Interpretation of emotional topics, taking you into more positive emotional worlds! I am your emotional relief, but you have to know how to let yourself go!
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This is the case in the real world, some people are deeply admired, some people are suffering from the world's cold.
The biggest difference between people is not that they are tall, fat, thin, poor and rich, but who has gained pleasure and who has suffered in their dealings with people.
How do you treat others, how do others treat you? This sentence, in fact, I feel really absolute!
You are friendly to others, not necessarily others are also friendly to you. Why? Because your kindness to others is your wishful thinking!
Why do you ask yourself if you have done anything to be sorry for others, but others have a bad attitude towards you? Even, someone treats you like broken garbage, and would like to throw it away as far away as possible?
When encountering problems, don't blindly doubt first, you must first find the reason from yourself. If you learn to find the reason from yourself, you will find that in fact, many so-called problems are really your own problems.
Why are others treating you badly? You taught! In a sense, you are ta's "mentor".
People live all their lives, and they all hope that they will go a little more smoothly, not easily less. But often because I have taught others how to hurt myself, I am always miserable.
The greatest ignorance of man is to teach others how to hurt themselves.
The attitude of others towards you depends on yourself! Don't believe it:
First: Respect for people who shouldn't be respected
Before talking about this "perverse reasoning", we once again have a deep understanding of the phrase "how you treat others, how others treat you".
At first glance, you will instantly think of the ideal ending of "Fu Lai Fu Lai".
But in fact, in the reality that everything in the world is relative, we must understand this truth:
All your intentions, words and deeds must have the word "worth" as the basis.
Obviously, a person looks down on you in his heart, and you use your enthusiasm, respect, and cherishing to impress ta, in addition to turning yourself into a real, what else do you have to gain?
Some people, the more you expect to get an equivalent response, the more you will be consumed indefinitely.
The relationship between people, whether it is family, friendship or love, must be mutual! One-way wishful thinking is telling others:
Come on, hurt me, I'm willing!
So, people are coming to hurt you! There is no why, only what you agree to, what you authorize, you teach them to do that step by step!
Both the human heart and human nature are profoundly experienced from the actual exchanges between people.
When you have already felt that the other party does not treat you as a dish at all, you learn to stop at the right time, don't be bored!
As long as you are successful in real life, don't be on top, and don't be a brainless humble pandering when you are lowly, this is enough!
Respecting others is a kind of cultivation, but people who are not worthy of respect do not have to put a hot face on a cold ass, which is a correct choice not to trample on their own sincerity.
Second: Others don't understand you? Blame you for putting too much anticipation
Countless chicken soups on the Internet say: always think differently.
That's true! But this sentence also needs to be accompanied by "equivalent" and "worthwhile".
If a person always habitually understands others and thinks in empathy for others, then he invisibly plays a person who is consumed forever because of "understanding".
In real life, there will be a considerable number of people, because they have been accustomed to understanding others, they will naturally turn themselves into an object that should not ignore feelings.
To your family, you feel that you should pay more and think less. Later, he found that the bones he had eaten were gone, but he was continuously morally kidnapped by his family.
To a friend, you have always considered the situation of your friend and felt empathy, so you always inserted a knife in both ribs, and later you found out that you had raised an animal that could betray you at any time.
To your lover, if you feel that love should be given regardless of gain or loss. Later you see in the face of the scum what a silly self.
Why are you so good, or are you hurt for no reason, and you are not willing to do half a thing to understand you and feel you? Because your good is based on your overdraft to complete others, and you are consumed without a bottom line.
When giving becomes a matter of course, do you think anyone else will transpose you?
It's true who you value and care about, but only if you don't forget to leave yourself blank. The more you understand others, transpose others, and dedicate yourself to others, you have accumulated too many grievances and unwillingness for yourself.
At that point, you have a little bit of a sign of being cared for, and you become an immoral person!
You habitually give and expect too much, do you say that you yourself have paradoxically taught one white-eyed wolf after another who does not understand gratitude?
Kindness, know how to cherish, good at empathy, this is the highest state of being a human being. However, keeping your own bottom line and not overloading the effort to cater to people who are not worth it is a choice to know how to love yourself.
How do you treat others, and how do others treat you? In fact, not really! When you face a relationship that requires you to turn the other cheek, you teach others to be inching forward.
Always hurt, misunderstood, misunderstood... You teach others to do that!
You take out your heart for others, others don't cherish it, you don't know how to take your heart back - you deserve it!
You see others encounter difficulties, you lend money to ta, ta not only does not pay back, but also repeatedly borrows, repeatedly does not pay back - deserved!
You care about a relationship, a person, but people have never taken you seriously, and you have been injured again and again and do not know how to look back - you deserve it!
People respect me a foot, I respect people a foot! No one offends me, I do not offend! If a man transgresses me, he will sin against me and cut the grass and remove the roots!
In interpersonal relationships, people without bottom lines, all the pain and helplessness, are self-inflicted! People who have experienced it will have a deep understanding!
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Love is man's purgatory in the world. Love or friendship, the right time meets the right person to cultivate the right results!
Topic Discussion: Are you a person who knows how to protect yourself from a reasonable bottom line? Leave what you want to say in the comments section.