Paul Ekman, a psychologist from the United States, mainly studies the expression of individual emotions, as well as the physiological activities and interpersonal deception of individuals.
In his view, each of us has "real body language."
Maybe we will choose to lie in order to cover up certain facts, but our body language tends to betray us.
For example, we ourselves are afraid of snakes, in order not to let others laugh at our timidity, we pretend that we are not afraid of heaven, and we are very bold.
As a result, as soon as we see a snake, our pupils will dilate, our limbs will become cold because of stiffness, and our bodies will tremble involuntarily.
This is our body movement, it reflects the truest state of our hearts, so each of our body movements is the most authentic expression of the depths of our hearts.
At the same time, it also reveals the true thoughts of our subconscious.
In a relationship between the sexes, body language is actually the most real, because it is an activity in a person's subconscious, and in a short reaction, it is too late to adulterate.
So, body language will tell you if a man really loves you.
The more a man loves you, the closer the spatial distance will be
Anthropologist Hall believes that each of us has our own personal space.
Based on our distance from others, Hall divides this personal space into four situations, namely:
Intimate distance, range within 0.6 meters, personal distance, range between 0.6 meters and 1.2 meters, social distance, range between 1.2 meters and 3.3 meters, public distance, range above 3.3 meters.
When watching the TV series "The Biography of Zhen Huan," we can find that when other concubines perform rituals, the emperor directly raises his hand and says, "Get up."
When Zhen Huan performed the ceremony, the emperor walked up to him and personally helped the other party up with his hands.
Love or no love, in these details, is reflected.
If you love someone, you will involuntarily get close to each other, and conversely, if you don't love someone, you will want to be farther away from each other.
As there is a lyric in the song "He Doesn't Love Me", there is a lyric that sings: "It is too cold when holding hands, and it is not close enough when hugging.".
Men who don't love you, even physical contact will be repelled
The five brothers in the TV series "New Zhu Gege" have always been deeply in love with Xiao Yanzi, but his mother has been forcing him to marry XinRong Gege, and the five brothers have resisted, but it is still to no avail.
Forced to do so, the fifth brother could only marry XinRong Gege, but he did not love her at all.
When he was with Xiao Yanzi, the five brothers followed suit, and he went wherever Xiao Yanzi went, and when he made Xiao Yanzi unhappy, he also chased after the other party and coaxed him in a low voice.
Xiao Yanzi accidentally choked on eating, and the fifth brother was also nervous, quickly put down the bowl and chopsticks in his hand, and patted Xiao Yanzi on the back.
And what about the Hinjung? The five brothers only take care of themselves every time, never waiting for each other, and will not coax each other;
Xin Rongge accidentally choked when eating, and the fifth brother also sat idly by.
Such a strong contrast naturally reflects what a man looks like when he loves a person, and what it looks like when he doesn't love a person.
The book The Five Languages of Love says: "Physical contact can establish or destroy a relationship, it can convey hatred or love." For people whose primary love language is physical contact, the touch of the body is far better than the words 'I hate you' or 'I love you'. ”
Love or not love, you can see it from body language.
Love, in essence, will make a person can't help it
Of all the misfortunes we experience in life, 10% are made up of what happens to us, and the remaining 90% is determined by how we react to what happens.
Love, this is to make a person can not help but, when a man falls in love with a woman, he will be close to each other, that is, will have intimate physical contact with the other party.
If it is rejection, if it is resisting hugging, holding hands or kissing, it is obvious that it is not love.
At this time, women must recognize the reality, do not comfort themselves, deceive themselves, and do not weave a beautiful dream for themselves.
It is useless to wag your tail and beg for pity, nor is it useful to be humble and flattering, but it is just self-touching.
Because Jiang Fangzhou said: "People who really appreciate you will always appreciate your self-confidence and pride, not your humble and flattering appearance." ”
So, now that we know that men don't love themselves, the best way for us is to stop the loss in time.
For us, leaving someone who doesn't love themselves is a blessing in disguise.
Saion lost his horse, knowing that it is not a blessing, we do not need to waste feelings on an unworthy person, we have the opportunity to avoid greater losses, why not enjoy it?
As for love, we just let nature take its course, adjust our mentality well, clean up our mood, and good love will definitely meet us at the next corner.