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A while ago, an interview video of Cai Shaofen was on the hot search, and many mothers also saw through the defense!
In the video she mentions: I haven't slept in ten years.
Many netizens feel incredible about this, star mothers, not bad money and no shortage of nannies, why are they still so tired?
But Cai Shaofen is a mother who does everything herself, as long as she is a mother who takes care of her baby by herself, there is no one who is not tired.
From the birth of the eldest daughter to the birth of the younger son, three children, getting up in the morning and sleeping at night are all in charge of Cai Shaofen.
"Often at 4 a.m., my son shouted for a pacifier, and when he woke up, he couldn't sleep anymore."
In the morning, she has to get up at 5 o'clock and 7 o'clock at the latest, because the daughter has to eat breakfast made by her mother and asks her mother to tie her hair.
The long-term life with the baby also made Cai Shaofen's body fall a lot of problems, because she often held her son with one hand and fell on periarthritis.
Many netizens questioned: Are celebrities so tired? Where is the nanny? Why do you have to do it yourself?
But more is the resonance from the mothers, even if there is money and a nanny, but the child needs a mother, sometimes taking care of the child is not to say that people can replace it, especially the mother who does everything herself and worries about it!
In addition to the daily care of the baby, three children sleep, but also have to be coaxed by parents to sleep, in 10 years, 3 children, coaxed the eldest daughter to coax the second daughter, coaxed the second daughter and the younger son.
This is a hardship that only those who have experienced it really understand.
When I saw the hot search topic late at night, many sleeping mothers felt the same way, and the hardships of taking the baby could not be explained in two words, and sleeping was the most devastating of all the hardships.
"When you become a mother, you can put yourself to sleep, and then get up at 3 o'clock and wash and brush again."
"At 3:00 a.m., I just changed the baby's diapers and continued to sleep."
"A very real description, the baby in early childhood can not fall asleep on their own every day to hold and coax to sleep, the third child is to hone the mind."
Raising a baby is not easy, and sleeping is even more grinding, but for the mother, it is still painful and happy, just like Cai Shaofen said: it is really hard, but it is also very enjoyable!
It's hard to have a baby, it's hard to feed a baby
It's even harder to coax your child to sleep!
Coaxing a baby to sleep is definitely a five-star problem, and a child who can't sleep is simply a little demon, which will drive life crazy.
On Weibo, many mothers collapsed due to sleep.
"Coax the baby to a little more, before resting and pumping again, the husband snored to wake up his daughter again, and he wanted to start coaxing to sleep, it was really a good breakdown!"
"When the baby is not sleeping, she sleeps until she collapses, and when she falls asleep, she starts to lose sleep!"
"Who can tell me how to go to sleep, every day until I collapse, I am not angry, he does not sleep, I also want to control my emotions, ah, but the fire is angry!" 」
"Another depressed night by the baby, ten o'clock to sleep until twelve o'clock to fall asleep, during the collapse, yelling, fierce him, fierce and very self-blame, why should I have a baby!" 」
Between the lines, full of mothers' breakdowns!
Others are still teenagers after thousands of sails, and mothers spend everything just to coax the baby to sleep.
As long as you can let the little sleeping scum at home sleep peacefully and steadily, any method is worth trying!
So how to get the mothers out of the bitter sea of sleep, today's pregnant mothers to share some methods, hoping to take the mothers out of the bitter sea of sleep!
It is difficult for babies to sleep
In fact, there is a reason!
In fact, sleep problems are very common in children, especially in toddler and preschool babies, insomnia, bedtime fear, night terrors, sleepwalking and bedwetting can disturb the child's natural sleep patterns.
Many children's sleep problems are related to daytime behavior and bedtime habits.
Huang Lei once shared his experience of collapse and sleep, because the child's daytime activity is not enough, so in the normal bedtime, the child is still energetic and does not want to sleep.
So what are the specific reasons why it is difficult for children to fall asleep?
Not enough activity during the day and too much sleep. As Huang Lei said, if the child can "discharge" normally during the day, then at night he will "power off" and "charge" in time, or sleep too much during the day and the amount of activity is not enough, then the battery life will become longer.
Eating too much sugary food during the day, or watching TV before bedtime, can disrupt your child's sleep.
pressure. Children can also be stressed, usually from home or school, such as being bullied at school, or the family atmosphere is very tense (parents quarrel, etc.), and the pressure can make it difficult for children to sleep.
caffeine. Many sodas and energy drinks contain caffeine that can keep your child up from sleeping at night. Try to limit your child's intake after lunch. It is best to drink as few of these drinks as possible.
Other medical problems. It can be a sleep disorder, such as sleep apnea or restless leg syndrome, or it can be caused by nasal congestion, growth pain, or itchy skin caused by eczema caused by allergies.
Many factors can make it difficult to sleep, but as long as parents have patience, they can help children establish good sleep habits, help children fall asleep and maintain good sleep.
So how to let the child have a good sleep habit
Make it easier to sleep?
