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Hard work and indulgence can be said to be a kind of "binary opposition" in people's lives: after paying, there is capital to enjoy, and enjoyment is to some extent the purpose of hard work.
Of course, this antagonistic relationship is not static, for example, in the era when material resources are relatively scarce, people's values will often tend to meet material life first, at this time labor will become a major social activity, and industriousness is naturally a virtue emphasized by people; with the progress and development of society, enjoying life has gradually become a view of the current material world.
For example, the French philosopher and sociologist Jean Baudrillard in his book "Consumer Society" made a statement: in today's society, people are more inclined to show their quality of life through the means of consumption, and many times this situation is reflected in some "wasteful" behaviors in life.
I have to say that the concept of consumer society is actually the impact of the modernization process of society on the whole world, under such a premise, many individuals in society, especially some young people, will pay more attention to "enjoyment".
Professor Zhejiang University talked about the current situation of young people
Professor Zheng Qiang, who is currently the party secretary of Taiyuan University of Technology and one of the country's "Yangtze River Scholars", can be regarded as an "Internet celebrity" scholar, and he will express his views on many occasions through his true, profound, and even deafening voice.
When he was teaching at Zhejiang University before, Professor Zheng Qiang would often comment on some current social phenomena and express his views.
As early as 2005, Zheng Qiang, then deputy dean of the School of Materials and Chemical Engineering at Zhejiang University and head of the Department of Polymer Science and Engineering, had this statement in a speech on the campus of Zhejiang University: "In today's society, more and more young people would rather be Huang Shiren's third aunt than Yang Bailao's daughter-in-law in order to covet enjoyment." ”
In fact, the reason behind Zheng Qiang's statement is that after he once watched a drama in a theater, he saw such a situation: not far away, a family brought their young children to watch this play, and after the drama ended, the child asked his parents doubtfully: What did Huang Shiren do wrong?
Since he was owed money, Yang Bailao should pay it back. Why is it Yang Bailao who borrows money and does not repay it, people say that Huang Shiren is not right. In the face of young children's questioning, parents were dumbfounded.
This scene made Zheng Qiang fall into contemplation, and he believed that similar phenomena should cause more people to think. A very obvious problem is that there are already big problems in the education industry in our country.
Yang Bailao (lao) and Huang Shiren are the two protagonists of the modern opera "White Haired Girl" adapted from Jin-Cha-Ji folklore, the former is the exploited peasants in the old society, and the latter is the landlord class that exploits many peasants.
Behind Zheng Qiang's words, there is actually a hidden meaning: today's differences in people's concepts of status exist not only in the economic aspect, but also in terms of social status and class.
In order not to achieve the corresponding status through their own efforts, some people would rather change their life status through some "side doors" and the power of some classes.
This idea is not worth advocating, as is the case with the child: we should not only see the "creditor-borrower" relationship, but also the more important and fundamental "exploiter-oppressor" relationship, and the relationship behind it.
The three views have not formed a cognitive bias
Professor Zheng Qiang said that his statement is actually not out of thin air, but has a certain basis. For a period of time, the so-called "fox aunt wife" trend has risen on the Internet for a while, and many young women wear cheongsam and wear heavy makeup, and also stand in front of the mirror to take selfies, saying "Who doesn't want to be the aunt of a warlord gangster?" Obviously, such values are totally unworthy of promotion.
Professor Zheng Qiang said that even after the second decade of the twenty-first century, there is still such a trend in society, for example, with the rise of online shopping today, many people will become the chairman of some e-commerce platforms as "daddy"; similarly, a "rich second generation" will be called "husband"; and similar "warlord aunt wife" selfie style has made a comeback... Similar phenomena are not uncommon, in fact, behind the reflection is that in the process of education, education, especially family education, is insufficient or even lacking in shaping individual values.
From the perspective of social psychology, the "three views" of individuals - world view, outlook on life, and values are formed in the process of socialization, due to the indoctrination of elders, the shaping of the family, and the influence of the outside world.
In other words, the formation of the three views requires the joint shaping of multiple forces, just hoping on the family is unrealistic, at the same time, school education pays more attention to basic knowledge and quality education, and often has no time to take care of too much for the development of the "three views".
Putting aside these, the formation of the "three views" often requires the support of certain social experience. This is also why some elderly people think that "children will naturally understand things when they are older."
But the spread of values changes as societies change and the way knowledge is disseminated changes. For example, at a young age, whether at home or school, when talking about "ideals in life" or "the profession they most want to pursue when they grow up," most children will say "scientist," "inventor," and "great man" under the influence of their elders.
This is because under the background of the times at that time, science and technology was the first productive force in society, and great people were the figures that people admired, so in the eyes of minors, this was also the most respectable.
But nowadays, although many children are still in junior high school, they will have a kind of "I want to be an Internet celebrity" idea, because the status of technology is no longer valued as before.
At the same time, with the development of science and technology, young children will also be exposed to modern things such as mobile phones and live broadcasts, and at the same time, they will have envy for their high-income, seemingly bright and beautiful lives. At such a time, as an elder, you should actually intervene in time.
For a growing child, academic performance and usual performance are important, but the shaping of the three views is even more important.
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Reference: Jean Piaget Biographie. (2020, January 29).