decade of Motherhood is the Most Important Decade of My Personal Growth"
[3] China Teachers Daily, May 9, 2021, "Interview with Li Yinuo: The longer you do education, the more things you find out you don't understand"