Before sharing ways to go to bed, moms need to know how long their babies sleep each day.
Children often need more sleep than adults to achieve optimal physical condition, and specific sleep schedules can be consulted by the American Academy of Pediatrics.
Sleeping enough every day is important for your child's health.
As the old saying goes: children sleep well, the body can be good, which is also the reason why parents coax their children to sleep on time every day, it is important to sleep well, and it is more important for children.
Studies have shown that children who get enough sleep on a regular basis can improve their attention, behavior, learning, memory, and overall physical and mental health.
Lack of sleep can cause a series of problems for children.
Lack of sleep can make a child grumpy, irritable, or overly emotional.
Inability to concentrate.
Bad spirits, absent-mindedness, poor concentration.
Difficulty getting out of bed.
I often feel sleepy earlier than normal bedtime.
Lack of sleep can bring a series of problems to a child's life, and at the same time, long-term lack of sleep can also lead to high blood pressure, obesity and even depression.
Two steps
Help moms fall asleep easily!
In fact, if you can train the baby's sleep habits, plus some sleep-coaxing skills, you can make it easier to sleep and make the baby sleep better, which is divided into two steps:
1. Establish a good bedtime routine
Make a sleep schedule. Let the baby go to bed at the same time every day, adhere to a fixed daily schedule, including the bath time before going to bed every day, change into comfortable pajamas, tell stories, drink milk, massage, do things to relax the baby, let these form a fixed habit, you can tell the baby that it is time to sleep at this point.
After your baby starts to have a circadian routine, you can try to help him establish a good bedtime routine, which is basically when the baby is 3-6 months old.
Have an awake but sleepy baby lie down to help your baby learn to fall asleep independently.
The benefit of establishing a good bedtime routine is to tell your baby through long-term persistence that it's time to sleep.
2. Ten ways to help your baby fall asleep
Every baby is unique, and your baby's sleep is related to many factors, such as age, health, physical development, stomach capacity, daytime activity level, feeding style, intake, personality, sensitivity to the environment, etc. There are also family factors and sleep environment that will affect your baby's sleep.
Therefore, there is no unified standard answer to help the baby fall asleep, each mother knows the baby best, and guiding the baby to sleep according to the baby's life habits is the most suitable way for the baby.
But these quick and easy ways to help make it easier to fall asleep, and moms can try:
Maintain a normal routine. Maintain the basic rules of the evening work and rest time. Keep the same bedtime routine every day, change diapers, feed, hiccup, and get back to your crib.
Turn off all lights. Light will definitely affect the baby's sleep, turn off the lights, the dark environment can help the baby to adapt to day and night, if necessary, choose a small night light, orange light is softer than blue white light.
Make sure the bed is only used for sleeping. Don't read or do homework in bed, or use bed as a punishment, use the bed only when sleeping, and let the child associate bed with rest and relaxation.
Make sure the bedroom is comfortable. Children will fall asleep more easily and better at comfortable temperatures, and if there is noise outside, white noise from a fan or sound equipment can help mask it. Make sure there aren't too many toys in your child's bed as these can distract your child from sleeping.
Don't let your child go to bed too hungry or too full. Eat small snacks (such as hot milk and bananas) before bedtime, but be careful not to overeat within an hour or two before bedtime, and limit caffeinated drinks.
Maintain enough exercise during the day. Regular exercise can make the baby fully discharged, recommend an hour of exercise every day, take the child to do outdoor sports, but also try to keep the child away from strenuous exercise within three hours before going to bed.
Take care of naps. Usually, children need at least 4 hours between sleeps before they get tired and take a nap again. Although different children have different needs for sleep, it is important to make sure that your child does not sleep too long or too close to bedtime at night.
Turn off the screen at least 2 hours before bedtime. Blue light from televisions, phones, tablets, and video games can disrupt the body's sleep/wake cycle and make it harder for people to fall asleep. Turn off these devices at least 2 hours before bedtime and leave them outside your child's bedroom while you sleep.
Reduce stress and fear before bedtime. Stress and fear can keep your child from falling asleep, and spending relaxing time with your child before bedtime helps your child relax.
Place your hands on your baby's chest before bedtime. If your baby is still awake or sleeping lightly, place your hands on your baby's chest for a few minutes. Gentle pressure can bring comfort and comfort to your baby, allowing him to settle down a little. Remember, it takes 20 minutes to achieve deep sleep.
The last thing to say is: establish good sleep habits for babies, focus on persistence, and occasional sleep problems will also pass.
However, if the baby has difficulty falling asleep more than 3 times a week in a few months and affects the baby's life during the day, this may be unexpected that the baby has insomnia or other sleep disorders, if there is a problem, be sure to talk to the pediatrician in time to rule out potential problems.
I hope every baby can sleep soundly and the body is great!
Reference articles
https://www.healthline.com/health/tips-get-your-kids-sleep#focus-on-relaxation
https://www.helpguide.org/articles/sleep/childhood-insomnia-and-sleep-problems.htm