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Author | Jiawen Editor| Xiao Liu
01
When re-brushing "Huan Zhu Ge Ge 2", I found a very interesting detail:
Concubine Ling was pregnant, but at this time, the emperor was fascinated by The fragrance and disappeared day by day.
When Xiao Yanzi and Ziwei went to see LingFei, Lingfei lay there weakly and said that she was heavy and in a bad mood.
Ziwei said, "Please doctor," and Concubine Ling stopped her and said that it was not good to reach the empress, and the empress dowager should say that I was attracting attention. But in fact, it is meritorious for Concubine Ling to be pregnant with a dragon descent in the royal family, so what is the matter with asking a doctor?
Ziwei was very clever and began to comfort Concubine Ling.
But Xiao Yanzi was angry, and heard Concubine Ling say that it was too late for the emperor to go to the Baoyue Building, and if there was any kung fu coming, he ran over and quarreled with the emperor.
After the emperor slapped Xiao Yanzi, he also regretted it and hurried over to see Concubine Ling.
I have to say that Concubine Ling's trick is high! It is clear that the little swallow is pushed out to be a gun!
You see, it was Xiao Yanzi who was beaten, it was the emperor who was scolded, and the ultimate beneficiary was Concubine Ling.
What is even more amazing is that Concubine Ling is an image of deep understanding of righteousness from beginning to end, and she has a general understanding of the overall situation.
Everyone remembers only Xiao Yanzi's impulsive recklessness and the emperor's thin affection.
02
This reminds me of my own workplace experience, being shot by a colleague to offend people for her, and finally ending up full of wrongdoing and offending the boss, and then being excluded everywhere.
It's stupid to think that I've been working for 8 years at that time and haven't grown at all!
Here's what happened:
There were 3 people in the store, old employees Chen Jie, me, and another colleague Xiao Cheng.
Sister Chen said that she was an old employee, had rich sales experience, and wanted to make a contribution as a store manager as soon as possible, so she deliberately suppressed the two of us, grabbed customers at every turn, and pried orders.
Because I was the last, Sister Chen targeted me more. When I was bullied, I complained to Xiao Cheng, and Xiao Cheng comforted me, saying that she was really deceiving people too much, and told me that if I didn't want to be bullied, I could only go back.
Later, Xiao Cheng told me that Sister Chen said bad things about me in front of the boss, because she had just been criticized by the boss, so I believed in her words, and I had another layer of resentment towards Sister Chen.
After that, it was the infighting between me and Sister Chen, not giving in to each other, grabbing customers from each other, competing for performance...
In the end, Sister Chen proposed to leave, and the boss calculated the account to my head, saying that it was because I made the team atmosphere a miasma. I was naturally angry, but I quarreled with the boss again.
How miserable have I been after offending my boss? Targeted everywhere, excluded everywhere, without access to any core resources.
At this time, Xiao Cheng was trusted by the boss, who said that she cared about the overall situation and did not care, and also transferred her to another store as a store manager.
When I learned of this news, I suddenly felt that something was wrong, and after calming down, I understood:
In fact, the contradiction between Xiao Cheng and Sister Chen is even greater, but how smart she is, pushing me out as a gun, and making suggestions behind the scenes.
In the end, Sister Chen and I were both injured, one leaving and the other being excluded, and it was she who finally profited.
I admit that XiaoCheng is excellent, but I am still a little uncomfortable thinking about her use of me.
03
In the workplace, don't be too realistic, and don't be too dead-eyed, otherwise it is easy to be pushed out as a gun.
It may be a colleague who pushes you out, and you are a lone bird, and the result is:
The work is all done by you, the mistakes are all made by you, and it will also leave a bad impression on the boss that he does not know the general situation, does not care about the overall situation, is impulsive and reckless, and cannot do things.
The boss does not trust you, and you can imagine your future development. In the workplace, trust is always greater than ability.
Or it is the boss who pushes you out, you do something to offend the boss, the result is to get into a commotion, and in the end the boss will not recognize the account, do not fulfill the promise... You say, miserable or not?
So, what should we do in the workplace to avoid being shot?
- Talk less
Do not express opinions on things that have nothing to do with your own vital interests, do not take the initiative to disclose your privacy to others, and do not be overly enthusiastic.
Before saying every word, pass the brain.
It's a bit tiring, but these are really nothing compared to the trouble of saying the wrong thing.
It is said that the listener has a heart, perhaps it is that you inadvertently hear a sentence that is heard by someone with ulterior motives and distorted.
Or you inadvertently expose your personality weaknesses, such as impulsiveness, excessive kindness, and simplicity, which are easy to be exploited.
Remember that "it is better to be silent than to be silent".
2. Think more
If a person always easily affects your negative emotions, you have to be careful at this time, and don't be foolish to think that you have met someone who understands you.
This person who understands you the most is likely to have ulterior motives, just to stir up dissension, provoke your relationship with colleagues, provoke your relationship with your superiors, if you really believe, you will fall into the trap of the other party.
At this time, don't just worry about getting angry, think about it, why can this person's words always poke your heart? What was the purpose of his words?
Think calmly and you will have the answer in your heart, and you will avoid being shot.
There is a famous scene in "The Biography of Zhen Huan", An Lingrong just got the favor and gave Zhen Huan the clothes he was reluctant to wear to express his gratitude. Zhen Huan turned her hand and gave the clothes to her personal maid Huanbi, who was wearing clothes and waving around, just in time to be seen by An Lingrong.
An Lingrong didn't say anything, baojuan beside him said open, little lord, the clothes you yourself are reluctant to wear are casually given to the next person, what is this when you are? People don't take you seriously at all.
An Lingrong was already dissatisfied, and Bao Juan's words aggravated the gap between her and Zhen Huan, which was one of the reasons why she was betrayed by Zhen Huan.
Baojuan is really smart, and every sentence pokes into An Lingrong's heart socket, which can always affect her negative emotions.
But at this time, An Lingrong was immersed in it, and only felt that Baojuan was a loyal servant, and would not think about the essence of the problem at all, so he had been led by the nose.
3. Refuse to "wait and rely on"
There is also a kind of person who is also more likely to be used as a gun and used by others, this kind of person usually has a weak personality, and the dependence of "waiting for dependence" is too heavy.
When encountering things, the first thing to think about is not to solve them yourself, but to let others help solve them, and pin your hopes on others. But why should others help you?
For example, before I was bullied by grabbing orders, never thinking about the essence of the problem, and limiting my thinking to negative emotions.
Then I especially look forward to a person who understands me, when I feel that Xiaocheng understands me better, I pin my hopes on Xiaocheng, hoping that Xiaocheng will give me advice. Then, believe her words.
In fact, there is no savior in this world, and the only one who can save you is yourself.
The workplace is a big society, and how to survive in it is not an easy task. Hard skills you have to know, soft skills to learn, not to be used as a gun to make this, you have to deal with.
Finally, at the end, everyone said, have you ever been shot by someone?